He is a bit unrespectful towards her, she is an intelligent woman and he seems to care little about her
I think they won't want couselling, and I don't dare talk to him because it scares me a little, he wouln't really listen or react well
2006-10-28 08:25:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just be there for her when she needs you and listen to her without judging
2006-10-28 08:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is be supportive to your friend. Be a good listener and try not to tell her what to do. What is right for one person is not necessarily right for another. You can never really know what is between two people. This may sound cliche but it is true. It is possible that your friend is feeling down or suffers from low self-esteem. You may suggest that she seek professional help to sort out her feelings, even if her husband does not want counseling. Your encouragement about the positive aspects you see in her may give her strength. If you get in the middle of their relationship you could be over stepping the boundaries of your friendship and you may end up losing her as a friend.
2006-10-28 08:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by Lucid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other than being a shoulder for your friend to lean on ,
You should BUTT out of the rest .
You friend knows the problems she's dealing with . She doesn't need you & everyone else telling her all the time , How Bad She Has It . She knows already . Or It's not as bad as she tells .
Either way , The way to be a BEST FRIEND , is to just be there when she needs a shoulder or a ear .
Marriage : What the Lord as brought together
Let NO man break apart
2006-10-28 12:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by shawn_lamprecht 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is be there for her if she asks, don't force yourself on her. She may very well like the way it is and you just don't know that.
Every relationship is different, have you never heard of a love/hate relationship.
The worse thing you can do is get into the middle of it, it's not your place to interfear or make any judgment calls.
If she asks for your help then work your answers very carefully so that she comes to her own conclusions. Don't tell her yours.
If you get in the middle of it you will be the looser after they work it out
2006-10-28 08:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is suggest your friend see a marriage counselor and then stay out of it- or you'll be the one that is left out in the cold. People leave relationships ONLY when they have had enough.. and your urging her to leave or stay will most likely backfire.... if she makes the wrong decision, it will end up being because that's what you told her to do (in her mind it will be your fault) and the husband could get whiff of it and become a dangerous person in your life. just keep out of it-
2006-10-28 08:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by SKayeMesqTX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give her the hint that you are there for her what ever happens, but in married people problems a 3rd. person is too much people all ready. So give her a hint of the way you fell and don't judge her, then wait for her to ask for the help or to come talk to you asking for advice. I do agree with you that if hes mistreating her she shouldn't be with such a looser, but that is really her decision to make and she needs to do it on her own terms because there are feelings in between.
2006-10-28 08:37:46 · answer #6 · answered by wanna_help_u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not come in between the marriage, this usually makes matters worse. they need to get counseling. if they wont do it because expenses, then the church pastor. and if not, then its divorce, since they dont want to fix it. it wont fix by itself, you cant fix it either. if it goes badly, youll end up being blamed and lose your friend. all you can do for now is support your friend and confort her.
2006-10-28 08:30:13 · answer #7 · answered by cruzanglero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, but don't put him down. If you do when they get back together (or in this case she's not mad at him anymore) she will remember the things you said and somehow you'll get blamed for it.
2006-10-28 08:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by robin316 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a supportive listener, don't offer solutions cause its not your marriage, and stay way way away from getting involved. When they make up, u suffer.
2006-10-28 08:35:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he is physically abusive to her, then I would stay out of her marriage. She is a grown up and needs to figure it out for herself.
2006-10-28 08:30:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋