I got pregnant and i dont know what to do. I no me and the guy wont stay together. Im only 2 weeks pregnant. I have a 4 year old and i dont want to raise another kid in two diff homes again. I dont know what to think or do. I dont want to disappoint my parents again like this. I dont know if i should keep it and i dont believe in abortions but thats whats goin through my head right now. I know how stupid can ya get. I am scared please help me!!
2006-10-28 06:10:08 · 9 answers · asked by me 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
How old are you? You obviously know the responsiblities ahead of you. Take a deep breath. How do you know you and the father won't stay together? Was it a one night stand? Personally I don't believe in abortion. Can a family member adopt the child from you? Would the father want resposibility? Think things through carefully, but remember to think of what would be best for this child. Will you give up your parental rights?
2006-10-28 06:17:23 · answer #1 · answered by puzzleraspie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it looks like we're in the exact same situation. I have a 2 year old and i raised him alone for a while got back with his dad and now i'm alone again. I found out i am pregnant with a friends baby and i know we won't be together and i know my parents are gonna be upset but there is nothing i can do, nor is there anything you can do. Please don't have an abortion i find them very wrong and it's upsetting to me that anybody would want to hurt an innocent baby. If you really feel like you can't raise the baby alone then you need to give the baby up. When i was 18 i had a baby and i wasn't ready to do it alone so i made the choice to give her up and it was the best decision of my life, i made 2 people very happy and i would do it again in a heartbeat. There are many ways to handle this. Just do what i did, talk to the guy figure out exactly what he wants and if he really wants the baby, if not then i think your best bet is to give up the baby. If he really wants the baby then you guys need to talk. My friend has decided that the best thing for us right now is to remain close and have the baby and go from there, we're also moving into together so that he can help with the pregnancy and the baby when the time comes. Like i said i personally think adoption is the best way to go if you feel it would be too hard, but make sure you go through the counselling and everything because without that you'll be so upset but happy at the same time that there are people out there that need your help in having a baby, just think hard and long about what to do.I hope this helps
2006-10-28 14:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by babygurrl20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Growing up in two different homes can be a burden on both the parent and the child, and you are right, that is not the best thing for your child. It seems like you are hesitant about whether or not you can even handle raising another kid right now. If this is true, consider giving your child up for adoption. And the phrase "giving your child up" does not mean you'll never see him again. Pick a family that understands your situation as his biological mother, and set up plan with them so you can visit as frequent as you wish. This way you can still be a large part of your newborns life, while giving him the best opportunities to succeed.
Yes your parents will be disappointed again, but this has already happened. Prove them wrong the next time around. Get on birth control, and even better, don't get caught up with BOYS. If you're going to get involved with anyone, make sure its a MAN, who will be there not only for you, but your children too. Good luck girl!
2006-10-28 13:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
in my opinion abortion shouldn't even be an option. It's murder, no matter how people try to justify it.
If you don't want this baby, think of how many childless women are out there that would give this baby a wonderful life. You would be answering someones prayers.
http://www.parentprofiles.com/pregnancy-articles/putting-your-baby-up-for-adoption
If you decide to keep the baby, Your parents will get over it and should help you through this. It is their grandbaby after all.
Goodluck in whatever you decide to do, my prayers are with you.
2006-10-28 13:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by mommy_2_katelynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
Please don't have an abortion....If you don't want to raise the baby, give the baby up for adoption!!! I know that my uncle's wife wants to have a baby, but she can't get pregnant, so if you give the baby up for adoption, you will be making one family mighty happy!!! That baby is innocent, please don't kill it, you will regret it later on life....Your parents will only be disappointed in you for a little while and then as soon as they lay eyes on that baby, they will love that baby to death!!! May God be with you!!!
2006-10-28 13:15:43 · answer #5 · answered by afinechic_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All these feelings will pass, life isn't easy, and you take it how it comes. This is already a beating heart in you right now. Don't do anything but have the baby!!! It just seems so bad in the moment!!!!! Stay strong and you will figure it out!!!
2006-10-28 13:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by BIB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. How Old Are You?
2.Are You Married?
3. How Old Were You When You Had Your 1st Child?
Reply Quickly!!!
2006-10-28 13:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with your heart hun, abortion is something that will b with u so take care to make the right dec..
Good Luck
x
2006-10-28 13:15:43 · answer #8 · answered by Trying 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't get an abortion! It is your baby, your flesh and blood!
2006-10-28 13:18:45 · answer #9 · answered by Medusa [is in ♥] 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋