I have been married 20 years now, we bought our first house 16 years ago my husband was originally from Mexico where he had nothing, and since we bought the house he had started going to auctions, garage sales and bought so much stuff that we don't even use and i have never parked in the garage as it is full of junk, I can't take it anymore and when I try to discuss it with him it always leads into a fight, Can someone give me advise????
2006-10-28 09:37:29 · 9 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Usually the accumulation(hording) goods, is due to childhood of not having stuff, like you said. If you can possibly get him to a therapist to address his insecurities, that everything is going to be okay... he should be able to stop. Of course, it's easier said than done.
2006-10-28 09:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him away for the day or weekend then remove all the important items from the garage that you need to keep then have a indoor garage sale, selling everything for like $3 each. You can get rid of the junk and make a little change at the same time.
2006-10-28 16:50:41 · answer #2 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Warn him that if he doesn't clean up, you will throw it all out one day.
So then one day that he is gone all day, get your kids if you have any and clear it all out. Have a garage sale or throw it all out.
Or you can Pray about it. Prayer is very powerful if you have Faith and believe.
God Bless U!
2006-10-28 16:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
20 years in true love, you are a lovely tolerant wife, that's his nature, you should you love to convince him, I am sorry for you, but lovely problem, somebody has the same your problem, wait for the good quiet time and tell him you love to have a beautiful place in your house, and want him to contribute with your organise, and praise him that -" I believe my husband is a well organizer "- and he will do for you
2006-10-28 16:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...20....congrats marrige dont last more then 5 in this day and age.... and answer ur qestion.. do it ur self.... cuz lets face it u guys are gonna fight over anything so y dont u choose ur battles.. clean it ur self ,if its a 2 car grage then clean one side and leave the other( his side) and if it is a one car grage then ask if he would mind puting it in a storage.if he says ok then do it ur self..
2006-10-28 16:47:51 · answer #5 · answered by baby gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you know if you clean the garage I will do this special favor to you (whatever he likes) if he refuses then his loss.
2006-10-28 18:16:41 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get my things out of the way first, then ask him to help me get it done. He actually like to get things organized so he knows where to find all the tools, etc.
2006-10-28 16:46:52 · answer #7 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop cleaning the toilet for a few days when he notices and ask you about it tell him to get back to you when the garrage is clean why do you have to listen to requests for cleaning when he does not
2006-10-28 16:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by Chillypepers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to have sex with him...most men will work for sex
2006-10-28 16:40:56 · answer #9 · answered by simichka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋