2 months ago I ask her the question and she said yes and we are getting married in may of next year. Well anyway we deicde to move to a place about 1 hour and 45 minutes away from were we are now after we get married. Now the problem is that her parents dont want us to move so far away and think we are trying to get far away from them as possible. How can we make everyone happy without making anyone mad???
2006-10-28 07:55:12 · 14 answers · asked by Kyle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When two people get married, its about them, not about their families. If you two want to move then move. You could sit down with her parents and explain to them that, you aren't trying to get away from them, you're just starting you're new life together.
2006-10-28 10:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by Gaia Weeps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as "where" you live, that is ENTIRELY up to you and your soon-to-be wife. Unfortuneatly it's almost impossible to "make everyone happy w/out making anyone mad" If you guys were to stay, would you be happy? Or would you end up resenting her parents for pressuring you into staying. An hour and 45 minutes is not really THAT far....it's not like you're moving to the other side of the country or anything. Her parents will get over it sooner than probably even they realize. As long as it's a decision that you and the Misses agree on, I say do what you feel is best.
2006-10-28 15:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have learned, after 9 years of marriage, that you will NEVER make everyone happy. Your biggest priority is your wife and yourself. I am not saying you should "write off" your families, but no matter what, someone will always complain about something. You will please one person completely, but at the same time, piss another one off. As long as you two are happy, and when you have children, they are incredibly happy, that is all you should worry about. Good Luck and Congratulations on your engagement.
2006-10-28 15:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by tiredmomintn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want your marriage to work, put some distance between you and your in laws and your own parents. 1hour 45Minutes is perfect, that means they have to call before coming over and not just drop by unexpected and drive you crazy. You will enjoy some privacy. Living close to relatives can be a disaster.
2006-10-28 14:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your fiance are getting married to eachother,,not her parents. An hour and whatever is not far enough....Why worry about what they think....its not far from them at all,,,what if you were in another country or something? Tell her parents tomind thier own buisness.
2006-10-28 14:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This answer is easy. You are not getting married to her parents, you're getting married to her. If you and her want to associate with the in-laws, it's your prerogative...
2006-10-28 15:44:29 · answer #6 · answered by Wee W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant, when you marry, put your own desires first. No one will ever be happy if they always try to please others in a marriage.Your devotion is to your wife and your marriage.
2006-10-28 15:02:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about making everyone else happy and you'll soon find life gets alot easier.
2006-10-28 15:09:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't make everyone happy, myu must think of you and your wife. What do you want?
2006-10-28 15:06:48 · answer #9 · answered by leon s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i where you id stay where you are cuz if you move it im no guness but it may rune the marrige jsut a lil
2006-10-28 14:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by Tyler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋