My husband works for a car dealership. He comes home at night and dumps pieces of paper out of his pockets in piles all over the house. When I throw out papers he gets mad at me and tells me they were important. If they were that important shouldn't they be organized and not in crumpled up piles? I am tired of looking at his stupid piles of papers and not knowing what to do with them. What would you do? While you are at it maybe you can tell me how to get him to put his dirty dishes in the sink and his dirty clothes in the laundry room. I am tired of looking at his dirty socks all of the time! Help!
2006-10-28 11:08:47 · 19 answers · asked by Jules 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give him a drawer for his pocket stuff. At the end of the day he empties his pockets into the drawer and you don't have to see it or deal with it. When the drawer gets so full that he can't find anything, or close it, he has to clean it out.
Tell him that any dirty dishes that don't get put into the sink don't get washed, they get put into his drawer (or on his desk or other personal space) and he can wash them himself. Same thing with the dirty socks. It won't take long before he gets with the program.
2006-10-28 11:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by coffeytalk.com 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Get him some nice baskets, one to throw the junk out of his pockets into, and one for his dirty clothes, then put the baskets in the locations that he usually dumps his stuff......
Do get molly maid until he no longer needs a mother.....and let him know he'll be paying for it...
Sorry to say but lots of men have serious character flaws and much worse habits so consider yourself lucky. Maybe the real problem is that he has become annoying and his sloppy ways are an easy target of complaint. You sound mad so it might be a good idea to search for the real reason before you blame your divorce on dirty socks.
2006-10-28 18:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by Share 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About the laundry: my husband did that, he left all his dirty clothes where ever he took 'em off. I told him if he won't put 'em in the hamper they are not getting washed. It took about 10days and he ran out of clothes he got mad at me and I told him again he had to put them in the hamper. No more dirty clothes on the floor for me now. For those papers I'd suggest a big basket or a big bowl (wood or something else nice) close to the door where he can empty all his papers in. My husbands helps with the dishes, so I can't help you there.
good luck to you
2006-10-28 18:21:19 · answer #3 · answered by maice06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband comes home from work and throws all of his stuff on the counter, the floor, and the kitchen table. It drives me insane as well, so I decided to give him a designated place to put all of his stuff when he comes home, so it doesn't get in the way, and our son can't get a hold of it. Have you ever tried putting a basket on the counter and letting him empty his pockets into that? As for the dishes and laundry...I have no idea. My husband has always been pretty good about those two things, so I can't give you advice in that area. Good luck!
2006-10-28 18:16:16 · answer #4 · answered by Megan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what my wife did...I used to do the same thing but not with just paper. It was my pocketknife, wallet, keys, notes from work...just whatever. When I woke up to go to work the next morning I couln't find anything.
Buy him a small basket or any kind of plastic container and ask him to empty his pockets in that whenever he gets home from work. that way he can keep all his little notes or whatever and you can keep a clean house.
As far as the dishes and laundry...he should respect his house and his wife better then that. I for one don't want to live in a nasty house.
2006-10-28 20:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think there are worst things you could be going through. Have you heard some of the questions asked on this site? As far as his paper, make a little tray or keepsake box to put, maybe, by the front door and make him aware that it is for his keys and papers. For the clothes, where ever he gets undressed (bathroom, bedroom, etc.), put a hamper in that particular area. Now for the dishes, you might just have to suck that one up and put them away for him because I still haven't been able to resolve that one myself. Be thankful that he is working, coming home, and the only problems you have is him being a little sloppy.
2006-10-28 18:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by shellese2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband is a service tech, and when he empties his pockets, there are bits and bobs of electronic gear scattered to the four winds. I have pried more anonymous hunks of metal out of my feet over the past 30 years than I care to think about.
Try buying him a nice container that's big enough to hold his paperwork and place it near the door where he usually comes in. Tell him that if he promises to put the contents of his pocket in that basket or box, you will never throw out anything as long as it's in there. If it's anywhere other than that, it's fair game as dustbin fodder.
The dirty dishes and socks -- uh, 'fraid you're on your own there. I've never had any success in getting my husband to pick up either one of those things.
2006-10-28 18:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by Wolfeblayde 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My i do the same thing so my wife got me alittle note pad that i can easily keep in my back pocket, then when i write something down i just put it on there instead of 800 little pieces of paper......
Still only works about 50% of the time, but im trying......
2006-10-28 18:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by BPZ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sure don't know how to break him of these bad habits, since I've been married 33 years and my husband still does this stuff.. I just decided it wasn't worth fighting over. If it gets too bad, and I can't stand it, I clean it up. One time a deposit certificate for 2OK was on an end table with a pile of junk, and guess what? I burned it. He was aggravated--had to order another certificate, but he still does same stuff, so I give up.
2006-10-28 18:12:54 · answer #9 · answered by krautlover2u 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have the same problem(not a problem)get a basket for his important papers and keys and things..pilfer the change for doing this for him..save it for a rainy day for you..as for clothes and socks..get him to install a laundry shoot from up stairs..ta da a guy who likes to drop his clothes down the shoot for you..honey its those little things that you shouldn't be sweating about OK ...there are solutions
2006-10-28 18:15:13 · answer #10 · answered by Ken and Wendy M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋