2006-10-28 06:49:37 · 23 answers · asked by Iranique J 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Iwant to keep the baby but i'm worried i don't kno wat to do
2006-10-28 06:57:26 · update #1
Talk to your parents and make a decision with their input instead of opening yourself up to the nasty pro-life/pro-choice debate here.
2006-10-28 06:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well my dear.I was 14 when I got pregnant.I am 36 yrs old now .I was a freshmen in High-school.It was not easy.I chose to keep my son who will turn 21 in Nov. and who is my sunshine.He just got married a month ago and I am glad to say I raised a fine young man.you have to know this is not a temporary deal it is for 18 yrs and a very serious commitment. There's alot of heart-ach that comes with having a baby so young,But alot of happniess if you raise your son the right way.I wish you the best of luck.
2006-10-28 14:10:56 · answer #2 · answered by Dew 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to what people tell you in here to do, what you have is wehat you want to do, if you want a child, talk to your parents and work out no one understand how hard it is to have a baby, the rest of your life will be commited, and it wont always be a cute little baby it growns into an adult tenager all stuff your to young to deal with. if you want abortion, then get one, do what is best for you, no for anyone else, because in the end, your fe is the one whos lifee is going to changge, my mom had me when she was 15, she gave me to her parents (adoption) and my life is horrable, so now at 16, im moving in with her. she has two other kids, she said she would never take back having us, she just wish she waited 10 years. also my friend is 16 and pregnant shes having the baby and im going to be with her 100% so talk to a friend you can 100% trust, and isnt going to pull out religous thing about babies and abortion etc. they are their views, not yours, again its your life and do whatever makes you happy in the end you wont regret anything, it may seem like you do but looking back on any of the choices you make, if its what you wanted you wont regret it.
good luck hunny!!
email me if you need help
im sure my friend will talk to you too cause shes going through the same thing
xoox
2006-10-28 14:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by ahhlove 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best thing to do is weigh your option and think for the future and not for today. Like what kind of life you will provide for a baby. How that child will feel if given away(adoption). What kind mental instability you will encounter for being irresponsible. And most of all how would you live with yourself for making wrong decisions. For example, I already know you are not ready for a child if you have to ask this question in the first place. Be smart not emotional. Your Brain will lead you to the right decision. Your Heart will lead you into a brick wall head on. Good Luck for your future. Make the wrong decision and you will see how FAST life will PAST you by.
2006-10-28 14:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by boakyewa4 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Before you talk to someone, get together enough money to BUY a pregnancy test and take it. Don't shoplift the test; you would NOT want your parents to find out that you think you might be pregnant because the cops call them to tell them you've been caught shoplifting a pregnancy test!!!
If it turns out you are pregnant, you need to talk to an adult. It doesn't HAVE to be a parent, but if you can trust a parent, that's the best person to go to.
If the parent is going to freak out horrifically, find a teacher to confide in. The teacher will have to tell your parents eventually, but at least you'll have someone on your side pulling for you in the 8 hours you spend at school.
The one thing NOT to do is ignore this; you put your life in jeopardy if you ignore what's happening to you. Take control. Be strong. You're only a kid, but in this situation, you're going to have to act like an adult and step up to your responsibilities.
You can do this! Good luck.
2006-10-28 13:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by lilgoat4 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
well i will not criticize you b/c i was 15 (now 23) when i first got pregnant. i actually didn't take a test nor tell anyone till i was 5 months along. i will not tell you it was easy either. luckily my parents were okay with it. they said there is nothing they can do b/c it happened and its done and over with. they were very supportive. you will need to be very very responsible and grow up very quickly. i stayed in school, got a job and then went to college when i had a child. anyone can do it. just got to be strong. i strongly suggest, NO to abortion. believe me i know when you are 20-25 you will wonder what it would have been like to have your child just then. you dont want to have that in your mind for the rest of your life. im hoping you have people to support you? if you cannot handle a child, i suggest adoption, just not abortion. i am 23 married and pregnant with my 3rd. ill never regret having my daughter. yes... i was young and very very stupid, but i wouldn't trade her for the world. i wish you the best of luck to you.. and your baby.
2006-10-29 00:46:42 · answer #6 · answered by jessnclh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey,
If I was you, I would talk to my parents, tell them that I was sorry, and that I really want to keep my baby and want their advice!!! Let them know that an abortion isn't an option!!! Either keep it, or give it up for adoption!!! Please do not abort it!!! I know alot of girls that got pregnant at that age, and they kept their baby!! They don't regret it either!!! This is going to be your baby, what do you want to do? This baby is a blessing from God, not everybody can have a baby, you was chosen to have one, so God put this baby in your hand, and now the choice is yours!!! Just ABORTION, isn't the thing to do!! Please make the right decision!! Good Luck!!!
P.S.
Yeah, your parents might get mad, angry, hurt, upset, etc...But they will get over it as soon as you have that baby, trust me!! My parents was, and now, my dad begs me to give him my daughter because she is my dad's and mom's pride and joy!! It will be hard at first, but it ain't bad when you keep it!!! That baby will change your life, and also help you grow up, I know that is what my baby did for me!!!
P.S.S.
Don't let people tell you that you are 2 young to raise that baby, I know people who was 12 and 13 that had a baby and kept it, and they are some very good parents today!!! All that baby needs is your love!!! I didn't have a job, money, or a place of my own when I got pregnant, but that didn't stop me from keeping her!!! If you want to keep the baby, don't let anyone talk you out of it!!! If you don't want to keep the baby, then give it up for adoption!!! Yeah you might be young, but keep in mind, you ain't the only one out there that got pregnant at that age!!
2006-10-28 14:00:09 · answer #7 · answered by afinechic_2000 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if I was 14 and pregnant:
1- I would be very very scare
2- I would talk with my mom ( or some one"adult" who I trust) even I knew she will be very mad
3- I would start planing for my future and see if baby can be there
4- I would think what is the best for baby first
5- I would stop having sex out of marriage
Good luck with you
2006-10-28 14:24:14 · answer #8 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant when I was 14 my son is 12 years old now,I was scared but everything has turned out fine so far good luck
2006-10-29 00:20:22 · answer #9 · answered by Jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first thing is to tell someone close to you wheather it be a parents,grandparent....best to tell mom or dad....they will proberly want to kill you but if they love they will be there for you.my sister had her baby at 15,luckly my mother was there for her and helped her take care of him while she stayed in school..STAY IN SCHOOL!!...with the help of the family she was able to finish top of her class and is now in college and on her own now with her son and are doing great.it worked out well for her but its not the same in ever case..you need to sit down and think of what you life will be like with a baby and what your childs life would be like with you as a mother...you will have to grow up fast and put childish things behind you..consider your opinons and if you cant find a way then i think best to give you child up for adoption,dont abort,its not his or hers fault that he/she was created.
2006-10-28 14:10:06 · answer #10 · answered by lovedove662000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋