2006-10-28 10:27:44 · 10 answers · asked by purpleone726 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Thanksgiving
Forgiveness is a start. Tell them that you love them. That will smooth a lot of things out. Ask for Gods gidance and advice. God will help you out.
2006-10-28 13:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by somebody 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't mess up your holidays by working and cooking for the in-laws, this is an idea , how you can still have dinner with them and force them to be at there best behavior, have dinner at a very nice Restaurant, I doubt that even the most obnoxious in-laws would make a scene there - and go dutch. You don't need to cook and by going dutch, it will be reasonable, after the dinner they can go to there homes or hotel and you can go to yours and all will be well, there is no law, that you have to put your relatives or in-laws up for the holidays. E-Mail them a list of excellent Hotels and ask them to make there reservation early, since you can't put them up this year. I have the feeling they will not show up and you are free at last to enjoy your holidays.without being made feel guilty, you did everything you could to accompany them, therefore it is not you fault they chose not to come and visit. Good Luck.
2006-10-28 10:41:32 · answer #2 · answered by mimi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I may have somewhat of a different attitude on this than you do. BUT I am in a somewhat similar situation. I just say Dinner is being serrved at Tehn I give a time and tell them it would be nice if you could join us and the rest of the family here. I do this on all major holidays. And a few cookouts during the summer too. It works for me. Good Luck,
2006-10-28 10:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to answer unless we know who's holding the grudge and what the disagreement was about. What I don't understand is why people try to repair old wounds during the holiday season. Just forget about it for now and in January or February when there's nothing that can be destroyed by rejection and see then if you can work things out. It's pathetic the way people set themselves up for disappointment during the holidays. Then by next year if things work out, all will be forgotten and the holidays will be stress free.
2006-10-28 12:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are the hurts over? Are they understanding people? And if they can't accept you for who you are faults and all I say screw them. I can guarantee that they have a couple of skeletons. But don't ask you husband to chose, cause blood is thicker than water. I don't care who you are.
2006-10-28 10:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by Kenya F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it usually helps to have an idea of what your hurts are....anyway one of you has to be the bigger person in the situation and swallow your pride even if its hard...maybe you should take first initiative and invite your in-laws over....sometimes a few kind words can get people back on good terms
2006-10-28 10:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by ELIZY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a home made invatation asking them to come ,letting them know you miss them dearly,and family just isn;t unless you are all together,[a home made invatation shows you are putting forth effort into the relationship and you care very much]good luck happy holidays
2006-10-29 11:12:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Please visit my 360 blog and read the one titled...Friends, Sand and Stone. Maybe it will give some food for thought. Hope that your hurts can be healed this holiday season.
2006-10-28 12:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by arthurbel33 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make your own tradition call up friends or family and set your own build more memories..
2006-10-31 13:14:45 · answer #9 · answered by sammy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What were the hurts? Need more information.
2006-10-28 10:31:05 · answer #10 · answered by lady01love 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋