Whenever someone says to me things like "You're pretty", "You're beautiful", or "You're gorgeous", it does nothing for me at all. Now, I don't consider myself ugly or anything like that. It's just that I much prefer to hear things like "You're smart" or "You did a good job on that project." To me a real, true compliment is what you do or are about. Is it normal for me to feel this way? And how do I encourage the do-and-about compliments without hurting the other's feelings?
2006-10-28 08:36:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
It's nice that you get called "pretty" and "beautiful" and stuff.. which no doubt you probaly are! but i have to agree with you, i would much rather be called "amazing" or "intelligent". looks will get you nowhere in life, it is the person you are that makes a difference. its completely normal for you to feel this way, in my opinion :)
2006-10-28 08:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you but I do not mind being called pretty or beautiful or gorgeous. I mean I would really like to be called smart or maybe even a pat on the back for a good project. You are just fine and normal.
2006-10-28 08:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by Juice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It must go with the name. I had the same problem when I was a teen. Just thank the person and let it go. Don't worry about being smart or doing a good job, just do it.
2006-10-28 08:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by ruth4526 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many be you could say "thank you I'm happy with what my parents gave me ,but I would much rather people took notice of my own efforts and accomplishments"
I'm sorry to say most people will value your looks more than your goodness. Try not to sweat what other people do and keep on being real
2006-10-28 08:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by somethingelse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not vain, unlike most people. But, you shouldn't try to encourage or discourage compliments of any particular kind, because that's being too needy.
2006-10-28 08:41:58 · answer #5 · answered by martin h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same. I don't care if I'm pretty. I'd rather be a person with depth.
2006-10-28 08:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by IMHO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
proof positive that it's only important what you think about yourself.
Yes that's normal, things you do are a better barometer of self-worth than looks, which you really can't do anything about.
2006-10-28 08:39:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to agree with you, I like to be told.....good job, and thank you, or you are a good friend instead of WOW, nice package, or you are handsome....
2006-10-28 08:40:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's just best to say thank you and keep you feelings to your self I know it's a pain just be glad your recognized at all
2006-10-28 09:44:38 · answer #9 · answered by dogydoorman@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EAT IT DOWN AND SUCK IT UP, WISTLE TWICE FOR A SECOND CUP
2006-10-28 08:39:05 · answer #10 · answered by ( Naruto™) 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋