my friend is dying of cancer?

Question

it was her decision not to take the treatments anymore. she didn't want to suffer anymore. she just want the pain to go away. i haven't visited her seen she told everyone......i am so upset with her on her decision. i don't want her to make that. but she already made up her mind. am i being selfish because all of these. or just i let her go

she lived a great life but now she's throwing it all away because of her cancer. she doesn't want to get help with it. i don't want her to go. not yet.

Answer 1

I can understand that she does not wanr chmotherapy or surget.
But is she aware that there are alternative ways of dealing with cancer?

They will certainly do something towards extending her life, and reducing the pain.

I have always believed that the mainstream medical industry is not interested in finding a cure for cancer because it makes too much profit with its present barbarous methods.
Eventually, I came across a detailed report which agreed with my findings, and I have included it in my web page at

http://dgwa1.fortunecity.com/body/cancer.html

By reading this report, you will also convince yourself that it is best to ignore the mainstream cancer industry, and seek alternative cures. Also you should bear in mind that the medical industry will do anything to protect its profitable position, including disparaging alternative healers or even creating bogus court cases.

I believe that cancer is a whole body thing, which in 80 percent of cases manifests itself by producing symptoms in the weaker parts of the body, and therefore appearing localised. It is this treatment of symptoms instead of cause which creates the profitable, yet non-successful approach of mainstream medicine.

Some cures are listed on the web page too.

It is therefore obvious that a holistic approach is required, based on cleansing, diet, exercise and debugging.

CLEANSING
The best way of cleansing is to fast.

http://www.phifoundation.org/menses.html
http://www.healthy.net/scr/article.asp?ID=1996

but if a patient is too weak for that, or does not fancy the idea, then alternative cleanses are available.


Colon Cleanse
http://www.soundfeelings.com/free/colon_cleansing.htm#recipe
Bowel cleanse
http://www.curezone.com/schulze/herbal_colon_cleanse_1_2.asp
kidney cleanse
http://www.curezone.com/cleanse/kidney/default.asp
http://www.ehow.com/how_12678_kidney-cleansing-fast.html
http://www.falconblanco.com/health/cleansing/kidney.html
http://www.healingdaily.com/colon-kidney-detoxification.htm
http://www.healthfree.com/cleansing_programs_kidney.html
Liver cleanse
http://www.drclark.net/en/drclark_protocol/illnesses/liver_cleanse.php
Gallbladder cleanse
http://www.curezone.com/cleanse/liver/default.asp
http://www.curezone.com/cleanse/liver/huldas_recipe.asp
Pancreas cleanse
http://curezone.com/dis/1.asp?C0=261

DIET,
The best diet is vegetarian, avoiding all processed, frozen or micro-waved foods and drinks, and based on fresh fruit, fresh vegetables - preferably organic, nuts and seeds. Drinks should be clean water or freshly squeezed orange juice.

Many researchers promote the benefits of vitamin B17 as a healer. this can be found in the following foods:
Apple seeds, alfalfa sprouts, apricot kernels, bamboo shoots, barley, beet tops, bitter almond, blackberries, boysenberries, brewer’s yeast, brown rice, buckwheat, cashews, cherry kernels, cranberries, currants, fava beans, flax seeds, garbanzo beans, gooseberries, huckleberries, lentils, lima beans, linseed meat, loganberries, macadamia nuts, millet, millet seed, peach kernels, pecans, plum kernels, quince, raspberries, sorghum cane syrup, spinach, sprouts (alfalfa, lentil, mung bean, buckwheat, garbanzo), strawberries, walnuts, watercress, yams.

A commercial preparation of B17 is available called Laetrile.

EXERCISE
Exercise should be sufficient to create a sweat, but not sufficient to make you gasp for breath or feel over-tired. About one hours exercise every day is best.

DEBUGGING
There are various theories about how bugs create cancer.

Hulda Clark suggests that parasites are the cause, and that they can be disposed of by using a zapper.

Zappers are available from

Super Zapper DeLuxe
http://www.drclark.net Clark Zapper with amazing features get a free CD ROM

http://www.paradevices.com/zapper_works.html

Terminator Crystal Orgone Zapper Blood Purification Parasite Solution
Electrical stimulation devices for blood purification, parasites, relaxation, and addictions.
http://www.elixa.com/estim/zap.htm

High frequency parasite zapper. Includes product description and benefits.
http://www.ess-in.com/

Answer 2

Look it's nice you want her to live still, but you must respect her decision. If she does not want the treatment then let her. Some people don't want to suffer anymore or go through pain. I know she's your friend, but sometimes you have to let go. Your not being selfish. Only I don't like hearing that your not visiting her anymore ever since she told everyone that. If she is a friend of yours then you would respect her decision and still visit her and stay by her side. A friend does not let a friend alone when he or she is going through hard times in life. Other then that I'm sorry to hear about your friend dying from cancer. My prayers will be going out to you and her.
Peace out!

Answer 3

I know how you feel, I lost a friend to cancer 3 years ago. It was hard seeing her go through all of the surgeries and treatments, go into remission, and later find out it had spread to another part of her body (cervical, stomach, finally lymph nodes). She was 32 years old when she passed. I know it may sound selfish on your part not wanting her to stop her treatment, but it is her decision. All you can and should do is stand by her side, be there for her, and support her decision, but most of all, pray with her, that is what she needs of you right now. And if you haven't talked to her or visited her since she made her decision, then you better go see her, because you don't know how much time she has left, and you will regret it for the rest of your life if you don't have the chance to say good bye before it's too late.

Take care.

Answer 4

This is when your friend needs you the most r u crazy. It may not be the best decision ever, but shes made it. What do u think that's going on in her mind. More than you could ever imagine. She really needs you more than ever. Sit and talk with her. Let her know how u feel and why u haven't visited. Make your peace, you may regret it, possibly when its too late. Visit her soon. Hope all goes well.

Answer 5

I understand where you're coming from. This is so hard for you, I'm sure. It's hard to answer your question completely, but it depends on what kind of cancer your friend has and how much it has spread as to whether the treatments can help anymore. I can understand her decision, and I'm sure it's one she isn't taking lightly.
As for you, since you're her friend, you don't have to like her decision, but you should stand by her and let her know you are there for her. Sometimes the treatments can no longer help people, and trying to keep them comfortable for as long as they have left here on earth is all we can do. Don't be afraid to ask her about her decision, but don't be judgemental or critical. Ask only if you really are asking to understand. Talking about her faith in God or whatever may help her also. Don't isolate yourself from your other friends or family either. You'll need them to lean on later. I think you'll be glad you did what you could to help her through this. Good luck, and hang in there.

Answer 6

Im sure she must have thought about it. I highly doubt she just decided it within a minute or too. Whatever she wants to do, support her. I know that if it was me, I would much rather die being in the hands and company of my family and friends rather than live a bit longer suffering. If you love her, you will let her go. Visit her often and dont talk about the decision she made, rather talk about things you want to remember and talk liek friends.

Answer 7

:( that must be a really tough decision she made. its her decision and you should be supported even if it hurts you so much. you don't want her to suffer. you don't want her parents to suffer. and i know you don't want suffer because of this. your not being selfish. your just being a good friend. she is doing this because of the pain. she thinks she is giving pain to you and to everyone that she cares. be there for her at her dying moment. don't be upset. be there for her. when she dies you know you made the wrong decision not being there. be there for her.

Answer 8

I know this must be really tough on you, I am really sorry :[. but you should respect her decision, and cherish every second of every day you get to see her. If she has lived a good life that's all you can ask for. And you don't have to let her go. After she has passed away you can remeber her in photographs and pictures. Your friend will always be in your ♥ and you will see her in heaven. So don't worry, and just be thankful for each and everyday God has given you and your friend together! :]

Answer 9

My mother had pancreatic cancer. I typically visited her every two or three days. One day she sent for me and I knew it wasn't going to be good. She explained that she wanted to see me because she needed to ask my permission to die! She was exhausted and in pain constantly and just wanted to let go.

My heart didn't want her to go but the answer had to be yes. It wasn't my body riddled with cancer. It wasn't my body in pain 24 hours a day. It was hers. How could I ask her to keep enduring that if I loved her. I had to let go. She died the following weekend.

Your friend sounds like she's in a similar situation. If you love her, let her go. But be there for her. Make your last days with her memorable.You'll have those memories to keep.

If you don't go back to her now, you'll regret it for the rest of your life and your friends passing will be more difficult knowing you weren't there for her.

I know what you're going through. But she needs you now more than ever.

Answer 10

As hard as it is she has made up her mind to not fight anymore. Your not being selfish she is your friend and none of us want to let our friends or family go but its what she has decided she doesnt want to feel the pain anymore. So go see her before its to late.

Answer 11

First of all this is not about you so you need to get your butt over there and visit her.Your not in her shoes so you don't know what it is like haveing all those kemo treatments.You really don't have any right to judge her on how she wants to finish her life.By u not being there for her that is exactly what u are saying to her.Not only that this is the time she really needs everyone and where are you?If she dies tomorrow you will never beable to forgive yourself. So I insist you really think about what you are doing.