Both of my parents are deceased. My daughter moved in with a guy and they dont have any money. My boyfriend and I have dated for 4 3/4 yrs and we are going no where in the relationship. His last gift to me was a Shrek video which I gave to his grandson.
I just dread this holiday season. I wish it would just go away. Any body feel the same way?
2006-10-28 09:31:38 · 11 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The Shrek video came out of no where. I dont even have a thing to play it on. He gave his kids and my kids $100 dollar bills.
2006-10-28 09:36:56 · update #1
One of my best Christmasses ever (before my child was born) I spent on my own. I'd had a run of really stressful Christmasses, and just decided to get away from everyone and everything. I borrowed a friend's holiday home (tiny, freezing shack, more like). It didn't even have a TV - I listened to the radio, read books, went for a walk, cooked what I like and ate it when I liked. It wasn't luxurious, but it was bliss - totally non-stressful.
I like Christmas now, as I have a small child who thinks it is magical, but I can see myself reverting to this radio-and-books-in-a-shack mode when we are all older, and he has other things to do!
I think it is the pressure to have a good time which makes it all worse. Try to get away. Fudge the truth to your friends and family, if you don't want pity-invites (people don't believe you when you say you really, really do want to be by yourself on Christmas day).
Another option: volunteer in a homeless shelter, or offer to take the Christmas shift in the local animal rescue centre, or something. Doing something useful gives you a cast-iron excuse not to join in all the 'festivities', and will make you feel better about the whole thing (and will give someone who does like the holiday season the time to enjoy it).
2006-10-28 09:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by gellhorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, run and don't look back. Start a new life somewhere.
Please try to associate the holiday season for what it is truly about - Christmas. There is way too much association with Christmas and materialism. The tradition of giving gifts is wonderful, but the commercialization makes it seem that gifts are the only thing Christmas is about. If you could focus on the true gift we all got at Christmas, then perhaps you may not dread the season quite as much.
I hope you can find happiness, and find someone who truly cares about you.
2006-10-28 09:43:30 · answer #2 · answered by Nuk.Nuk.Nuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is the same here to say. Not touse this as a crying palce either. we always had a big christmas when my wife was alive.
(passed away four years ago) The last four years have been hell. Kids no longer want to get together with mother not around. her relatives left the scene like i dont exsist.
I found a way to have a happy time by my own self. I take so much of my christmas money and give it to others who are not doing so well and makes me happy to put a smile on their faces.
Gives me some precious moments of being helpful and seeing others have a happyholiday.
so I forget the gloom and find it just a joyful time for me ...try it once.
2006-10-28 09:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a family meeting. Declare a "no gifts" holiday party. Christmas is not about presents and who gets what. What most people really want for Christmas is just to get together with family and friends and have a nice time- no stress. Set up the date and time that works for everyone. Have a nice meal and then play cards or a board game or something and just spend time together.
2006-10-28 09:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jane S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is the one that I would asked exactly. Damn near the predicament. What I did was went to a organization that helped needy children. Although I am not a rich person I bought a few small gifts and helped out with the Xmas party and helped wrap and sort the presents. You know, things changed for me, just by watching the faces on those little kids. I'm gunna do it again this year
2006-10-28 09:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by P/T Doctor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can invite daughter and boyfriend over.
Drag bf to the mall *to buy presents*.
Enlist help bringing in the tree.
Invite neighbors over on Christmas Eve if they're around.
Throw a party.
People rise to expectations.
Let him/them know what is expected.
Go to church.
Make him wear a tie.
Or, start dating again. Traditional men are good. Maybe your bf will rise to the occasion when Norman Rockwellian suitors start watching A Christmas Story with you.
Good luck
2006-10-28 10:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by emilsignia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally feel the same way. I didn't even celebrate Xmas last year because my boyfriend and I were so horribly broke (we are still broke). My suggestion is to not try and ignore the holiday because that just made it worse for me last year. This time I am going to prepare an Xmas dinner the best that I can and decorate our apartment and just eat dinner with my Husband for Xmas and watch movies.
2006-10-28 09:36:20 · answer #7 · answered by mellowemi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you need to get the hell out of Dodge. I'm thinking someplace warm, with a beach, and many umbrella drinks. A Shrek video?
2006-10-28 09:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by no_wait_hes_spartacus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you know at least you still have a roof over your head and you guys are all still alive.. things could be worse and are for some people.. you can talk to you man and if things don't change then you gotta be the one to change them..... life to short to be living like some country song...... good luck to you
2006-10-28 09:37:29 · answer #9 · answered by panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw a girls only party with your friends from college!
2006-10-28 09:34:07 · answer #10 · answered by Becca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋