i need help please?

Question

How do u get over a misscarriage

Answer 1

Awwww bless your heart.

It takes time, patience, help and support of family and friends and talking to people who understand what you are going through.

You need to deal with both the physical loss and the mental and emotional loss.

There are many websites that you can join and chat with others in the same situation and also support groups.

Make sure you get all the Health care you need from your GP and ask them about groups in your area that may be able to help.

Try to talk through your thoughts and feelings with poeple you trust and don't bottle things up.

Be kind to yourself and take good care of yourself and remeber that sometimes these things happen and we can't do anything to stop them.

I had a threatened miscarriage at 11 weeks. I bled heavily for 3 weeks and the doctors were sure I would miscarry.

I went on to have a full term pregnacy and gave birth to a healthy son.

At 5 weeks old he died from a very rare undiagnosed heart defect.

I was later told that between weeks 11 - 14 is when the heart chambers form. I feel that this was natures way of trying to let me know that there was something wrong.

I will be thinking of you and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

It is very true that time is a great healer.

Answer 2

I am sorry to hear about your lose.

I lost my twins a week apart at the beginning of this month so all i can do is sympathise with you. I must say that i got a lot of encouragement and help from here, there were some great people who gave me advice.

You just need to try to talk about it no matter how painful because sometimes talking can help you get your head straight and see things a different way

I'm afraid that there is no miracle sure for getting over the pain of a miscarriage but im sure in time the pain will dull, you will always have thoughts of "what if" but unfortunately that wont help.

It's important for you to find someone who you can talk to about this and have a good cry with if necessary, i know that i still find it hard but i know that my babies just weren't meant to be

I hope you can find some help and encouragement somewhere and that sometime soon the pain in your heart lessens

Good luck

Answer 3

If you went to a hospital or drs they would have given you a load of leaflets and things to read that help you understand everything that has happened and how you are feeling and what you are going through right now. There is also an element of it taking time to come to terms with your loss and moving on from it. It is hard and it may all seem too much right now. I think the most important thing is probably just to realise that it's okay and normal to be upset and feel emotional about it all. Take care

Answer 4

hi, i know how you feel i had a miscarriage 2 weeks ago (8 weeks) It is a sad thing to have to go through. All that really helped me is thinking, maybe it was just not meant to be, natures way of saying that something was wrong with the developing baby. I am going to try again as soon as i have had 2 normal periods. And you can try again, but only when you feel ready, and that will be just fine for you. I know all this wont help you now while your feelings are still raw, but in time you will feel better. You will never forget and i will never forget. But we can move on. good luck to you. x

Answer 5

oh you poor dear, i am so sorry for your loss i truly know how you feel. i dont think you will ever get over it but it gets easier to deal with. you will have days of anger at the health proffesionals for not helping properly and everyone around you will be come annoying when they ask you if you are alright for the millionth time. you will feel guilty for not being able to carry to term and you probably want to shut yourself away. please dont ! it will keep all those negative feelings in side and they will fester and get worse. until its all you can think about. there is more out there for you and one day it will happen for you. i hope that you have someone to talk to, a partner or close friend or family member that you can off load on. if not plz email me. i am positive that will get through this soon. keep your chin up and god bless you.

Answer 6

Pregnant after Miscarriage?
Forum: The Maternal and Child Health Forum
Topic: Trying to Conceive
Subject: Pregnant after Miscarriage?

hope it helps good luck

Answer 7

Having suffered a miscarriage many years ago after only having one child, it came as a great shock. However with the help of family and friends who let me talk about it I returned to a normal life and was grateful that I had had one healthy child. My mother taught me a very valuable lesson in life, always remember there are others who would like to change places with you because they are suffering far more due to their own tragic circumstances. Very best wishes for your future.

Answer 8

Try to come to believe that nothing on Gods world happens without a very good reason.It obviously was not meant to be for one reason or another.Maybe there'll be a next time that will bring the Joy to help you forget.Time is a great healer.Been there
got 3 fantastic kids(not goats)now.good luck and God bless you

Answer 9

with time! - the pysical bit is so much easier than the emotional. speak to some close girlfriends and i bet you will find someone has had similar experience - maybe chatting together would help you both then. i miscarried 2 and half years ago and still think of what might have been even tho i am blessed to have 4 happy healthy kids. good luck hunny - thinking of you xxx

Answer 10

Hello, I had a miscarriage in june myself. Im only 22 so I was very shocked.... It was a very upsetting time but I must say that now I have got over it.... i will never forget what could have been but the way I look at it, it was never meant to be.