I am so lonley inside. I got divorced a year ago and I don't know how to move on. I just work and go home. Does anyone feel like me out there? What do you do to make yourself feel better? I am going to church tomorrow.
2006-10-28 12:00:05 · 14 answers · asked by Dori 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry you're going through such a tough time right now and I really feel for you. I would suggest getting together with someone from work, even if its a night out at the movies, it's a start and you'll enjoy yourself. Start seeing friends out for lunch as an excuse to get out and be social (no better way to get comfortable than with people you already feel comfortable with. If you don't have someone you feel comfortable with you can always email me if you need to talk :)!!!)
I would also go and do something nice for yourself... whether you treat yourself to a massage, getting your hair colored or cut, even a few new shirts, do something that makes you feel good. When you do things good for yourself, it shows through.
People want to be with other people who are happy, and even though I know its hard try smiling a little more. If everyone sees you mopey all day they'll feel that if they hang around you enough it'll rub off. You want smilies to rub off on people and you want your confidence to shine through again.
2006-10-28 12:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by IceyFlame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
am not divorced but work away from home and understand what u are going thru. I fixed this by;
1- hardest moments are weekends: so i make sure am out of the house, call friends for outings, go out meet people, meeting new friends is even better. It is difficult in the beginning but you need to get used to making the first move sometimes.
Good luck.
2006-10-28 19:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by jackbauer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like some of your other answers, Pray, find something to keep you bust out the house and away from work, take weekend trips and maybe see a doctor for depression (it is more of a physical than emotional problem). I know how you feel, I have divorced yet but I sure am lonely. I'll pray for you, you pray for me.
2006-10-29 01:23:50 · answer #3 · answered by Rodney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT sometimes takes few tears to recover so you need to allow
time to pass.
Talk it out, but don't dwell on it.
Tell yourself, "I deserve better."
Lean on your support system church, family, friends.
Work on your future by taking a course or looking for a new job.
Get a makeover or a new wardrobe to help you feel better about yourself.
Find something nice interesting to do.
Read encouraging or inspiring books.
Clip or print out inspiration thoughts for the refrigerator door.
Don't be sentimental about the past.
Don't over-dramatize.
Don't be fatalistic.
Tell yourself "Better days are coming," because they are.
Good luck
2006-10-28 19:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dori I feel loneliness too like you it's infathomable , We have to have faith ! Faith Dori Faith ! Soul Print by Marc Gafni
" God Loves stories" Our story is our essence . To move beyond it would be to lose ourselves At least part of Foucault's method involves setting up a a highly exaggerated and idealized notion of an individual and then showing that it does not hold water.
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2006-10-28 19:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart I can totally relate :( i am learning to find my happiness and peace within myself
i will say a prayer for you tonight and tomorrow at church that God places you on someone's heart to reach out as a friend
loneliness is an awful feeling and leads to depression (been there done the prozac/counselor) and it helped and i am much more grounded now
my heart and prayers to you -- i do care :) and there is probably someone in your midst who does too open up and look around you will find someone to talk to and be friends with
Blessings to you
2006-10-28 19:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out with some friends. does your church have a single group ? if they do join that. do something that you always want to try but to scare to do it. do something that going to make you laugh. laughter is such a great medicine for being down. try something new. go shopping. talk to good friend about your fears or read a good book. things will get better with time. Just stay busy. good luck.
2006-10-28 21:33:26 · answer #7 · answered by olive_olive_72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i feel that way a lot, nothing makes me feel better apart from people being around me that way your not thinking and movies help.
but thats it, you said you just work and go home. you must keep busy, form a life have fun. do what you used to, be free again. do what you remember made you happy. its great you go to church, hang in. everyday you spend feeling alone, the'll be another 10 when you'll feel overwelmed by happiness.
2006-10-28 19:09:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Church is a good way to start.
2006-10-28 19:23:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. When I feel lonely I put on my favorite song and dance around the house. Pray you will feel better godd luck !!
2006-10-28 19:06:01 · answer #10 · answered by SexyB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋