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Whoever came out with this sexist remark?

Who thinks wives should stay at home and just clean and cook and entertain the husband at the end of they day, while the husband only needs to care to go out and work?

Calling all sexists out there! This view is so yesterday... wake up!!!

2006-10-28 07:01:29 · 23 answers · asked by Miss_Perfect 3 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

Sophie, are you saying modern women who stay out and work are not females?

2006-10-28 07:12:51 · update #1

I'm very pissed that... Since when people have defined roles of a wife to such extent in these days? As though wives are expected to behave that way and fit into those roles?

It's a choice. I'm very pissed if sexists would immediately define a wife's roles that way, not giving her choice and consideration.

No, I'm not narrow minded.

2006-10-28 07:18:49 · update #2

23 answers

And it's no wonder that people arent getting MARRIED anymore

This is a SEX-driven society whether we will admit it or not-and nobody cares to be committed when they can "have it all"

But ANY MAN who tells you some crap like the W-I-F-E example is a JERK---Stay away from those

My grandmother has a sexist (I'd say, misogynistic--really) husband who tells her to cook and then bashes the cooking. Ridiculous, huh?

2006-10-28 07:07:03 · answer #1 · answered by What gives? 5 · 0 1

First, understand the cause and effect. Why do you go to work? To get PAID. Now, don't get me wrong, you are most likely thinking yeah to support her. Right? But, wrong. If you are this responsible guy, you would still be working without her. Now, does this mean that it doesn't count for something, no, not at all. Next, what kinds of family activities are we talking about. See, my husband believes he is spending family time with us when he is home. He either puts a movie on that the children are not allowed to watch or sits in front of the computer. None the less this is not family time. He also believes that quality time with his wife falls under the same category as family time. When I tell him I could use a break from the kids he says I'll take them outside so you can get the house cleaned. Meanwhile the little ones are running in and out needing help with wiping and washing hands. Now let me ask you if you get annual raises? I am sure you do. I wouldn't to much like it if my employer didn't give me a cost of living raise at the least. Overall, it sounds like you feel as though you are being used. I must say that she may not be giving where credit is due, but you might not either. She might not be making money but surely she is saving the family money, right? Is she getting credit for that? Look, I am not saying that your job is easy but neither is hers. I as a stay at home mom have my moments. I am very structured when school is in but in the summers I am very relaxed. I let alot of the housework slide so I can be outside with the kids. Maybe now that school is back in she will get with it? Woman need love and understanding and men need respect. The less one gives, the less the other feels it. Maybe she feels your frustration and thinks whats the point?

2016-03-28 10:10:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I personally have a Masters degree in Psychology and am a Clinical Psychologist. When my husband and I married and moved 2600 miles north {due to him relocating his business} I stopped working. I had our first child 5 months ago. I wash, cook, clean, entertain, and do all the things a housewife is expected to do. Plus I take care of our 5 month old son, my beautiful handicapped terminally ill 13yr old daughter and my step daughter {when she is with us on visitations and vacations} Is this what I want to do? Most days I am very happy, some days I just want adult contact with someone other then my husband. And just so you know my husband will also do dishes, and laundry and anything else I need or want him to do. Most of the time he will work 12 hr days come home and tell me he'll do the dishes he'll get the kids to bed, and is always asking me if I need help. Its a partnership in our marriage and just because he brings in the paycheck doesnt make what I do any less important then what he does. He'll even tell you I do more things before the sun comes up then he does in a day. When he says he's going to bed thats what he does. When I say Im going to bed {as with all mothers} on my way there I do dishes, pick up toys, fold laundry,etc.

As a child growing up my mother was a police officer she still made time to bake, clean, and do all the things a "wife and mother should do" and I admired her deeply for it. Its not sexist for a woman to stay home and take care of the home while the husband works if they can afford to do so. Plus I wouldn't want someone else raising my children or spending 8 or more hours per day with them when I can be with them.

And I think that came out in the 1940s and 50s when most women did stay home while the husband worked.

2006-10-28 07:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 3 1

Wealthy men have large egos and because of their status they want the privilege of providing traditionally for their wife and family. These days even their wives get involved, if not in their company then with social projects.

I'm not sexist, and I'd prefer to stay home and do the chores, home school and raise the children while the husband (who even these days makes more than females do) brings in his money from a job and career that he enjoys from two or three jobs because he gets a lot of satisfaction out of that. What's there to wake up about where status is concerned? Some women enjoy being female and doing certain chores.

2006-10-28 07:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by sophieb 7 · 2 1

Frankly, you're the first person I've seen use that anagram. So maybe you're the one who's sexist.

Think about it...you automatically equate "stay at home wife" with "slave", and a slave must have an owner, right?

However, many women gladly make this choice for the sake of being able to raise a family. My wife is a stay-at-home wife and mother, and she wouldn't trade it for the world. In fact, if anything, she's got it pretty good because she has a husband that sees and understands how big of a responsibility it is, and comes home from his full-time job and works full-time at home to keep her from having to carry a heavy load by herself.

In fact, now, there are some men who are stay at home men while the wife goes out and has a career? Do you think of the stay-at-home husband as being kept down on the farm? I bet not.

Usually, the person that cries "foul" is the one who sees life through one particular prism and thinks everyone sees the same thing. That is the definition of narrow-minded.

2006-10-28 07:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 1 2

Read your bible.I think God is the sexist on this one.I know,men wrote the bible but God told them what to say.It also says that a good wife is better than gold or silver.Most people don`t like to follow rules so they can always find something wrong with them.It is suppose to be team work. Is it ? If both men and women followed the rules you would not have to ask this question.Being head of the household means you are the one that has to answer for the hole household when you do go before God.Do you think you really what that on your head? I think as a man that men should think before they do that.

2006-10-28 07:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by Step 4 · 1 1

I think its a choice on the womens part. If your man is forcing you to do something you don't want to do, then you obviously shouldn't be together if you disagree on such big life decisions. People that make those comments are sexist, that doesn't mean people actually do this unless they want to.

2006-10-28 07:13:36 · answer #7 · answered by lilwalker02 2 · 1 0

There are ways to be independent and a loving caring wife at the same time in a marriage.If the man works all day and the wife does her share of duties,,the marriage is there for split,,,as to jumping when the man says so ,,is not a true part of a marriage.
Committing yourself to one another is just that,,,,do for each other not just or the man or just for the woman,,its all about working together as one.

2006-10-28 07:38:14 · answer #8 · answered by ladydi_me 2 · 1 1

(W) wonderful
(I) intelligent
(F) fearless
(E) extremely sexy

Just because a woman chooses to play the traditional role in her family doesn't make her a slave or even unhappy. My lady stays home and takes care of the kids and the house while I earn a living. She asked to stay home and so WE decided that it would be a great thing. She is happy and I still do my own laundry, clean toilets, vacuum, mop, and do all the yard work. What do you think of those sexist slave owning apples??

2006-10-28 07:30:57 · answer #9 · answered by dumb guy 2 · 3 1

Times have changed. The way the economy is these days, both people have to work in most families. But, it also depends on the circumstances. Did both parties have jobs before they got married? Who makes the most money? Could they afford to let one of the mates stay home? It all depends. It's not the same with everyone.

2006-10-28 07:12:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

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