I am in a serious relationship with a woman that I am crazy about and she is crazy about me. We are both 29 y/o. She is still friends with an ex boyfriend who is 45. She does not want a serious relationship with him but wants to maintain that friendship. She has admitted though she still has feelings towards him and gets jealous when he dates other woman and he still has feelings towards him. She says that they have a close band which is why they are still friends but she says thats all they will be. I am not 100% comfortable with it and have expressed it to her several times. What should I do?
2006-10-28 08:54:39 · 8 answers · asked by rustychiefs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am in a serious relationship with a woman that I am crazy about and she is crazy about me. We are both 29 y/o. She is still friends with an ex boyfriend who is 45. She does not want a serious relationship with him but wants to maintain that friendship. She has admitted though she still has feelings towards him and gets jealous when he dates other woman and he still has feelings towards him. She says that they have a close band which is why they are still friends but she says thats all they will be. I am not 100% comfortable with it and have expressed it to her several times. What should I do? I am not ready to give up on her yet. Other than that things are great. My main issue is when he is in the picture things get tense with her and I. I love her and feel things for her I have never felt for anyone else in my life.
2006-10-28 09:15:07 · update #1
I am in a serious relationship with a woman that I am crazy about and she is crazy about me. We are both 29 y/o. She is still friends with an ex boyfriend who is 45. She does not want a serious relationship with him but wants to maintain that friendship. She has admitted though she still has feelings towards him and gets jealous when he dates other woman and he still has feelings towards him. She says that they have a close band which is why they are still friends but she says thats all they will be. I am not 100% comfortable with it and have expressed it to her several times. What should I do? I am not ready to give up on her yet. Other than that things are great. My main issue is when he is in the picture things get tense with her and I. I love her and feel things for her I have never felt for anyone else in my life.
2006-10-28 09:16:31 · update #2
it seems really crappy, but maybe you should take some time apart. i know that you are crazy about her, but do you really want to share her affection with someone else. if she openly admits that she still has feelings for him, there will always be that "open door" for them to get back together. better to end it now then later.
2006-10-28 08:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you have to giver her at least shes been honest about her feelings towards you and him. I think you need to clarify with her what kind of feelings are there specifically for that guy. If those feelings are about love then is time for you to say good bye, cause that so called friendship has problems written all over it. If those feelings are just that she cares for the guy as a friend and she doesn't hesitate when she tell you that, then you need to get the upper hand and meet this guy and trust your girl
2006-10-28 16:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by wanna_help_u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know just how you feel. My ex had a boy friend like that, he wasn't an ex bf, but someone she spent a lot of time with. I was jealous of how easily she related to him, more than me. We argued over this, but I had to relent. She was determined to keep that friendship. I should have seen the writing on the wall, because it wasn't until years later that we split up.
2006-10-28 15:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she does not want to let go i know you might love her no doubt but that ain't kewl she still has feeling for him. Make her realize that you love her and that she is puting you on a line she might fall off of! Tell her you are willing to fall from her arms if she does not let him go. Then again she may not be the right one for you so you might need to let her go! which want be easy!
2006-10-28 16:01:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get over him. If I were you I would not continue my relationship with her until she is 100% over him! It will cause trouble down the road. I know what I'm talking about.
2006-10-28 15:59:22 · answer #5 · answered by angelica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look around. She's got too much excess baggage. You're much younger than he is so she will always think he is smarter. Get out now
2006-10-28 15:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a reason why she's not with him and she's with you... why worry if "she is crazy about you"?
2006-10-28 16:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by sea_star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick his *** and kick her to the curb
2006-10-28 15:58:17 · answer #8 · answered by auetim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋