how do you get over the 7 year itch?

Question

I wasn't looking for an excuse for an affair...just advice...as for having a wife and pamperingher...I'm the wife...talk about playing to stereotypes...you thought I was a guy!!! Tsk tsk!!!

the person who added the message about biology needs to check the books out for himself...it is not my need to impregnate anyone that's making me do this...I'm a girl!!! Is it so hard to comprehend that a girl might feel this way? Oh i'm sorry I asked!!!

I'll tell you that moral highground is pretty crowded with all you perfect people...must be hard getting to see that biolgy book that points out the dif between boys and girls!!! Hats off to those who didn't just say 'out up and shut up'...10 out 10 to those who said 'scratch it' and a big round of applause to my best answer who made me laugh when I thought I was gonna go mental with my 'craving'!!!

Answer 1

We tryed swinging..... Of course we are divorced now but it was great!

Answer 2

Look into and research the biological reason for the feeling. I am not kidding. There is a pre-programmed bilolgical explanation dealing with mating, coupling, childrearing, and the survival of the offspring.

Even if you don't have children, you still have instincts. Part of that instinct is to seek new females to impregnate when the offspring is old enough to have some independance (relative to species) in order to ensure the survival of the species.


It is similar to males of the species competing with other males to be chosen as a mate by the females, and the females pre-programmed fear of abandonment (before modern civilization that meant a death sentance).

This is similar to the "new relationship" chemicals that give you a "high" with someone, and are only in such explosive production for about 36 months.

With humans, 7 years is when children are old enough to walk, feed themselves, and communicate their needs well enough to guarantee their survival. This is why with humans, it's called the 7 year itch. The 3 year itch is when you realize that your body craves the "high" that you no longer feel with your chosen mate.

It is your choice to keep promises, honor the marriage, and work with it. Or not. You can ounk out if you so feel the need. But understand this: It will happen again, even with someone new. It is in out nature, our biology.

This is not an excuse, but rather an explanation of the instinct. We have since evolved into a civilized society that has honor, respect, love, and choices.

There are ways to recreate those new relationship chemicals and recreate the high you once felt. Physical exercise is one way, activities that engage both partners is another. Activities that require participation from both (tango dancing, rackettball, tennis).

There are ways to recreate the desire to remain faithful and honorable to your chosen life partner. It takes effort on both sides, and both have to be willing to do it.

Do your homework, research, and see a counselor.

Answer 3

For some people, the itch is always there, no matter how long into their marriages. The way to get over it is to cultivate a loving relationship with your spouse and learn to appreciate everything he/she is. Always think of the consequence of giving in to temptation because there is certainly going to be a consequence of your action. At this moment, the guy/woman you did't marry is probably looking more gorgeous and attractive than your hubby/wife but think of these scenarios: what do you get after a night of passion with that person? Is he/she going to cook you dinner when you're ill? Is he/she going to pick up the kids when you can't? Is he/she there to hold your hand when you wake up from a nightmare? Is he/she going to give you a glass of water when you wake up from the middle of the night with a high temperature? One day, when you're old, is he/she likely to feed you, look after you, bathe you, change your nappy? Will you be spending your life happily ever after with him/her if your spouse finds out and divorces you? Will he/she love your kids the way your hubby/wife loves them? If you are sure that the answers to all these questions are "Yes", then go and enjoy life but I doubt very much that you'll be that positive after reading these questions. Sorry for being such a killjoy!

Answer 4

Fast answer..... by actually wanting to, in which case you sit down with your spouse and spill your guts about what is going on inside you. Talk about what you are feeling, what's frustrating you, what's e ating you. Tell him/her that you genuinely want to overcome and get past this with his/her help, because you absolutely do love this person.. If any of that is not true, then the odds of getting over it are lower than the bottom of the ocean..

Answer 5

Of course, you want someone to tell you: Go have an affair. Well, that IS NOT the answer. You will just have to scratch!

Answer 6

I think we have to search for alternatives to marriage. If we google "alternative marriages" we may get ideas. We have to keep in mind human nature and also the times we live in. There is nothing wrong in the way you think.

Answer 7

Imagine your life without her. Not just the sex thing either. I mean all the things you take for granted that she does for you. I'll bet you're not perfect... but she puts up with it huh? Would you want to lose that for a fling with someone that means nothing to you?

Answer 8

Gold Bond powder applied to the area that itches...and like someone else said....don't scratch.

Have some self control and commitment to your partner.

Answer 9

The 7 year itch is a myth . You have to work at your marriage all the time to keep it strong and happy .

Answer 10

tell me about it i have been with my husband for 7 years now married 5 and i am feeling just like that

Answer 11

by looking forward to the next 20 year

have Good life