we have been goning out four years now and i do believe she loves me but i have a very high sex drive but hers is getting lest and lest and i need more sex that this what sould i do and dos this happen to all women
2006-10-28 11:35:34 · 28 answers · asked by ssgambit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my age is 25 she is 23 and we r gettung married next year
2006-10-28 11:41:31 · update #1
It's common for women to lose interest in sex, but it could be down to lots of things. I am sure she probably still loves you, maybe the two of you need to just try new things. You could try talking to her to find out why she has lost interest and what she thinks would improve things. Find out what she really enjoys.
Other than the sex (or lack of it) are you still affectionate with each other? Women often need to feel loved and special to be in the mood for sex. Do you kiss lots during the day out of the bedroom, and hold hands, hug, share baths/showers, things like that?
Try a weekend away to rekindle the passion, and maybe try some toys and things from Ann Summers. I have no idea what your girlfriend is like, so don't be too adventurous at first. But I always say, couples that play together, stay together. Sex needs to be varied and fun to keep interest up, just like anything else. Good luck!
2006-10-28 23:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by Sophie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make anything about the sex. If you bring it up a lot she will think that's all you are with her for. Do nice things for her, I'm not saying buy her everything she wants, but cook her dinner, take her out to do things she likes without her having to ask. Try the simple stuff you did before you got into her pants the first time and go from there. If it doesn't work then just ask her "Are you still as sexually attracted to me as you were the first time we expressed our love physically in that way?"
2006-10-28 11:41:32 · answer #2 · answered by colera667 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she on birth control? I know many people say not to believe this but it can be true for a select few. Women have testosterone in their body's and that's what determines our level of sex drive, if we take BC with estrogen it can even that out or lower it causing a loss of sex drive. It's worth looking into. Also if a woman's feelings are hurt she can unconsciously deny you without knowing why or even that she's doing it. You need to figure out why. My guess is if that's it, she's looking for more of a commitment from you.
2006-10-28 11:40:56 · answer #3 · answered by do you know me? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't happen to all women, theres obviously something funny going on. At your age you two should be at it like bunnies, get another shag bit lined up first and give her the elbow.
Take it from someone much older my friend, women are like mobile phones - they are great when they are new and you really enjoy pushing all their buttons, but over time they get the odd dent and scratch and aren't the same anymore - thats when you cancel their contract and get an upgrade to a newer and usually thinner model that performs better.
2006-10-28 11:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by thecoldvoiceofreason 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her....but normally guys want it all the time...so the more you want it the less it seems for your gf to want it...maybe you should try to control your desire a little bit more...if you love your gf just for sex...you're not getting far in the relationship. It's been said that women's sex drive tend to go down hill in relationships...there's only two choices---> live with it or leave.
Maybe it's not your problem...but if you love her...sex shouldn't be the first thing in your mind
2006-10-28 11:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by Razz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont' say what generation you are. If you're old enough, your wife could be going through menopause. If this is the case, you need to do some research. She needs to possibly take some natural hormones to improve her sex drive, but you can expect it will go down for a few years. but it can come back.
2006-10-28 11:38:34 · answer #6 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't uncommon for the initial sex appeal of a relationship to fade. Also, if your girlfriend is taking The Pill, this could influence her sex drive.
Fortunately, relationships are about more than sex.
Still, if you two are not well matched in this department as far as your needs, then you need to re-evaluate whether this is the right relationship for you.
2006-10-28 11:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by Janet712inEngland 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly i'm no expert yet i be attentive to that usually u merely flow by like a dry patch whilst u do no longer choose for it as lots..a super form of the time it comes back yet u might desire to look at different factors in her life. If she has an outstanding little bit of rigidity occurring perfect now with family contributors or artwork or regardless of then it extremely is a factor of it
2016-11-26 01:18:16 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is more to life, than just having sex with your g/f. Have you thought of making love to her?, do you take her out?, do you have romantic times together?.
When you go to bed just hold her and make her feel special and be understanding.
You need to talk to her, and be understanding.
People go through different phases in their life, just show her how much you really care, instead releasing your testosterone.
I hope it all works for you
2006-10-29 00:41:33 · answer #9 · answered by BigD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont put so much pressure on her...and usually womens highest sex drive is in there late 20's early 30's i read that somewhere, and if you love her you wouldnt put so much focus on the sex, if you want to put her in teh mood then do special things for her, try new things in bed but most of all you should talk to her about it, figure out whats wrong and what you can do to fix it....
2006-10-28 12:11:21 · answer #10 · answered by Cassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋