So I just found out the man I have been living with for over two years has a secret myspace account. His friends are all ex girlfriends or girls he works with. It said he was in a relationship, and there was even a picture of me on there. Why would he lie about having a myspace account. I have asked to look around at who is talking to him, now that I know about it, and he refuses. I just feel like I cannot trust him. I love him, but how can I trust him again? he has really broken my heart here, I doubt everything he says now. Please help me trust again
2006-10-28 08:10:59 · 9 answers · asked by smelly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your boyfriend shouldn't have hidden the fact that he has a my space account. But the fact is he did say he is in a relationship with you on there. You have been living together for 2 years that says a lot about your relationship. Your boyfriend doesn't have to tell you everything and neither do you tell your boyfriend everything either. I am sure you have secrets too. Get over it and move on. A successful relationship is built on trust and honesty. Also, it is about communication. Maybe the both of you should communicate better. If you argue don't bring up the past it only hurts each other. Just argue what is at hand.
Your heart may be broken now but it will heal with time. If you decide to breakup over this then your relationship was built on lies.
2006-10-28 08:25:58 · answer #1 · answered by steve s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy. "I love him, but I cannot trust him." I know that syndrome, and it comes down to the fact of this...I had to face the fact most times I did not trust my man, were the times I did not trust myself. So when I found something he "hid" from me, I would turn it around and begin to doubt him and his feelings and love toward me. But most times, men are not hiding much from us...but they feel they do not have to tell us everything they do. And honestly, they don't. I have been married to the same man I mentioned above for 7 years, and with him for 9. And our first few years together proved to be a testing grounds for me to trust myself with him in his moments of needing his own space. I really think this issue over a discovery of a MySpace account is one that needs to be overlooked. Please, I encourage you to look inside yourself and see if there is anything you need to work on to help better the relationship rather than pinning it all on him. A relationship (and marriage is just the same!) deals with two different individuals sharing thier lives together as individuals. Let him have his space, and maybe you will find there is not much to doubt once you do...and find trust within yourself for yourself.
2006-10-28 15:58:15 · answer #2 · answered by EoC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that in order for you to be able to trust him, you need to look around on his myspace and convince yourself. Given that he hid this from you, I think this is a pretty reasonable thing to ask. If he still refuses, ask why.
2006-10-28 15:46:16 · answer #3 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow that's a tough one....do you think he's cheating on you with some of these people? make a fake myspace page and find out
2006-10-28 15:19:27 · answer #4 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't blame you for feeling betrayed,really that's
what it is,and the deception that you feel might
stay there if you don't learn to talk about it,you have
to tell him how you feel,without yelling or try to
making a big deal out of it.talk to him like you
would talk to you're best friend,really 'cause if it'snot
liying to him it is to you,'cause you ask hm and he denied.
and a little lie only get bigger and you can't risk you're heart to be
hurt like this.
take care
isabelle
2006-10-28 15:40:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
whats his myspace URL?
2006-10-28 15:14:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can help you trust again. trust has to be earned. By you finding out and confronting him and his refusal to show and tell, I think you have your answer...
If he needs to put himself and you out there for everyone to see. what is next......
If he needs to contact old gfs then he doesn't need me....
2006-10-28 15:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U can't, unless you want to fool yourself.
2006-10-28 15:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
counseling for couples. and if not, breakup. its not going to get better without help. use birth control.
2006-10-28 15:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by cruzanglero 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋