something tells me he's preparing to do the same thing. he's a sneaky little devil, always picking fights to get out of the house. he's always doing mean little things to me, basically sending me through emotional hell. any advice.
2006-10-28 11:22:05 · 31 answers · asked by peggy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
couldnt hurt, may help you get over him more quickly
2006-10-28 11:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by mcs7942 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Are you looking to end your marriage or play a childish game of one-upmanship with your husband? Make up your mind about what you want to do.
1. If you want to end your marriage because you no longer love your husband, then leave him and make a clean break of it.
2. If you are looking to make him miserable and qualify yourself as a guest on Jerry Springer, then do that- though it's a completely ridiculous thing to do.
3. No, you shouldn't have anyone waiting in the wings. Would you want someone to use you like that?
Your idea is about doing nothing more than escalating the hell you accusing your husband of sending you through, and this makes you no better than him. If you want to play games with him, fine. But if you're ready to ditch him, why all the drama?
2006-10-28 11:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't have a man waiting . Find out who you are. I repeat: FIND OUT WHO YOU ARE, before you go jumping into another relationship. Get a job, get a place and be YOURSELF for a while . Get in touch with yourself again. Find that person inside that you have lost touch with and get to KNOW HER AGAIN. I'll bet that she's been missing you.......
And be sure you have scriptural grounds for leaving him. God hates a divorcing. You wouldn't want to offend the creator of the maffiage arrangement by just bailing on a marriage. Far too many people do that these days and never consider how God feels about it. HE performed the first marriage and deemed that marriage was to be forever between a couple. But , he also knows that today there are times when a couple just can't make it work. If you want to be 'free' in the eyes of God to remarry again, make sure you ARE free.
But hey, if HE leaves you first, Do like Ivanna Trump said " Don't get even! Get EVERYTHING! " LOL
2006-10-28 11:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by AGNES 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You shouldnt do that. File for temporary separation. Then see if he gets his act together cuz sneaky, lieing, and leaving the house after picking fights is an awfully bad sign and doubtful if he'll take to working things out unless you pull something realistic like a separation. If he doesnt come around to communicating kindly, patiently...get a divorce and move on. Sorry...Good luck and peace.
2006-10-28 11:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you have another man waiting in the wings unless he's already there or you are thinking about doing it. don't allow paranoia and suspicion to over come you. Wait till it manifest itself because if you look before you leap and that is not what he is preparing to do then guess who's the fool! always remember what is held in the dark will eventually come to light. never lower yourself to to do what your husband may or may not be doing keep your dignity and self respect and never go looking for a man the right one always shows up when least expected.
2006-10-28 11:48:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a Man should sit aside his wife , for any other reason than Adultury , He & the women he's with commits adultury. Wait it out . If he Cheats on you , than Divorce him .
And " NO " , don't have a man waiting on the side .
If you can't be happy living with yourself , How can anyone else be happy with you .
Learn to be Self_Suportive . Be happy with yourself wither your Single or with someone .
Your life here is Tempory . Heaven & Hell is Permenant .
Don't worry about being Happy here . Worry about being happy there .
My Favorite saying is :
Don't RISK your Permenant ( After life ) for your Temporary ( life on earth )
You'll be fine , if you just have faith that GOD doesn't let anything happen by Accident . EVERYTHING happens for a reason .
Shawn Lamprecht
shawn_lamprecht@yahoo.com
2006-10-28 11:43:07 · answer #6 · answered by shawn_lamprecht 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most wives and as a matter husbands try to save marriage. You both should too. Counseling might be a good way to help you to get along as husband and wife. Marriage counseling where you and your husband is involved. The counselor could give you two ideas on how to make you both reconsile difference abd stop arguing that you may have never thought about. Think about that.
2006-10-28 11:30:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no! If you are ready to walk, don't get involved with emotional entanglements that will just complicate matters.
Do an assessment of your mutual assets and liabilities and then make a plan to move forward.
No other men until you are not out of this man's bed and your mutual home.
2006-10-28 11:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by anirbas 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just leave. Then you'll find a man. If you start fooling around you'll be losing your marriage and self respect. Although things aren't going well you made a commitment. So make a clean brake and the seek another man.
2006-10-28 11:24:59 · answer #9 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A man waiting in the wings? The only reason I can think for this is to salve your own conscience.
Just be a "man" and do it - it will hurt him far more and he will not be able to tell everyone what a hussy you were when you left for A N Other.
2006-10-28 11:26:07 · answer #10 · answered by steven b 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wel..having a guy inb the wings might put peolpe's perceptions of the situation in an odd way. I'd have friends around...but as for another significant other..i'd bide your time..if your man is the jerk you say..he'l be with another woman in no time..then he's going to appear the looser...leaving you the oppurtunity to find a close friend for "solace" :)
2006-10-28 12:48:58 · answer #11 · answered by bald_guy69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋