if you met someone with a low self esteem what would you do to try and make them happy?

Answer 1

i'd try to get them in the sack

Answer 2

My best friend has low self esteem. I started making her sign off all her emails "Goddess" and she still does it a couple years later.

Tell them:

Don't let attention from others define who you are.
Don't let the media (magazines etc.) define who you should be.

Think of the things about you that are beautiful. Are you generous? Kind? Thoughtful? Outgoing? Have a great sense of humour? Do you have great knees? Is your pinky finger cute?

I hate my pointy little vampire pinky toe, but I love the freckle on the inside of my left arm. I may not have the best tummy, but the colour of my eyes is great. My skin might be dry, but my hair is fantastic. My tush may be bigger than I'd like but I sing like an angel. Maybe I'm a little shy, but I keep my fingernails pretty.

And so I'm a confident happy woman.

Check out the film at: http://www.campaignforrealbeauty.com/...

It was a real eye opener for me when I first saw it.

Take care!

Answer 3

Listen to them, try to get them to explain their feelings and thoughts.

If they start, then ** LISTEN ** to them and do not interrupt with "ooh no, you are wrong, blah blah" - just be quiet and let them say what they need to - even if you are SURE they are wrong. If nothing else if you be quiet and let them say what they NEED to say, you will helped them be able to vent their thoughts.

THEN if you feel able to, you can gently challenge anything you think they said which "doesn't add up" eg: "I'm never going to have a nice job because my parents didn't have nice jobs" - "In what way does you parents jobs stop you from having the kind of job you want" etc

If you feel unable to do the above, fine, but still listen to them and let them talk - that alone will help some people - "knowing they are worth being listened to"

Being a good friend if possible - not letting them down or changing plans at the last minute to do something else. make them realise you value their friendship and company. Makes a BIG difference to someone knowing they are wanted / needed.

Answer 4

when people have low self esteem .. ah the biggest challenge is to make them happy... wanna know a secret ... you cant. they have to be happy inside. it is the most impossible thing... and this tears up millions of friendships and marriages... Most people who meet someone like this ask themselves the same question .. ( most guys drink ..a lot.. and sometimes are depressed... the low self esteem .. is some times a result of something else... ( does this make sense.... But you can be there and listen .. encourage them to go to school ,.,, therapy... and all the above.. but you cannot magically make them happy... they have to be happy .. and then you can be happy together .. but each happy inside your selves.

Answer 5

People with low self esteem have been dumped on constantly in one way or another. After awhile they begin to believe what they hear the only way out of that trap is to tell your friend that you no longer want to hear negative things said about her/him self and that only positive things should be said. Be supportive and encourage postive things in their life and dismiss the negative!

Answer 6

I know several ppl with low self-esteem, I'm one of them! You just have to try to dwell on the positive instead of the negative. Give your friend compliments and try to tell her that she is someone important. It is a long process, but with a friend, its all worth it.

Answer 7

As a guy with low self-esteem ...I think that you should look to him in the eye and talk to him(it really means alot)

Answer 8

In a situtation like that u remind them how beautiful they are... Show them that beauty is skin deep and let them know that ur glad u with them... comment on how great they look as long as ur confident u can always bring that out of someone else

Answer 9

not a dam thing people have to believe and make themselves happy first and why do you want to try to fix someone fix yourself first so you feel like you don't have to try so hard to help someone elses self esteem and happiness... Heck give me a piece of apple crumb pie and ice cream makes me happy but someone else might hate apples or the flavor of ice cream thats not my problem is it??? NOT! its their choice their decison their preference

Answer 10

i would subtleylearn what i could about the persons issues and then assuming i plan to maintain a friendship with the person i would do and say things that would covertly be bennaficial to the problem and hope that it helps. paying too much attention to a problem can sometimes make things worse

Answer 11

Convince him or her to volunteer with you at a hospital, nursing home, orphanage, etc. Helping people who have real problems will make you realize just how trivial your own issues are and will make you both feel better about yourself.

WK