my 13y girl is lieing to me abuot every thig sex,friens, so on what should i do?

Answer 1

let her know that you know she's lying. if she continues to lie. it's time for tough love. she's only 13 and your talking sex?! it's not too late to show her the right way. show her who's boss. lay down the rules and follow through. even if you feel she's going to start resenting you. don't back down because if you do, then it'll be your fault. she's only 13, guide her.

Answer 2

Been there. Ask her about the lies (make sure you know they are indeed lies) and ask her why she feels the need to lie. Let her know that all lies will eventually surface and every lie told is another reason to question her choices and her trust. Tell her that her lies and choices are going to hurt HER in the long run NOT you, and her friends will not always be there forever, unlike you.
Tell her you love her and will always be there no matter what and it hurts you that she feels the need to lie. Let her know that trust is important and is earned, you don't automatically have trust and now every lie told whether it big or small is questioned. In order to build back the trust factor telling the truth is a step in the right direction.
If it continues (usually does), sit her down again and go over it again and finish with a simple punishment /curfew and continue adding more until she gets it. Good luck

Answer 3

Might depend on how you handle things when she tells the truth.

If she feels that you will judge her, punish her, bawl her out and criticise her if she tells the truth, she has probably learned long ago that she needs to lie in order to avoid being chewed out.

If she knows that an honest answer will be met with friendly support and understanding - though perhaps NOT approval - then it will be much easier for her to be honest.

I know I hated lying to my parents as a kid - but I knew (correctly) that they could not handle my being open about my sexuality or relationships. As such once in a while they caught me out lying.

The now know it was NOT done because I didn't respect them, it was to keep the peace AND to avoid them learning something they could not easily handle.

My suggestion: - When she tells you things you do not approve of - FORCE yourself to be as fair and calm as possible - and even if you need to tell her you are not happy about something - thanks her for being honest - and make sure she does not feel that she has been punished for being honest.

People, 13 or 31, tend to stop telling people the truth if it just results in us having a really hard time.

If you ARE very easy going when she tells you the truth, then you could try and ask her if there is any other reason that she feels it is hard to be honest with you. As for ex it might be nothing more than embarrassment :)

Mark

Answer 4

Hey have you ever tried grounding? Well i've been through it, I snuck out for awhile..only to find out my mom was home,and got grounded again. But..BUt just make sure you try that,keep an eye on her,and Do Not Stalk her everywhere she goes but if she has a cellphone make sure you call her a lot,and ask to talk to the persons she's with at the moment..idk Maybe try that ok?

Good Luck---a 15 yr. old

and did you say she lies about sex?!?!?!?!?! omg Ew! If you go in her room and find condoms..take them and burn them or throw them away! ok? ok Good Luck!!!

Answer 5

Well im 13 and teens usually lie to get SPACE i mean if u give her space and stop being in her business all the time u wouldn't have to worry about her lying anymore so give her SPACE i mean she is not a BABY and PS: if my dad put this on the internet i would be MAD so don't post yall busniess on the computer it can be embarassing. Yall should spend more time together.

Answer 6

Not to be mean but i was a 13 year old girl once and i didnt wanna tell my dad a thing.dads are sometimes overprotective--not that you are--just saying.they tend to make a teenage girl feel as if she cant tell them anything because theyll go off on her.how do you know shes lying though? did you find something in her room or did you see her out somewhere and she didnt know you saw her? what made you think or know that she was lying to you? loosen up with your daughter and im sure shell feel like she can tell you more.good luck.teenage girls are handfuls.

Answer 7

Have a chat with her about everything, see if you can get through, to her. If the heart to heart doesn't work ground her *** every time she turns around. Maybe even try all girls school. Is she afraid of you?, if so you will never get anything out of her. Good Luck!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

I don't know, but you better put a stop to it now before it gets worse.
This is what happens when parents don't spank. (Maybe you do, I don't know) Kids know they can do anything they want to and there's no consequences. You have got to get her interested in other things. When she wants to go be with friends take her shopping to buy something she wants, or to a movie she wants to see..... She's 13yo and can not drive, just keep her at home, don't let her go anywhere without you & tell her it's because you can't trust her.

Answer 9

Your daughter? If it is. I think you should watch the crowd she hangs out with, make sure she knows the facts about sex, get her tested, and on the pill, and punish her. Don't just ground her, take away privileges, and save her before she gets too old.

Answer 10

tell her the consequences that there are out there. Im sure my dad would have taken me to a jail if it included anything with bad friends and made me a babysitter so that i can see that havin a baby isnt fun or easy