how can i trust my husband who is a full time barman with girls flirting with him all the time ?

Answer 1

Talk to a therapist and find out what's causing you to not trust him. Mistrust, when without cause, is a psychological issue. If he's done something to warrant your insecurity, however, that's another story.

Answer 2

Was he a bartender when you married him? If so, then, you already knew what he did for a living and it was ok then, right? You trusted him enough to marry him. Ask him if he agrees with the "rule" that both of the partners in a marriage shouldn't do anything they wouldn't do if their spouse was standing right next to them. In his case, flirting back with the customers is part of his job, so, I would say that as long as he has never done anything more than that, you have nothing to worry about. It's pretty likely that if he wanted to do more, he wouldn't have gotten married. This is a grown man we're talking about here. He loves you and doesn't want to screw up his entire marriage over a quickie in the backseat of a car. If he IS trustworthy, then you trust him. If he ISN'T trustworthy, then, why did you marry him? You can't babysit him. Either he is or he isn't. If he is, leave it alone. If he isn't, leave. The girls are ALWAYS going to be flirting with him - you can't stop that. All you can do is know your man - and make sure he has every reason to want to come home to you, and you alone, every night.

Answer 3

I worked as a bartender for 3 years. Letting the girls flirt helped improve income from tips. It never went anywhere - I was too busy! I was single at the time and often wished it could have gone further... If the girls were there to find someone for some fun, then they quickly learned that the bartender could not offer much as he was busy with all the customers. She has her little flirt and moves on to the real game in the room - someone who can buy her drinks. However, as the previous answer states, either you trust him or you don't. Sorry to say that whether he is a bartender or mortician, if you are not with him 24x7 then you better have some trust or move on.

Answer 4

The most important things in a good marriage are Trust, Communication and Honesty, the rest is just icing on the cake and helps to bind all the other ingredients.

If you are missing any of those 3 your marriage won't work. If you don't trust him and he has given you no reason not to then you are the one that has a problem you may want to seek professional help to find out why your so insecure.

Answer 5

Trust is something that you need to talk to him about. He might like the attention of girls flirting with him. It might give him a big head, if you know what I mean. You could go down to the bar and have a couple of drinks and see what's going on for yourself. And take a friend with you. You don't have to drink, you can just order a soft drink. Or you could send a very close and good friend to spy on him. Does not have to be a female....good luck!

Answer 6

If you CAN'T trust , than your Marriage is DOOMED !!!!!!!

Wait til he does something that warrants those feelings .
Don't assume anything . That will just push him into confirming them .

Marriage is based on Faith , Love & Hope
God brought you together
Satan is trying to pull you apart

Have Faith that he loves ONLY you .

Remember :
Doesn't matter where you get your appitite
As long as you eat at home

All these girls flirting with him , may work out to your advantage . In the bedroom :-)

Answer 7

It's part of his job. You have to know that he makes better money when he does flirt and seem promiscuous. As long as he keeps coming home to you, you are okay. I used to be a bartender and it drove my husband crazy. But the thing is that when he would come hang out it would kill my tips because I couldn't be naughty. Not literally, but just on the other side of the bar....I always went home to him, there was never anything for him to worry about.

Answer 8

Trust him for him, trust him for you and trust him for the relationship-if he breaks that trust then you know you gave it all your heart in the relationship
If fate has a helping hand in spoiling the trust, then there isn't anything you can do about that but jealousy and lack of trust is a huge killer in relationships, equally to infedility.
For You, don't allow his job, or others to help weaken what you have. showing trust is be a great way to express your love for him by demonstrating the trust you have when not a jealous or over bearing wife or g/f

Answer 9

Depends.

Has he shown himself to be untrustworthy around females before?
Has he changed in any way since you presumably trusted him enough to marry him

Would he be able to trust you if the situation were reversed - and if so, how could you convince HIM that you deserved his trust?

Others might suggest spying on him / trying to set him up etc - but if you go down this route, I would say there are some BIG trust issues here over and above his place of work.

Hope you manage to save your realationship.

Answer 10

My man was a bouncer when we met, and he had the same prob so did I. I guess you just have to look at it like this
No matter what the job or situation if he is going to cheat he will and there is nothing that can stop him same goes for us too, you just have to trust and if he does then you deal with it the way you want to I guess,
Simply put if he is going to, it wont matter where he works or how good you are togather he will do it if he wants to. Gennerally there is nothing we can do to stop them and the same goes for us we will if we want!