I have been talking to my old best friend (which happens to be a guy..and UGLY one at that) lately. Mabie twice for about 5 minutes to see how he has been. My husband got mad about it. Was I wrong?
2006-10-28 07:25:55 · 23 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Okay, mabie hes not ugly, but i feel nothing for him like that. More like sisterly/brotherly.
2006-10-28 07:32:23 · update #1
Sounds like your husband loves you,that`s good.Do you want it to stay that way?Then you need to keep the husband or the friend.Trust me on this. It will hurt your husband if he feels this way already. Most men don`t want to share their wife with any other man.Hell knowing some guys don`t like some of these doctors,if their wife gos to much and she maybe just what shes suppose to.Try thislet him come home and say,honey I ran into an old friend and she maybe calling me later to go over old times.Be honest, how would you feel if he sounded happy about that?
2006-10-28 07:40:19 · answer #1 · answered by Step 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very okay to be married and have a guy for a friend. If you are on the up and up, there shouldn't be a problem. Have you and your husband got with this guy, so he knows this is your friend? Most of my best friends are guys, but my husband knows every one of them. If there is something to hide, I would say he isn't just an old best friend. Do you talk to this guy with your husband there, or when he is gone. If he is your best old friend then your husband has nothing to be mad about. What difference does it make how long you talk to him. If you just started calling him, then your husband might have a reason to be mad. It is his right if you just calling this guy to make him jealous. There are very many different ways you can look at this, but only you can answer if he should be mad or not.
2006-10-28 07:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by CHEROKEE 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, no. No, because you were only talking to him , right? In my eyes, it would only be wrong if things went a little further than a 5 minute conversation or if you were hiding this matter from your husband. If this isn't a secret relationship and he is only a friend then nothing is wrong with it. However, consider how the situation would be if the tables were turned. That would tell you if you were truly wrong. I believe it is ok to be married and have a guy friend if
1: you're a guy 2: he's into guys
2006-10-28 07:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by kitty s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You maybe talking to him around the time you and your husband are having dinner or when you 2 have plans together. If that is not why he got mad then just simply communicate the question "why do you get mad if talk to an old friend of mine?"........... If you'll just talk on it then you will find out from the horses mouth and save yourselves some arguments in the future. Ultimately if your husband does not want you to talk then you have to respect his wishes since he should be the only real man in your life. I know many men feel like their marriages or relationships are already hurting and when a gf or wife talks to a guy whether they have known him forever or not makes him upset and he just wants to feel safe about his relationship. This is all just an opinion and you should talk to him. Take care.
2006-10-28 07:35:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong at all w/having a guy friend. That is unless your making the husband jealous. Don't make a big deal over it if you are. I know that some people just want their spouse to all theirs and no one elses. How sad.
2006-10-28 07:37:28 · answer #5 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is definitely okay.
I have had a friend since high school who happens to be a very attractive woman.
Although she is beautiful, she has always been like one of the guys, and there has never been any interest on my part to date her or anything.
My girlfriend doesn't really like that I still hang out with her, but she has learned to accept it.
2006-10-28 12:52:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...it's perfectly natural for people to have friends of the opposite sex, whether they are married, single, engaged, divorced, separated, widowed, or whatever their marital status happens to be. Your husband is blowing things way out of proportion. If you were actually cheating on him, and he knew about it, that's a whole different ball of wax altogether. There is no rule saying that you have to be only friends with members of the same sex. Friends are friends, regardless of what gender they happen to be. Tell your husband you don't mind that if he has female friends, as long as it's just a friendship and nothing more.
2006-10-28 07:33:38 · answer #7 · answered by Answerer17 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No. You should able to talk anyone you want, even if he's a guy. My best friend is a guy and we talk for hours to catch up on things. Maybe your husband feels a little threaten when you talk to your old friend. Talk to husband about it that there's nothing going on between you and your old friend.
2006-10-28 07:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by Rommie 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you were not wrong but such things should be cut out if you are married or you will see your marriage go up in flames.you cant behave like you are alone anymore,picnics with old guy friends,movies then ...divorce. ps your trying to convince YOURSELF that hes ugly,i thing its running away from some tender feeling towards him.
2006-10-28 07:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by undecided young man 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of my casual friends are men - women tend to be back-stabbers when push comes to shove. My husband does not have any problem with it as long as it is kept on a very casual level and there is no semblence of anything that could be miscontrued - i.e. flirty talk, meeting in "out of the way" places, etc.
2006-10-28 07:32:05 · answer #10 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋