Here's the facts: my wife and i have recently moved. my wife returned home last week and was trying to figure out where she was going to sleep. one of her friends offered for my wife to sleep at their house. our friend's husband wasn't going to be home - just the two wives. but, my wife and i have fooled around with these friends before on multiple occasions. we've fooled around with each other's wives and they have fooled around together. my wife and her girl friend have kissed, sucked, and licked all over each other (i mean - everywhere).
My wife asked me if I cared if she stayed with this girl friend alone for one night. i didn't want her to, so she didn't.
Did I overreact? Men, what would you have done? Ladies, what would you have wanted me to do as your husband?
2006-10-28 06:41:05 · 15 answers · asked by Me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
see what u both have created?? No trust because u are both messing around with other people while u r both married. This need to stop now or u will both always have to worry about the other person!!!
2006-10-28 06:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never be in this situation in the first place, for this reason, but since you are, now you need to ask a couple of questions..... Has she ever done anything to make you believe she would sleep with anybody and not tell you? I'm not counting the times she was with this other woman, because you obviously know about it. Do you think she is the type of person to have another relationship, without you involved. The fact that she respected your wishes and didn't stay the night tells me she respects you, and people that respect their spouses usually don't cheat. But that's just my opinion. I can't say what I would have done in your circumstances, I've never experienced anything like it.
2006-10-28 06:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, just what makes you think you are different? Oh, yeah he told you so. Just remember he told the wife he loved her and would be faithful to her. This guy is a cheater, he cheated on his first girlfriend he cheated on his wife and he will cheat on you. Run away from this entire situation and run away fast. Shame on you for cheating with a married man in the first place, but at least you can turn that around by getting away now. Even stay away from the mutual friends. Don't you dare tell his wife, don't you think that you have done enough damage? Now you want to break her heart. Just take what's left of any decency that you have and get awayy from this situation now and never let him contact you again. Red
2016-05-22 03:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you did the right thing, does your wife still kinda sorta like this girl messing around with her, seems that way or wouldn't have asked you to let her stay with a former love.
2006-10-28 07:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell her that it is bothering you and ask her to not do anything with the other person. If she says that nothing will happen then you have to trust her. If you have a history with this other couple then I understand your concern however you are more important and you are where her loyalties lie...I think she will see that and you need to learn to trust each other.
2006-10-28 06:46:27 · answer #5 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel conferable. That's all that should matter. And your wife should respect your wishes. How do you think she would feel if you wanted to stay the night with one of your ex's or someone you had sex with?
2006-10-28 07:03:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife sleeps with women, and it does not bother me. I trust her I do not believe she would sleep with another man, or even a women if I asked her not to, but I am not threatened by her sleeping with women.
I guess it is whatever YOU can live with.
2006-10-28 06:47:26 · answer #7 · answered by Todd V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a little weird. first off you shouldn't have been open to the arrangement in the first place. honestly, it just opened up a can of worms. I'm a woman and i wouldn't have let her either. i'm sure that she wouldn't have seen it as cheating either. always stick to your gut opinion.
2006-10-28 06:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by sexyfnbitch7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell is the difference now they already did the deed!! See what happens when you do things that your not spose to do in marriage????Now you are just dealing with the consequences of your actions. "shakes head"
2006-10-28 06:45:03 · answer #9 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were ok with it before, and obviously you were or you wouldnt have messed around with the same woman alone or together, does it really matter?
2006-10-28 06:44:32 · answer #10 · answered by autumnl78 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋