I and this girl were close friends for 3 years. we are just good friends because we usually help each others to do models and drawing stuffs (we are architecture students, i'm year fifth and she's year third).
I've been abroad for further study for 2 years untill now and we kept contact sometime by Yahoo chat.
Last week, when we were chatting online, she said she loves me. She said she promised herself to wait for me since I left abroad .
I was suprised and didn't wait for this kind of thing happen. (we didn't promise each other anything, we didn't commit any sex at all).
I then sent her an email, saying that I thank for her kind intention and her love, that I've got a girl friend over here ( I told lies - hoped she would give up ), and I said I consider her as my little sister and hope she would understand and maintain our friendship.
Then she replied me with a very depress tone and said she will not commit another love and still wait for me what so ever!
Oh...Girls, I don't love this girls, she is a very good girl but I wish I could force myself to love her.
What can I do? girls? I don't want to hurt her at all!
I don't want to lose her as a friend at all! Can boy and girl just be good friend but not lovers!
But if she really does what she said - do not commit in other love anymore, I will feel guilty, I want to help her out of that mentality. What can I do? Serious suggestions please.
2006-10-28 09:16:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you gotta carry on saying ive got a girlfriend because a boy kept on saying it to me and it did get through!! good luck though!!:)
2006-10-28 09:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mi Yah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing in telling this girl that you weren't interested in a romantic relationship with her. Don't feel guilty. She can't force you to love her, and you shouldn't make yourself try. If there had been any possible romance it would have happened before you left the country. Why is she even thinking about a guy she hasn't even seen in two years? I think you have good morals, by not trying to take advantage of this vulnerable girl. Don't worry, she will get over this, and you will always know you did the right thing. Right now she can't be friends with you. It would just keep her hoping that you would change your mind. Maybe after she finds a bf, you could be friends again.
2006-10-28 09:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With the answer you gave that suicidal person i find you to be a true punk and not deserving of any love right now I personally am very mad at you for being so unsensitive and poor girl that loves you I am almost ahppy for her you don't love her back. If that person kills themselves i hope you hear about it and understand you had a part in it...
2006-10-29 01:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by OceanJade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her that you just want to be friends, and that she should be thankful that you think of her as a little sister, because you can protect her from things that will hurt her,and you'll always be there no matter what. :) Say it in a calm, mature manner ok? oh and tell me what she says or does, and if it works out. I hope it works.. Peace out. <123
2006-10-28 09:56:11 · answer #4 · answered by Helena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you acted well. It's possible to be just friends but not to her it seems, just tell her she's young and love is waiting for her, which is true, say love is a different thing and she'll find it
2006-10-28 09:22:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what?
2006-10-28 09:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by Destineezzy !! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋