Ok... so my best friend in the whole wide world made me mad. She told somebody about something that I really wanted to keep secret. Now we're fighting. I don't want to fight with her but I don't know what to do. I've never been the kind of person to just come out and apollogize for something. And with this I truely believe that I am right in being upset. I love her so much, more than my own life. I would die for my best friend anyday. And I don't want to be fighting with her anymore. What am I supposed to do?? Please help me!!
2006-10-28 06:47:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well if she's telling other people about your secrets when you asked her not to, then she isn't a very good friend, is she?
unless you didn't tell her not to tell, then you can't be too mad at her.
just talk to her, ask her why she did it .. etc.
hope it helps.
good luck.
2006-10-28 06:50:30 · answer #1 · answered by Araya Starshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know how much you love her and don't want to lose her, but you feel that the trust is hanging by a thread because of what she shared with someone else. Let her know how you appreciate that she listens to you, but you dont appreciate sharing your secrets with someone else. Call her up and have coffee or have a date set somewhere neutral so it doesnt blow up into a fight (nothing worse than fighting in public) and maybe she'll be more apt to listen to you, and you two can come to an understanding and spend time together again. GOod luck, it'll work out, make the moves, but you dont have to really apologize, just let her know nicely how you felt, and butter her up with how much you appreciate her, and make her feel that you do still care so that things can get back to normal.
2006-10-28 13:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by overwhelmed85 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r right u have a right to be upset, she should b the one saying sorry to u. stop stressing over her obviously she is not a friend to go and tell ur business. but u can be the bigger person and say sorry, but just watch what u say to her from then on. i believe that if a person don't want to hear something back they should not tell it in the first place. good luck.
2006-10-28 13:56:59 · answer #3 · answered by sweet143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are totally right you should not apologize the person that should be apologizing is your friend you have not done anything wrong. You should maybe stop fighting and listen to each other tell her how you are feeling.
2006-10-28 13:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by lizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in the exact same situation. what helped me was to tell my friend that i was very upset & then tell her why i had wanted the secret to be kept secret & how her telling it affected me. i gave her a while to think about it & then i let it go because her friendship was more important to me than holding a grudge. good luck.
2006-10-28 13:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by Mommy Kai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, she's lucky to have a friend like you "till death do us part."
Well, don't fight anymore then. Apologizing doesn't mean you're losing.
Talk it out, that's the only solution.
All the best!
2006-10-28 13:53:46 · answer #6 · answered by j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somtimes you have to be the adult one and apologize even though you are in the right. ive had to do it once i didnt like it but it saved my friendship. a few weeks later when its all over bring it up and tell her you really didnt want anyone to know and tell her that it made you feel like you couldnt trust the only one you thought you could trust.
2006-10-28 14:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by legion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you confronted her on the situation and thats all that you can do. sometimes when you tell friend things you confide in her to keep quite. dont brush off things that make you upset because it will become a repeative habbit on her behalf. sometimes, even if she is your best friend are ment to keep to yourself. sometimes thats just the way they are. you have to accept that and learn from it
2006-10-28 13:53:51 · answer #8 · answered by sexyfnbitch7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off you need to get some help, you'd die for her? you love her more than you love yourself? sounds like she needs another best friend who isn't so creepy.
2006-10-28 13:52:30 · answer #9 · answered by champagne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 words"I am sorry!" if you would die for a friend, you would surely say those simple words for her, right,sis? e-mail me so we can discus this.
2006-10-28 13:54:15 · answer #10 · answered by nicegirl147 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋