my friend just got pregnant and she's only 12. her baby is due in feb. but she turns 13 in march. she doesnt care about whats going on and can hardly take care of herself, let alone a baby!
should i support her? or ignore her?
2006-10-28 08:45:33 · 50 answers · asked by BAMF. 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
How very very sad. When I was twelve years old, I had no idea of how someone got pregnant. I was still playing with dolls. How could things have changed that fast in 40 years.
No, don't ignore her. She's going to need a lot of help. If you're a true friend, you'll be there for her.
2006-10-28 08:49:46 · answer #1 · answered by irish_yankee51 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Hun,my opinion is that you should support her.She may seem as if she doesnt care about whats going on,but deep inside she does.First off,she is going to need your support now,more than ever.She is going to need someone there,even if they simply sit and listen to her and what she has to say.This will be very challenging for her,as she is only 12,so just be there for her.Speak to her,and tell her she needs to speak to her parents.They must know,and at first they may seem "mad" or "angry" but they are not,they just arent sure how to deal with news such as this about their little girl.Her parents will eventually,help her through it just as you are.Simply be there when she needs you or needs to talk.It may even be a good idea to be there when she speaks to her parents as that support is really important also.Does the babies father know?What is his opinion of this situation?If he isnt willing to help her she is going to have a rough road ahead.She first needs to go to a gyno to make sure everything is ok.Then she must look at the options that are before her.She is quite young,and she has two options(i said two because i dont believe that abortion is acceptable in any situation).She could A.Put the child up for adoption.There are so many families out there who would love a child.Those who try for a child,are financially and emotionally stable for a child,but cant have one of their own and they would love a baby reguardless of circumstances in which this child was brought into the world.Today,they even have open adoptions.This simply means that she can be apart of the childs life.Throughout the childs life,they keep in contact through pictures,phone calls,emails,in some cases even weekly visits and she wont be a mystery to the child as this child grows up.Option B: She could also keep the child.There are many teen parents and young parents out there today and it isnt impossible for her to raise this baby with support from her friends and family.With help she can finish school,get a job and even go to college,it isnt impossible as many women do it everyday.These are the options(in my opinion) that are in front of her.She must ultimately make the decision herself.Her parents and her friends can speak about what they feel she should do,but dont force her to do something.Allow her to make that choice,because if she isnt comfortable in it,she could resent others for it later for forcing her into a decision.Good luck hun,and I wish your friend the best!Have a good day!
2006-10-29 01:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie, your friend needs all the love she can get right now. So YES support her!
I have two twelve-year old daughters and I cannot even imagine them going through a pregnancy right now. This will be an extremely difficult time for her both emotionally and physically. She may lose friends, and possibly she could even lose the support of her family. So she is going to need you now more than ever.
PLEASE try to get your friend to talk to her school councelor or a teacher, or some adult that she trusts. She needs help.
2006-10-28 10:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT SUGGEST AN ABORTION TO A GIRL WHO IS 5 OR MORE MONTHS ALONG. THAT IS SICK AND WRONG.
At age 12 she is but yet a child herself. You are too, if you are her friend. You are not prepared to deal with a friend having a baby but you are really smart to know to be concerned.
Tell someone. It sounds like her parents aren't really involved with her. Maybe tell a trusted teacher.
Your friend needs doctor visits, counseling and she also needs to do what is right when the baby is born. There is no way she should raise that baby.
She should consider adoption to a loving family. It would be quite a task for a 12 year old to raise a baby. She has no means of support, no husband/partner, no car, no job, she hopefully is still in school.
How sad. At 12, sex shouldn't be a part of a girl's life.
2006-10-28 09:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by ssssss 4 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Of course you should support her! What kind of person would ignore their 12 year old pregnant friend.
(Oh and this is really weird because I'm gonna be 13 in march too)
2006-10-28 15:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
support her and whatever u do do not let her have an abortion! thats such a horrible thing to do! to take the life away from an innocent child! but since she cant take care of the baby she can always put it up for adoption so it can atleast go to a good home
God bless!
2006-10-28 14:41:47 · answer #6 · answered by Questions ^_^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all.... Don't get mad at her. Even though it is technically her fault, Dont flip out at her. If she wants to have the baby, support her. If she wants to get an abortion, support her. But whatever you do, do not start to ignore or verbally abuse her. If she decides to have the baby, Definately be ther for her.
2006-10-28 09:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT suggest Abortion becuase it seems to me that she is too far along to get an abortion. I mean if she is due in Feb. and she is already showing,it's surprising that her parents haven't noticed. But I guess not. But tell her parents and be supportive of any decision she chooses.
2006-10-28 09:13:37 · answer #8 · answered by Alicia S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what she is deciding to do once her baby arrives, she is going to need the love and support of everyone in her life. I am not saying that I would be thrilled if my daughter came home pregnant at 12, but I was a mother at 16 and it was tough. I couldn't have done it without the love and support of my friends and family. Give her a hug and tell her you love her....and mean it.
2006-10-28 08:47:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
she should watch an episode of degrassi where this girl liberty get pregant she has the baby but know she couldn't take care of it and gave it up to an adopter. you should support. and she reminds of my younger sis and she doesn't care about herself not the part about being pregant. and you should tell her mom. i didn't have intercourse till i was like 17 too young these days
2006-10-28 09:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by death the only way out of life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋