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What is the best and safest way to find another couple in the Tampa Bay Area to begin a swinging relationship with? Please consider that we are both shy and have never done this before. We are just looking to add a little sexual excitment to our marrage.

2006-10-28 06:37:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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2006-10-28 08:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Before you do anything make sure that your relationship is strong enough for the consequences and if any jealousies crop up.
There is a swing group here in the Carolina's called Carolina Friends so I actually looked to see if there was a Tampabayfriends.com and there is...they have some adult links on there...some may be a bit racy for you and the Mrs...you can see what you think. be safe and good luck!

2006-10-28 13:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 0 1

You don't find answers by looking outside your marriage. Someone will always be hurt and disappointed. Maybe you don't think that now, but that's because someone isn't being honest.

You jusl feel like your marriage lacks excitement because your bodies aren't producing those "new relationship" chemicals like crazy anymore. Your passionate love has evolved into compassionate love.

Your bodies are now making chemicals that promote a more relaxed, long-term sense of acceptance and comfort. Don't mistake this for lack of chemistry or excitement. And don't make the mistake of violating your marriage by introducing others into it.

The way to get that 'rush' feeling back is to exercise and do activities with your partner. And you have to provide opportunities to show each other off in public, flirt and date, and win each other over.

Join a fitness center together and do activities that engage both of you. Rackettball, tennis, kickboxing, spin classes. Get your heartrate up over 140 for at least 90 minutes three times a week. This makes you body start making "new relationship" chemicals again, and when you include your partner, you associate the "rush" with them. Do this 3 times a week.

Another thing you can do is to take Tango dancing lessons. The tango is a physical expression of passion and partnership. It gives you a chance to be 'the man' and to lead her in the dance. Do this once a week.

These 'dates' give you the opportunity to flirt wildly and win each other over again and again. Inspire her to feel like your #1 choice and precious to you. Whisper naughty things you want to do to her, in her ear when you sit close to her. Build up excitement about going home and cozying up together.

Chances are, your wife only agrees to swinging because she wants to please you. But if you do it, you will see just how quickly she loses trust and faith in your love.

She will snoop, interrogate, and regulate you and your every move, 24/7. And it will be all your fault. She will always wonder of she measures up, or if you want the other woman more than her. She will think you are thinking of the other woman when you are with her. She will resent you for causing her to feel this way (unattractive, insecure, unloved).

Don't be afraid to try toys, KY warming liquid, and female-friendly porn. You can find out more about that at www.delaurabermanspassionfiles.com.

Tell her you changed your mind and you couldn't share her with another. Tell her she means everything to you. Tell her you love her for being willing to try something as new and as radical as swinging, but you just can't go there.

Tell her you want her to put on a nice dress and some low heels, because you have plans. Then take her to dinner and to Arthur Murray Dance Studio (or another one) and start learning to tango.

2006-10-28 14:06:23 · answer #3 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 2 0

r u nuts of something. i dont know how can u do that. your wife is having sex with other in front of you. dont u think. if you are too curious about this bring vibrators for both and have it and play it. let me tell you one thing. you did this. and she did sex with someone. from next time if she dont like your company compare to previous one, then everytime u will go to find another guy.
think man think. we are here to manage our life smoothly. not to be a prostitute.

2006-10-28 13:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by GLADIATOR 3 · 1 0

Place an ad in the paper.

2006-10-28 13:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0 1

I swear all the wild ones are in fl

2006-10-28 13:39:20 · answer #6 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0 1

CHECK WITH THE MONKEYS AT THE ZOO!!!!!

2006-10-28 13:40:08 · answer #7 · answered by -------- 7 · 2 0

swingerlifestyles.com it works and it is awesome, give it a look.

2006-10-28 13:50:53 · answer #8 · answered by Todd V 3 · 0 1

dont do it!! it will cause u big problems

2006-10-28 13:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by Amy 3 · 2 0

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2006-10-28 13:39:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

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