I know its never gonna happen, but how the hell can i get him out of my head..?
2006-10-28 07:35:49 · 22 answers · asked by boo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The brother has no Idea, and we are not carrying on together at all, i just have feelings for him that tug on my heart, I love my boyfriend, its just that his brother is like all the little imperfections ironed out, and almost the same in looks, i just need simple ways to get him out of my head.
2006-10-28 07:59:27 · update #1
If you really love your boyfriend then you will not act on these feelings. If it's just a crush then it will be harmless if you don't act on it. Whenever he's in your head just immerse yourself in something else. Exercise, a good film, a book, a job that needs doing, your work, your friends, the time you spend with your boyfriend. Instead of thinking of faults in your boyfriend think about what makes you like him and all te things you love about him. Eventually the crush will blow over I promise x
2006-10-28 08:13:41 · answer #1 · answered by katem1992 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well don't act on it whatever you do.
You could never have a relationship with his brother after you'd been with him. And if you cheated on your BF with his brother that the worst thing you could do. You'd destroy their relationship as well as yours. I can't think of anything worse anyone could do. Especially if they are close
Remind yourself that what you feel for his brother is fantasy. He's - like you said - just like your boyfriend but with the "bad" bits ironed out. But the brother will have bad bits of his own!! Which might even be worse than your BF's "bad" bits.
Its not real, its just a fantasy. If you have to fantasise about his brother in sceret well do so but don't tell your boyfriend or anyone else. Just try to enjoy being around your boyfriends brother as a friend or a prospective brother in law (depending on how close you and your boyfriend are). If you and your BF stay together he'll be part of your life for a lot longer than if you and he just had a fling. You and he can become really good, close friends.
My BF's brother is a real charmer and girls love him. I wouldn't dream of having any feelings towards him like you describe though - hes not my type (he's Mr Party Animal! ) and it would destroy my BF if I did. I love having him him as a brother in law and an uncle to my baby though!!!
2006-10-28 09:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore answers like the first one. Those are poeple in denial of the fact that you can't control who you love. All you can do is control how you act.
This kind of thing happens. I think, and this will seem foolish, but I think the only way to truly understand and accept this issue and move on, is to confront it directly. Tell your boyfriend this, and explain why very intellegently. If he really cares, and you both have great communication, he will understand and appreciate your honesty. If not, then the relationship will end, proving he wasn't for you to begin with. I think this is a test on how strong your relationship really is.
Then, tell his brother, and explain thats why you feel it's better for you to not be around him. If he acts positively, cool. If not, then at least you know you confronted this instead of trying to ignore it and letting your feelings about the "what if" linger for years until you possibly act on it. If he acts negatively, that will then break the spell on you and you possibly won't like him anymore.
Most people will tell you to just let it go and ignore the problem though, and work hard to keep the secret. I personally don't like keeping secrets. I feel it's pointless to take a relationship seriously if I can't tell my girl everything. I might as well be dating a stranger. This is why I give you this advice.
2006-10-28 07:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you already have. Then if you do, ditch the boyfriend and give the brother a chance, if it doesn't work out move on, apparently you didn't love the "boyfriend" in the first place.
2006-10-28 07:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by luluhinalbwi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This probably only happened because you were bored with your boyfriend you probably best have a break from your boyfriend and stay away from the two of them. and when you learn to control your feelings more. you will probably wonder what you seen in both of them cause you will then know what you want out of a boyfriend.
2006-10-28 07:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should split up with your b/f and get away from both of them. Sorry to sound harsh, but if you are in love with his brother, you aren't being very fair to your b/f, or yourself, and you should get out of the relationship and move on. Good Luck.
2006-10-30 00:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by iwatchedthestarsfallsilently 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave them both. It is unfair to your boyfriend and yourself if you have these feelings for his brother. You say switching boyfriends is not an option but even if it were, I suspect neither of them would ever seriously trust you - either way, it is best for all parties if you leave.
2006-10-28 07:41:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mouth shut. It will only cause problems. Heard of "blood is thicker than water"? It's true. They will stick together, and you'll be out! If you don't want to be with your boyfriend, tell him. Don't expect the brother to want you.
2006-10-28 07:57:20 · answer #8 · answered by Tanyaqt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a problem, they would both dump you if they found out.
You are never going to be happy now in his presence, best leave your BF and move on. For every door that closes another opens.
2006-10-28 07:38:55 · answer #9 · answered by tucksie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump both of em its not right to go out with somebody when yourenot in love with them but no matter how you work it out theres somebody whos gonna get hurt dont go out with the brother because youll destroy their relationship
2006-10-28 07:47:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋