my wife is torturing and black mailing me?

Question

i'am a 29 yrs old boy got married in 1999, 7 yrs back, to a woman who is 4 yrs elder than me, her name is kanchan, we have got a daughter also 7 yrs old , her name is neharika. after marriage my wife hardly stayed 3 months with me, after that she concieved the baby and she went to her mothers house, then she stayed in her mother's hous there after, 4 yrs passed and when her mother was seriously ill , i went to help help in all ways .physically and monetaryly, there after she came back it's been 2 yrs since she came back to stay with me. for the past 6 months we have not come close to each other, she is always demanding security in her name like she says to transfer the property and business in her name, on not doing so she tortures me mentally upto such an extent that i'am not able to run my business. she tells me not to keep any relation with my family members, brother, sister, mother, sister in law, nieces. i had comitted adultery with maid servant for which i askes her forgiveness, i confessed my mistake in front of every body, but she is taking advantage of my mistake , and making it an issue to black mail me. please help and show me the way. right know i have left my business and house and have come to stay with my mother, even the doctor has advised me to take rest. i have become mentally and physically sick, my wife and her mother are right now in my house and they are looking after the business. recent i had attented a retreat for 3 days and feeling some what better, but the evil sprit of my wife is making me worry.

Answer 1

You've done the right things. But now you need to take your life back.

The first part of the marriage vows says "To love, honor and cherish," and that is the foundation the rest of the vows (sickness/health, richer/poorer, til death.....) . You are not being respected, loved, honored, or cherished. Go back to work. Work the business you built. Ask her and her mother to please move out of your house. Tell her you are not putting any property in her name. (Marital assets are joint property anyway.) Have conversation with an attorney to protect the assets associated with the business. She's sucking the money and the life out of you. You make it stop.

Answer 2

Sweetheart,
What ever you do don't transfer anything in her name. It's all a plan in the making with her and her mother. Their going to rob you blind. How can she blackmail you for adultery? You could get her for abandonment, desertion or loss of consortium. Ask your attorney about that. She left you for four years while you were still married. Please seek legal counseling right away. I have a feeling her and her mother will take advantage of your mental state right now. Lean on your family and friends for strength. She's trying to alienate you from your family for a reason. So no one can talk any sense into you. Don't let her scare you about child custody either. I know a lot of men that get afraid their children will be taken away. Sounds like you should have custody to me. Are you in New York? What country is she from? Regain your strength and take no ****. I know your sick right now but don't turn your back on them for too long. Someone from your family should be overseeing your business. Please don't even think about staying with this woman. She'll have you sign everything over and slap you with divorce papers. Always stay two steps ahead. Consult a lawyer and find out your rights. Your wife probably thinks you don't have balls enough to do that. Surprise her. Take care of yourself. You sound like such a nice guy. Good luck and be well.

Answer 3

It's easy for someone to sit there and say get a divorce. You have obviously thought of everything that that would come up in the situation of a divorce. It has been my experience that the weak weed themselves out. You need to stop stressing. These women cannot hurt you anymore than you let them. You have asked for forgiveness for your affair. That's all you can do. DO NOT PUT ANYTHING IN HER NAME. Kill them with kindness. Go back to being your calm self. Be very attentive to her needs and pray hard when she tries to start a fight. Never get violent. If she gets violent, leave the room or house, whatever is necessary. You can overcome these wicked people without loosing your house, business, or daughter. But you have to do it with God on your side. In any given situation, ask yourself, what would Jesus do? God will either change her heart or she will get tired of torturing you and leave. Most likely she will leave her daughter with you because people like that really only care about themselves. Try to keep your daughter out of the fights. No one will benefit from her seeing the two of you mad at each other. The bible says a woman is suppose to cherish her husband. You, in return should give her respect. But if she wants your business and material things, she is going to have to take you with it. You are in my prayers.

Answer 4

Hon your description says it all...you need to realize you are a man not a boy and this whole situation is not just hurting you but it is also hurting your daughter.
I am assuming also probably correctly you are either not in the United States or you have a different cultural view than the general one of the average American (if there is such a thing! LOL)
I am not sure how divorce is viewed in your culture but if it were here I would say that you need to separate yourself from this situation and this woman who is causing you nothing but pain and work out some sort of monetary/custody agreement for your child. This cannot be good for your child and it is surely not good for you. You need to do what is best for your child and yourself and dissolve the marriage if you can.
Also, do not fold to her and put things in her name if you can help it...she will have everything you worked so hard to attain and you will wind up being left out in the cold...good luck!

Answer 5

Did you have the business in your Name before you married her?
If so, I would get a lawyer and draw papers up so that she cannot take the business away from you, in case she leaves you.
Second of all I would move the mother out of the house, to her own place. She will not help if you want the marriage to work.
Or here is another option get rid of both of them and find someone who is not a gold digger.

Answer 6

If she has custody of you guys' kid then you cant take her. Kick her sorry *** out she does not need to be living in a house where she doesn't respect the owner. And if you you really want to make her mad, get a new girlfriend and make out on your couch when she comes home for a surprise. Good Luck ♥

Answer 7

You are making matters worse in your own head, by believing this person who is your wife in name only. She doesnt seem to care for you in the way that a mate does. Leave her and her mother together. Take care of your business, and have only your own name on your business and belongings.

Answer 8

i don't think you should stay with her any longer, there's no love in this marriage, she's just wanting everything you own, your money, your house, and she doesn't want you to have anyone, this situate is similar to my uncle's situation. He married a wife like that, now she doesn't want to divorce him, and she took everything away he has, his money, car, his factory. Now he has to start all over. Listen to me, she's controling you, you need to get out of this marriage before things get even worse.

and when they first bought the house and everything, after they got married, everything's all under her name, not a thing was under my uncle's name, only a couple properties were under my uncle's name and she forced him to change it.

Answer 9

Obviously she wants a divorce or you to well die.. If she wants to get the business and everything in her name and you to no longer contact your family.. She wants to be the one who gets everything and doesn't want your family to have any part in it.. Why are you with that psycho?? Ummm.. Anyone can do better..

Answer 10

Have a day of freedom by yourself and relax.What i mean is go wherever you want and do anything you want there....get a spa,eat your favourite things relax,And that should help you forget about your wife.And after that bump her and send her bad emails so she gives up.