I am 19 years old and me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. we are both virgins. We're not technically waiting until marriage, we are just taking it slow because we have seen many relationships get negatively affected by sex. i feel like i want to have sex but I'm scared that it will change our relationship because many people tell me that we are going to grow up and realize that we havent had much experience and im worried that having sex will begin making one of us want to experience it with other people. please help.
2006-10-28 10:51:35 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
that is BS, do not let other people pressure you into doing something that is not right for you. they are probably just jealous that you have a good relationship and shared values.
2006-10-28 10:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just keeping holding out on sex until you get married, you will not regret waiting. Your wedding night will be wonderful because you did wait. Sex is one way that couples express their love for each other. But you also have to have a lot of affection in the relationship as well. And another thing, you said that you are afraid that if you have sex now that you are afraid that it will begin making one of you want to experience it with other people, that is not true at all IF you both love each other enough. When two people truly do love each other they WILL NOT want to go looking for sex somewhere else. That crap that people say when they have cheated on their mates, that they loved them and didn't want to hurt them, that is for the birds. If you love your mate enough, you will not want to be with another person for any reason what so ever.
2006-10-28 11:17:26 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Very good question...and nice to hear that both of you have waited this long. That takes a strong will. Neither one of you will really be able to predict which way your relationship will head once you have sex. The best bet would be to talk about it before you have sex. If you two really loved each other already, then the sex would just be icing on the cake; just as long as you don't start doing anything different in your relationship once you have sex. Hope it works out for you.
2006-10-28 10:56:29 · answer #3 · answered by DJ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The point of a male female romantic relationship is usually sex. Some relationships are based on it or end once it enters the relationship (without it). Some only see it once then refuse it. Long term or short a relationship is a constant negotiation. And changes all the time no matter what.
2006-10-28 10:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I lived together before we were married and everyone thought we were doing the deed from the start but we actually lived together for six months before we actually did. Am I glad we waited? Yes. To me it just takes your relationship to another level. But yes it does also changes things.
2006-10-28 11:06:50 · answer #5 · answered by lookingfor_mrrightnow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex makes relationships more enjoyable, and it's a way for women to control men. Sooner or later, you're going to want to have sex, whether you do it now or later is up to you.
2006-10-28 10:54:51 · answer #6 · answered by bloodsanctum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its marriage you are really looking out to then hang on, food tastes well only when completely cooked...
2006-10-28 10:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sameer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have sex only when you both feel you are ready...remember...your body is yours to decide...period!
2006-10-28 10:55:43 · answer #8 · answered by serengeti 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋