a friend's husband is quite unkind to her, has sudden silence days because of nothing and sometimes shows no respect towards her opinions, they have two children
2006-10-28 08:03:25 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thanks everybody
2006-10-28 08:09:00 · update #1
Adultery, Abuse, or Addiction PERIOD anything else WORK IT OUT!
2006-10-28 10:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by hackinaggie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he always been this way? If he has then she needs to decide if talking to him either with a counselor or not will help. Will he be receptive to change? Does he provide a good living for her and her children? Can she provide one similiar or not to drastically different than now if she leaves him?
Does he realize what impact he is making on the children in terms of respecting other people including their own future spouses? Some people refuse to see that they are doing harm by being passive/aggressive and others see it once it is pointed out to them and through counseling see the need to change.
Good luck to your friend and her family.
2006-10-28 15:11:09 · answer #2 · answered by Subi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. My husband is similar to this. He will totally go silent and I'm left feeling I need to pick up the slack. It's a pain in the *** but he has his reasons we just don't know what they are at the time and usually they are completely unrelated to the time and situation that we were currently in when he went silent. But, on the filp side he's great and alot of fun to be around. He really loves his wife and family and wouldn't intentionally do anything to hurt them.
2006-10-28 15:07:09 · answer #3 · answered by Silly ol Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds abusive and yes that is a clear reason for a divorce. Every woman deserves respect and an equal role in a relationship.
The abuse will escalate with time. It may already have and your friend is just not telling you the full story.
Take care,
Troy
2006-10-28 15:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If counseling doesn't work then I say, by all means, she should leave him.
I knew a woman who left her husband because he was always doing "turtles" in bed...you know, farting and then pulling the blanket over her head so she had to smell it. She told him time and time and time again "you better stop or I WILL leave you." He kept it up for a year and didn't believe her so she left his a**.
2006-10-28 15:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by concretebrunette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They obviously need to talk to one another first, to get to the root of the problem. If he won't do this, I'd suggest counsel ling.. If he won't agree, then I wouldn't stay in a relationship. She is being treated badly and with no respect... She Will just be another victim...and very unhappy.....if she stays....
2006-10-28 15:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The decision is up to your friend. In many states someone justs has to want a divorce and there is nothing that can be done to stop it. How does your friend feel?
2006-10-28 15:10:05 · answer #7 · answered by jetfighter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs some counselling. It might be depression/anxiety or another type of emotional problem. Give him the benefit of the doubt intially and help him seek some professional help.
2006-10-28 15:06:29 · answer #8 · answered by pugluvr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-10-28 15:05:23 · answer #9 · answered by orangebanana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before I would rush to "divorce" court I would head to church where the vows of their marriage began. God has emense ways of healing, broken and strayed hearts. And even if it didnt work out she could then know it was of Gods will not her own.I would ask you to pray with her regarding her soul,spirit and ask God to give her strength and wisdom to be still and patient. So that whatever happens it will be in his timing and not hers.
2006-10-28 15:09:27 · answer #10 · answered by btsnpieces 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is not sorted out quickly they are both in for a rough ride.
Believe there is more to this man than meets the eye.
Counselling babe ,for both of them if he refuses time to abandon ship.
2006-10-28 15:28:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋