i'm frustrated and tired what should i do?

Question

i'm 18 years old i have a son of 11 months and 3 of my little brother and sisters. i live on my own i take care of them, but i'm tired of it i feel like giving up already i have to much responsibilty, i have a lot of bills and also my little sisters and brothers and son that i must support i dont get any help from goverment i just get from what i get from work and its not a lot, what should i do should i give up and send them to different homes because i cant send them with mom, or what should i do i really do need help

Answer 1

Write down your resources.
Someone is helping you in some way.
There are friends and family who might help.
Call 211, or social services for help, even if advice.

Ask each this same question.
Be prepared to take responsibility for your child,
whom you had before you were prepared.
There is nothing you can do to change that.
You just take responsibility and go on.

Your siblings should NOT be your duty.
For the sake of your own child,
one of your real choices is to let them go.
Are you really able to give them the life they deserve?
I'm assuming that they are all in school.
Call the school and ask for a social worker to call you.
Tell them the situation and ask for advice.

Most girls do what you probably have already done,
which hasn't worked. They find a man to rescue them.
You might have to do jus that, too, again, with a better choice.
The one thing you don't want to do is get pregnant again,
and bring one more soul into your home to do without enough.

I can tell you are a good person. I hear that you are trying.
You are just too alone in this.
Think of the father of your child. What is he doing?
Is he sacrificing and is he tired from caring for his child?

State your values, whatever rules you have for yourself,
and write them down, hang them on the walls,
and keep adding to the list as you live and learn.
Read them everyday when you get up.
Read them every night when you go to bed.

Do the same for your goals.
Write down the steps to reaching your goals.
Keep them in mind all the time.
This will give you hope. Once you find hope,
you will be less tired, and not so frustrated.

I would go to a Bible, open it to the New Testament,
Book of Matthew, Chapter 5, the Beatitudes,
and read, for it is written about you, to you.
You will be amazed by the time you read ten minutes.

When Jesus says blessed are those who:
are poor in spirit -- that is you,
mourn -- that is about to be you,
are meek -- that will be you,
but then he says:
those who seek righteousness,
and that is what you are doing by reading Matt 5,
seeking the right way to go, to live, and face life.

Once you do that, you can then find mercy,
mercy for yourself, and your mother, too,
and become pure of heart, telling it like it is,
not fooling yourself or others,
and you will become a peace maker at home,
and everywhere, having and giving the hope you now need.

In your heart, once you pray, you will know the way to go.
You will do what is best for you, for your child, and your siblings.
I am praying for you.

In Matt 5, Jesus says, "Seek and ye shall find"
well, you are seeking. I know you will find it.
For you are good, and want to be good,
and want to do good. No one can stop you.
dj of raleigh

Answer 2

That IS a lot of responsibility for a person your age. Your 11 month old son, should be your primary concern. I understand that you love your brothers & sisters very much, & that your mom isn't responsible enough to give them the proper care, but their situation isn't of your making is it? I think not, but your son's situation IS a result of YOUR choices, so you may want to make that distinction when it comes to the decisions you are going to have to make so you can cope.
You didn't say where you live, but I can't believe that you don't qualify for some kind of social assistance if you live somewhere in North America. If you are the primary caregiver of these children, then you may also qualify for child support from the Father(s) of these children.
Plus I don't think that handing your brothers & sisters over to someone else's care is "Giving up" on them. Think of it more as doing the responsible thing, & assuring that they are getting the best of care that is available to them. Remember, you won't be any good for anyone if you are all wrung out by taking on more responsiblity than you are prepared for at your young age.

Answer 3

This would possibly sound harsh or bizarre, however facet of the trouble is that you are asking him. His academics do not ASK him to do his classwork. They inform him to do it. Many white core-magnificence mothers and fathers ask their kids approximately the whole thing whether or not they are honestly giving them a alternative or no longer. It's an handy addiction to get into, however it does not support the youngster. Instead of asking him to scrub out the dishwasher, quite simply say, "It's time for you blank out the dishwasher." You would additionally set apart a few small period of time daily while you each blank up in combination. "I'll care for the laundry and also you care for vacuuming." Pick a track you each fairly like that has a blissful and upbeat vibe, and use that as your blank-up track. It may also support calm either one of you and support you bond a few extra. Also ensure to allow him recognise that you just fairly respect what he DOES do.

Answer 4

You should be able t claim them on your taxes, and get some money back. Is there any grandparents that can help out? Or friends? Its a shame this is your situation. I know you are tired of it, and more then what you want. But take a look at their lives. it is better that they are being taken care of by you. Shows them that they aren't going to be pushed off onto someone else.

Have you tried to get money from the govt? There should be some way to get help.
I'm not much of help there. What if... you got a live in nanny, someone to take care of your kids while you are gone, and he/she can live at your place for free in exchange for the daycare. Then you are out perhaps less money.
Sorry I wouldn't know what to do... Except to get a good woman to help you out!

Answer 5

I think that it's time to seek professional help. Also, no offense or anything, please don't take this the wrong way, but 18 is way too young to have a baby. I think you just want to live like an 18 year old. Maybe you should take parenting classes and get help.

Answer 6

Try getting a babbysitter so you can relax a bit.
Or get a trusted family member or friend to assist you! Good luck on everthing. You should be proud on what you are doing.

Answer 7

try sending them to different family members but dont put them up for adoption alot of bad things happen to kids in there.

Answer 8

I think if they are always hungry put them into adoption or maybe give them to family and explain your situation.

Answer 9

you should contact your county. there should be services that will help you. Find a support group for single parents. they can help provide some emotional support.