Whats the best way to heal a broken heart. My girlfriend finished me last saturday was with her 3 years I think shes got another man, Now im on anti depressents and drink a bottle of vodka a day to help the pain, I feel like doing something stupid
2006-10-28 10:01:18 · 41 answers · asked by Blade 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Im decent looking got a hot car and i know i could get another girl if i wanted but i just want her back
2006-10-28 10:05:21 · update #1
Blade hun please con't do anything daft, i'm sure you are a lovely guy and have a gr8 personality , you know its early days to be over it and that will take time.
Please look after yourself a little every day and do the things you enjoy doing. Hey and if you email 4 support please do. I know how hard it is x
2006-10-28 10:39:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When U Love Somebody It's Hard 2 Let Go But Dont Do Anything Stupid Aint No Point If She Left U That Means U Wasn't The 1 4 Her Which Means She Aint The 1 4 U So Go ANd Find The Person Who Is Right 4 U. The Best Way 2 Get Ova 1 Person Is 2 Find Another So And Find Another Person
2006-10-28 10:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by 06ThugMissez06 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know you feeling the pain right now but I promise it does get better with time and try to leave the vodka out or at least try to have a few nights off the drink cause every night off the drink you will be able to think clearer and realise she is not the only women out there you can fall in love with.
I have been through quite a lot of broken hearts and quite scared of love now but one thing i learnt is you always get over it in the end and that's the truth you will find a better day.
Time heals always.
The pain WILL ease we have all been through it your not alone and best of all please don't be hard on yourself you are a special person it was probably her there is something wrong with not you. ending it with a lovely special person like yourself.
Good luck and hope the pain don't last too long.
2006-10-28 10:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Eat a lot of good chocolate. I'm not being flippant. I mean it seriously. It will help you. It's got chemicals in it that will ease the pain.
Then try to do or see things that will make you laugh. You are going to be down for a while about this. That's perfectly normal and you would be a fool to do something drastic over a broken heart when it's such an ordinary human thing to deal with. Just let all the pain out and eventually it will all be gone and you'll be back on your feet again.
2006-10-28 10:09:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anti depressants won't do you any good, except maybe 'zonk you out'. Drinking is stupid too. What you really need is someone to talk to and some company. I'm really sorry for you, you must feel so alone. I hope you have mates you can go out with. You say you feel like doing something stupid. What you have to remember is that your family loves you, we are all with you and to kill yourself would be the most selfish thing you have ever done. Get back to us if you can 'cos I have a really bad feeling about this!
2006-10-28 10:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by Sandee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to get away- phone up an old friend and see if you cant get yourself to theirs for a weekend. put a mask on that everything is normal when you go and maybe you can make yourself believe it. its true finding someone else is the only way to cure it but this takes time.
dont go down the booze root...you can save that money and go for a bungee jump or something- will give you something else to think about.
i feel for you - i remember when my heart was broken and it took a long while to get over it. but have now and has made me stronger (you know what they say...if it doesnt kill you, etc) and am now living in a different country and doing things i would never have dreamed of.
look at this as the beginning of a new happier life rather than the end...all the best
2006-10-28 10:24:47 · answer #6 · answered by meowser 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like doing something stupid you need to talk to someone right away. If you live in canada you can call 1-800-668-6868 ( kids help phone) and someone can talk to you, see what's going on, see how you're feeling, decide if you might need some more help sooner then later, and help you find a way to a psychiatric help line in your area.
Look on the inside front cover of your phone book, there you should see numbers including the crisis hotline, the hospital, suicide hotlines and more.
If you feel like you shouldn't be alone right now, but there is nobody you feel comfortable talking to, get to your nearest emergency room. You may think that's funny, but here in Canada you will be sent to see the resident physciatrist as soon as possible, you will be talked to, you will be given someone to discuss all of your options with you, and they will help you through this hard time. This is all covered by MCP.
If you don't think it's as serious as that then surround yourself with your good friends, family, or someone you trust completely and ask them to help you through this hard time. It's an emotional rollercoaster I know that, it's really incredibly painful and hard, I'm sure you hurt alot right now, so you need all of the support you can get.
Have a night in, calm down on the drinking, don't mix anti-depressents and alcohol ever again, and curl up on the couch, relax, watch something mindless on t.v. and wallow for a little while, but make it a point to get up and try and do something with someone tommorow. Have coffee, read the paper, go on with your life, slowly but surely you will feel better and things will work out for the best.
2006-10-28 10:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by lovely 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Some say time heals everything but I say it's what you do with that time that makes the difference.A broken heart takes a long time to heal.Maybe you should tell yourself everyday that you will try and not think of her for 5 minutes and everyday add on to it.Hopefully eventually you may find yourself not thinking about her at all.
Occupy yourself with hobbies,books,gym whatever you love to do to take your mind off her.Go out with friends.Meet new friends but do not force new relationships til actually healed otherwise you may hurt or be hurt again.Take your time and be constructive and positive.
Get off the alcohol.It only dulls the pain only for the moment and may lead you down the road to alcoholism.A place that you would not like to go.
Go with God
2006-10-28 13:00:56 · answer #8 · answered by JUSEve 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't kill yourself over it. Give yourself a good month to mourn the relationship and then get back on the scene. Cut down on the vodka man, no need to take it out on your liver. Whatever you do, don't focus on the other guy, this is about how the relationship did not work. Think of what you would do differently and what you would look for in a more ideal partner.
2006-10-28 10:06:01 · answer #9 · answered by Tara P 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
put down that bottle of vodka,healing a broken heart takes time, it is something one can't rush, it's a process we go through, most unpleasant really, hurts alot, we go through a period of self blame, we really believe that it is our falt,we think that the outcome would have changed had we only done this or that.but in reality it has to do with your girl's character, and her morals, doesn't mean this other guy is any better than you, just means she is not the staying type.this girl can't give you what you need, but there is one person i would bet you have not called upon that is always there, god.why give this girl power over you,power to hurt you, when this has nothing what so ever to do with you, it's more about her and her selfish ways. be happy someone else has her, and has to deal with her cheating. be glad you not married to her with children, because divorces are much harder to get out of. instead of the drinking, why not go out with some friends, and meet another. pain never leaves us where it finds us,one door closes and another opens up.the way to get better is to get mad and angry at this girl who betrayed you.don't feel sorry for yourself over her, there are many nice girls who would just love to be with you. go find one of them, and leave your vodka at home.
2006-10-28 13:33:07 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your pain. But trust me, drink is NOT the answer. That will just make you seriously ill. Anti depressants and alcohol don't mix.
I suggest you go back to your GP and ask to speak to a councillor.
Three years is a long time and the heart ache won't go away quickly. Everybody tells you that 'there's plenty more fish in the sea', not what you want to hear. You don't want anybody else. Time IS a great healer, please go to you GP, they can give you the best advice. Don't do anything silly. It WILL work out for you.
2006-10-28 10:11:03 · answer #11 · answered by Nellie 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋