If, I am sick of the fighting and being treated like crap and I do things just to make someone else who is incredibly selfish and doesnt care about me happy, while sacrficing my own happiness completely, is that wrong? What is in store for me if I do that, I feel as though they will continue to treat me poorly until they get exactly what they want, and I dont have enough happiness left to sacrifice to them, but I am just sick of the problems. I dont want my own happiness to go down the drain for them, and just sitting there talking has NOT helped. I want them to STOP forcing things and situations on me that I can't handle, and Id give anything for my life to be back to normal again and have them stop being so pushy.
2006-10-28 07:32:55 · 12 answers · asked by overwhelmed85 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is time to stop enabling them... The behaviour will continue as long as they keep getting their way. If they will not stop, you don't have to be a martyr and stay... leave the unhappiness behind and get out of the relationship... You teach people how to treat you... A relationship has to be able to bend both ways, seems to me you have a broken back.. I would seriously look at what you are getting from being the victim....
There is happiness for everyone to live and find in their lives, don't deprive yourself of it, because you think you have to stay with someone. Your survival of spirit and soul is more important....
2006-10-28 07:39:16 · answer #1 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is definetely a hard situation... i don't know if there is a clear answer to the problem... but i will say that YES it is wrong for you to sacrifice your life for the sake of another, because ultimately you are taking away his life too. it sounds like you have your head on your shoulders pretty well, and that you are finding yourself in a rock and a hard place... maybe you are in a situation you don't know how to get out of?? well i guess i would say that you need to try to find an avenue to get out. whatever it takes or however much hurt and disssapointment that it is gonna cause to everyone... you have to put your happiness first and foremost. if you truly do not thing that talking is ever gonna make anything better, then you will have to take higher measures to get the point across... maybe couple counseling? after that, i have no suggestions other than move on.
2006-10-28 07:40:15 · answer #2 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right people like this who are selfish and treat you like this are not ones you need to worry about making happy. Why go out of your way and do something for someone who doesnt appreciate it but just to get a rise from you. Stop being nice to people like this you are a kind hearted person who would probably give anything to make one happy but forget people like this they are taking advantage of you. Make yourself happy your happiness comes first.
2006-10-28 07:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your truly tired of being treated "crappy", then stop allowing it hun! People can only treat or mistreat us the way WE let them! Remember that expression "ask and you shall recieve" just what are you asking for? Not only from others but yourself. You alone have the decison of how you will be treated, do not let others decide how they will treat you! Hope you find the strength and courage to see that you are above being treated "crappy"
2006-10-28 07:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by btsnpieces 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please clarify to yourself why you are putting so much effort and self-sacrifice into this impossible relationship. Is this person one of your parents, your boss, a sibling, one of your children, or your husband? If not, your best course of action is to dump this person now. They are not important enough to you in the long run to drain this kind of energy out of yourself. If it's your boss, you need to be looking for another job. If it's one of your family members, maybe you need to go into therapy to find a way to have a more tolerable relationship with them.
Obviously, you cannot go on the way you are. Everyone needs peaceful, positive relationships with the important people in their lives. Life is short, but it can be good if we fill it with people who give us joy. You need to find a way to be caring of yourself, while still accommodating, in a reasonable way, other people in your life.
2006-10-28 07:45:33 · answer #5 · answered by Marcella S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean i have that but i'm trying to keep my patients since i do love him and a little bit at a time i am getting my way i can't help that i love him i could leave but then i would never know what the out come would be if i did that you do what ever will make you happy if you have to leave for that to happen then it might be best love eternal
2006-10-28 08:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by nobody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is wrong b/c your not being true to yourself.. If this person is putting you in uncomfortable situations then you need to remove your self from this person.. Obviously they aren't gonna do it for you.
2006-10-28 07:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do what makes YOU happy, if the other person doesnt do that, kick em to the curb and get someone who will treat you like the godess you are.. they are out there.
2006-10-28 07:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by arch_angel_adam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you'd give anything for your life to be back to normal, just walk away from them. Love yourself first.
2006-10-28 07:38:00 · answer #9 · answered by Alicia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been just, means act with Justice to yourself first, it not justice if you make other take advantage of you. Do to other has you wish to be done by.(it goes both ways)
2006-10-28 07:41:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋