I have never been able to go through with a full physical exam with the doctor and fear that vaginal penetration during sex will be extremely painful. What could be wrong?
2006-10-28 05:58:10 · 11 answers · asked by froggy 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Nothing is wrong with you at all. It is perfectly natural and normal for women to be different sizes down there. The majority of women experiance pain when they have sex for the first time, which is also natural and normal. It doesn't sound like you have anything out of the ordinary but you should talk to a doctor about the pain if it is overly painful, this could be your bodies way of telling you something is wrong. As to the sex part, I don't like to get into those questions because we all have our own morals, beliefs and views of what is acceptable and what is not and I wouldn't want to upset you, your parents or anyone else. But I will say this, and only because I think most people would agree, it is always better to talk to a physician and/or your parents before becoming sexually active. A little knowledge can go a long way.
2006-10-28 06:05:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow honey, I don't know for sure but something surely is! Sex should not be painful and for that matter an exam by a doctor (while not pleasant) should not be painful either!
For one thing I would try a different doctor. If at all possible I would find a female doctor. I know it sounds biased but women are just more gentle and they understand better than a man does. After all how can a man really understand cramps? In my life I have always found female OB/GYNs to be SO much better than males. If you just can not find one, at least try a differnet male doctor, some are better than others.
I would say that the most likely problem is just stress and/or tension. You tense up expecting it to hurt and not wanting to disappoint you, it does! You need to relax, try some deep breathing exercises and do them during the exam. It is essential that you find a doctor that understands what has happened in the past and is well aware of your feelings.
Assuming that you are anatomically normal ( and I am sure that if you were not you would have known by now!) love making should NOT be uncomfortable. At least not past that first time when a little discomfort is to be expected. As long as you are well lubricated and the man is not unnecessarily rough, (or large) making love should NOT hurt.
Find someone you can talk to. ( what about your Mom?) and get to the bottom of this problem honey. It should not be this way.
BTW, how old are you? If you are tying to rush sex that could certainly be the problem. Are you old enough to even be in a sexual relationship? The comment about the doctor makes me think that you are.
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Love and Blessings
Lady T~
2006-10-28 06:17:44 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Trinity 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to add some type of vaginal lubrication for sex or practice with a fibrator to see if that will help you become more comfortable with the concept of penetration.
2006-10-28 06:03:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Vaginal penetration can only be painful for your first few times, not after that.
2006-10-28 06:00:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well just to help you out, if you are a virgin then yes most likely it will hurt a little. But the pain will end sooner than you think. To answer your question, just think you are sticking something in an area that is not used to having much shoved there. I guess it hurts cause it is streaching more than you are used to. But don't be afraid to go to the doctor, they will try to make you as comfortable as possible.
2006-10-28 06:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by lbitsports 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hard to imagine....Lack of lubrication, moisture, and carefullness. You need more lubrication and moisture, as well as someone who is careful, cautious, and gentle. Nothing wrong with you at all.
2006-10-28 06:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may be too dry . Vaseline should fix it until you get over your fear
2006-10-28 06:02:40 · answer #7 · answered by mindtelepathy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you've psyched ourself out and you are not ready to have sex.
2006-10-28 06:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are not fully arouse, then yes.
2016-05-22 03:15:47 · answer #9 · answered by DawnKarin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a man, A MAN I TELL U
2006-10-28 06:01:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋