These are all his properties. i know he is not good for me, i know it deep down in my heart. i have tried hard to save my marriage but i think i wont be able to do that for long. I'm American and he is asian. I'm proud to be an american, i cant help it ;-) I guess he is jealous of the fact that i'm USA citizen. I dont know how could i be so trapped by his personality, whenever i try that i should leave him; something stops me. may be i can't get over the fact that i was in love with him. I loved him wholeheartedly. He has totally shattered my personality. I stress and stress. i 'm trying to be strong and thats why i'm here. i think i need to make lot of friends so i can feel better. i need to be around people. I'm all alone. I'm in uk right bz he is a student here. so it is kind of hard to get a job here as a foreigner. but i'm gona give it the last shot to this relationship and if it doesnt change, i have to move on. i already feel the sick feeling inside of me. hope you understand
2006-10-28 10:50:44 · 9 answers · asked by mind 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What is a "whatsover"?
Those are not "properties" but either character traits or bad qualities.
First impressions are important and your first two sentences show me (a) a lack of education and (b) a lack of attention to detail. Sorry, I'd side with your hubbie as bad as he is. You sound like someone who has no clue.
If you can financially handle it on your own, divorce him and go back to school. If not, figure it out among friends, family and maybe lawyers. Geez, get a grip, girl!
2006-10-28 10:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by fugutastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh god he should divorce you for being so full of yourself, he probably had the affair to stimulate his mind and soul. Oooh whoopee you're an American and he is an Asian what has that got to do with anything? He is in the UK according to you and According to me London is the centre of the planet and he is studying what are you doing besides being an American? Nobody can shatter your personality except you. Poor Asian what was he thinking, he married a highly strung immature self centered female who blames him for everything that goes wrong in her life. I am sure he and all of England pray everyday that you leave him to go back to America. If all you are is an american then there is nothing he can do but to feel jealous of that it does not sound like he can be jealous of much else. That sick feeling inside of you is a sign that you should seek help. Maybe prozac. And what is a whatsoever? And his properties? He must have loved you to marry you.
2006-10-28 18:20:00 · answer #2 · answered by Chillypepers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this is going to sound very racist, but I am being very sincere and have seen this same thing with a friend of mine that was married to an asian. Most asian men feel superior to women and feel that they can do whatever they want, such as cheat etc, and the woman shouldn't say anything about it, if you were to cheat, he would be furious and probably do something to hurt you, but since it is him cheating, it is okay in his mind. If you don't want to stay in the UK, see if you can save up enough for a flight home ( I flew to London and back to California for $500 last year so I know you can find a cheap flight) or see if your family here would be willing to pay for your ticket home. If you don't have any family to help you, just take whatever job you can get, even as a waitress or something and save up your money until you can move out on your own.
2006-10-28 17:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by hargonagain 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am not sure what you mean about him being a "hypocrite and whatsoever", but if he has cheated on you, then you can feel 100% good about divorcing him.
divorce is hard, and not something to jump into if you feel like you have not exhausted all other options, such as counseling etc, but sometimes that is what needs to happen.
many a statistic and study has shown that divorce is harder than a bf/gf breakup because of the vows you took when you married him and the fact that you feel like you are failing and many other emotions, but like i said if he is a cheater, then there is only so much you can take. its understandable for you to feel aprehensive but MY GOD! he CHEATED ON YOU! disgusting!!!!
2006-10-28 17:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry a foreigner in the first place, and if you knew where you were going to live before you got married don't blame him for that, There is two sides to every story . I heard their actually 3 sides to every story his side her side and the RIGHT SIDE.
2006-10-28 18:10:26 · answer #5 · answered by tiny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop wasting your time,get out before its to late I think you know what I mean, Make sure you tell some people what your doing and when just in-case!!!
2006-10-28 18:06:35 · answer #6 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has beat you down emotionally and you need to get away from him, come home to the US, your family and friends will embrace you. Yes you need to be around people who love you and it's not with your husband...
2006-10-28 18:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by Ladeebug71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him your ex as soon as possible....then get your fanny back home asap..
2006-10-28 18:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by Dirtydog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so why are you asking us, why not ask your attorney as it sounds like youve given up
2006-10-28 18:21:32 · answer #9 · answered by paulisfree2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋