my husband is always good around other people like his friends, relatives, parents and colleague. But he is never good with me. He takes care of other people besides me. No one can say that he is bad person bz he always treats everyone right besides me. If he has to spend money on me; he sometimes minds it. For example, whenever we for shopping he has dilemma on everythin i buy; he says i dont know how to buy the right stuff. I really feel bad when he does that, i feel like a coward. But he can spend lots of money on his friends or relatives. he cares so much for his parents and siblings. he treats me like an outsider. he has never given me anything. i married him out of good intensions. why does he treat me so differently? is that he hates me or he has no place for me in his heart. He has also a problem with me putting on the make up. he says i should not wear make up and sometimes he even picks on the way i dress up. it makes me crazy. he thinks that what he says is right. help me pl
2006-10-28 10:22:02 · 37 answers · asked by mind 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get the book "Power of a praying wife" by Stormie Omartian...Really good book.
Go to a Christian church and talk to the pastor.
It will do you so much good. Trust me. It did for me.
John 3:16
16 "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life
I pray the Lord leads you to do the right thing.
2006-10-28 10:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Basically your husband is abusive . It is mental abuse. Abuse doesn't have to come in the form of physical beatings. He is trying to belittle you so much that he is making you feel like you are inferior to him. The real truth behind it is that he is the inferior one. For him to tell you not to put on make up is that he feels that you are too pretty and he will not get noticed. What he doesn't realize is that you will leave after time and your self esteem will be so degraded that you will not have a good relationship. You need to get some counseling. Let your husband spend all he wants on others. You go to the bank and start depleting the account into a secret account. Then move out without him knowing you are moving. One day when he comes home everything will be gone except the note and divorce papers.
2006-10-28 10:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by steve s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time for a little sit-down chat with the hubby. First of all, tell him how you feel. Then ask him about a budget of some kind that you both agree to.
If he had no problem with makeup before you married, ask him why it is a problem now. If he just doesn't like a new style you've tried, tell him you need money for a stylist ;-)
If he had a problem with makeup before you married, you can't change him now.
You two are in a power struggle. Time to stop that and do some power-sharing.
2006-10-28 10:35:56 · answer #3 · answered by booktender 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt sound good for you right now what is wrong with your husband? And if you want to wear makeup and look nice you go for it. If he loves you he wouldnt treat you like this talk to him and if things dont get better well you do what you have to do. My husband is the same way he makes the money so when I want something its the end of the world and he always gets whatever when he wants it.
2006-10-28 10:57:58 · answer #4 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has all the characteristics of an abuser. They put on a great show for everyone else, but they control their wives. The best thing you can do is to get away from him.
He is breaking you down now and will get worse as he feels more power over you. He will not stop and he will not get better.
Take care,
Troy
2006-10-28 10:34:09 · answer #5 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Although we dont have both sides of the story here, I can honestly say that if someone doesnt treat me right I get them out of my life. I do not suffer ignorant or indifferent people and this includes people who are critical of me. I agree with the last answer you should find another husband.
2006-10-28 10:34:55 · answer #6 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK right to the point... this is a bad relationship.... get out, you have wasted way to much time on this man.. or relationship, you should have to feel like that at all. I can kinda tell that your dependent.... you can do this I promise... JUMP... its only going to get worse, or I cant tell you that counseling would help you guys... but from what I can tell I don't believe it will!! It may however make you stronger, so that you can JUMP.
2006-10-28 10:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by TamBam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is controlling you and you are allowing him to control you. What if you put on that make-up and what if you buy what you want to buy what does he do then? If he just yells then put your foot down and tell him it is your life as well and you want to be happy. You need to stop having him trying to control you. If he does not like the new you then do not let the door hit him in the ***.
2006-10-28 11:07:56 · answer #8 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's his nature, hard to change, some people enjoys friendship and relatives.., but he still loves you that's main things, don't be crazy, just ignore what he critisize you what you do, Life is not perfect absolutely, be happy in your way, I have the same your problem, and I ignore and I feel happy
2006-10-28 10:46:27 · answer #9 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, people should get married for love, not for good intentions. but i think you know that now. i have a feeling that he just doesn't love you. he treats you like property. stand up for yourself. things will not get better until you do. get a job so you have your own money. then he can't say anything about what you buy or how you dress.
2006-10-28 10:29:23 · answer #10 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋