Why would someone do this?

Question

When I was thirteen, this girl from my school added me to her msn, to talk to me, as someone else. She pretended to be this seventeen year old guy, whom I told everything to. I found out about six months later that she had been telling everyone at my school all my secrets, so I wrote her an extremely hateful letter. Why would someone do this?

She had everything- popularity, money and good marks at school, were as I was basically the opposite. She called me and apologised, but I don't get why someone would do this?

I don't think it would have been jealousy or anything. What would motivate someone to bring someone down like this?

Don't worry, I'm alot more careful now! This was a few years ago now though.

Answer 1

You know, that's horrible what that girl did....but this is one of many other horrible things immature people do. And if you want to know the reason why they do it...there's no real reason for doing what they do. They don't reason because they're just ignorant, so it doesn't matter what their reason is...the best thing is for you not to become one of them and do the same thing they do.

You're smarter than they are to know what's wrong and right. These people just want ATTENTION, so don't give them any. IGNORE them the best that you can, and you'll WIN without doing anything.

If someone do bad things to you...they expect you to react certain ways...like getting mad or be embarrassed...sometimes these kind of people find it fun for them....if you get mad or embarrass that's just mean they're getting what they want from you.
WHY would you let that happen?

Answer 2

Well...I know you learned a good lesson here....don't trust anyone you haven't met on the internet...people always pretend to be someone else......you'll learn that even on the singles services people lie and use other peoples identities.
Why a 13 year old girl would do something so inappropriate and absolutely dreadful proves that her popularity will not last.......life will catch up with her and she will learn soon enough. Here's a good thought......many people who are very popular in high school....you know the football jocks, cheerleaders, etc....end up being the unsuccessful ones later on in life.
Believe me....this girl will not get too far in life. I have forgotten how mean teenagers can be..............don't worry about the other kids in school....I'm sure that these kids know what kind of person she is.....after all she had to tell them what she did...right? Others will catch on.....and remember, if they are not talking about you...you are not that interesting after all.......

Answer 3

Maybe she's jealous of you-kinda ironic, I know, but hey, it's possible. Sometimes the "goody goody" people wanna be bad for once, or at least do something without worrying if people will still respect them when they were good.
Another thing might be that maybe she was going through some issues in her life that you don't know about.

At least she apologized, even if she could've done it sooner. Just be glad she did though-because there are some people who do worse and NEVER say sorry. Accept the apology if it's sincere and now you know not to tell a stranger stuff you wouldn't tell the people at school.

Answer 4

Even though it may sometimes appear like others have everything they really don't, something is always missing. She was probably trying to gain more friends and it got out of control. That doesn't excuse her behavior but it does explain it. Just know that whatever secrets of yours were exposed, you are still the same person you were beore and as long as you are ok with that that's all that matters. P.S. You should tell her, as a future reference and seriously, "You don't have to blow out someone else's candle to make yours glow more brightly."

Answer 5

Sounds like she did it for the attention. Yes she might be popular and all but still I've seen girls like that do things for attention. They seem to love it for some reason. But it wasn't right on her part at all. But at least you got a apology out of her. Next time you talk to someone on line make sure you know who they are or don't give out information you'd want them to share with others.

Answer 6

Some people do hateful things to people for no reason you can be the sweetest thing but they don't care. Sometimes people do mean things to make them selves feel better or try to win people around them when the truth is there really lonely thereselves.
That was pretty mean of her to do you like that, and i am sorry it happened

Answer 7

She seems like a sick, selfish, pathetic person who enjoys bring down those she feels is below her. All "popular kids are like that. It's not your fault. If popular kids kno w your deepest secrets they will stop at nothing to embarrass you and hurt you while having no compassion.

Answer 8

Just plain and simple hatefulness, that's what it comes down to. Apparently, she had nothing better to do but to act like a low life and embarrass you to make her feel better about herself. Remember, it's a dangerous world out there, you need to be a little more careful who you are chatting with, and only give your email to your close friends.

Answer 9

a sick psychological disorder

sad pathetic person to do such a thing

not unusual though

there are other people who have had really weird things like this done to them

this is why it is so important to know who you are dealing with to know who you can trust...never give your real name online

Answer 10

I don't know why someone would do that! You shouldn't tell someone you don't know your secrets.