Do you have any overweight friends?
2006-10-28 05:52:25 · 24 answers · asked by need_advice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
People who choose their friends based on physical appearance are too shallow to engage in real friendship. Ignore your weight and concentrate on enjoying your life with or without friends. Be satisfied with acquaintances for the moment until you've known people well enough and long enough to be able to call them friends. It's more important to be out there participating in life and getting a bit of enjoyment out of it than it is to wonder about your lack of success in the friendship stakes.
2006-10-28 06:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by Frankie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes... I have an over weight friend and she is the greatest... she pretty, funny, dresses nice and she a true friend.
But... some people do avoid being around unattractive people... which being heavy falls into that catagory... sorry... I wish more people love each other more for who we are on the inside... this all sounds corny... but it's true... society and the media has painted this picture of what we should look like... and the real truth is only about 50% of the population fall into the socially acceptable human form...
Go to coping.org you may find some tips in handling this.
Good luck... hope this helps!!!!
2006-10-28 06:01:55 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being overweight shouldn't effect what friends think about you. If they were a real friend they would like you no matter what you look like.
I have big friends, and they seem to be much nicer than the smaller ones, becasue they have been through fat jokes and laughter. I seem to like bigger people better.
There is nothing wrong with u hun. Just keep your head up and you'll real realize that the people who don't like you because you may be a little bigger, aren't worth your time.
E-mail me sometime i'll love to be your friend
=-)
2006-10-28 06:52:15 · answer #3 · answered by Britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it just depends on the person, i personally don't see weight as an issue, unless the person makes it an issue. like for instence, if we're gonna go out to a picnic, outside event..ect. and you have trouble walking or doing an activity, thats fine i will wait and sit with you. but if you had the same issues and complained like i can't , i don't want to, i'm too big then it affends me cus you don't even try, or you don't try to get in a lil shape to be able to do these things. being overweight is fine as long as it doesn't restrict you from daily activites, if it does thenthats where the other people might come into play. super active people wouldn't befriend an over wieght person, if they couldn't do the active life style. i have over weight friends and over weight family memebers, and some times it does limit who i ask to do certain things with me, but i ask anyways. because if they can do it and want to try to do it, then i will be suportive. don' let your weight hold you back from doing stuff and having fun. and if it does try to loose enough that you can get out there and have fun.
2006-10-28 06:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it does not matter how much a person weighs that makes them a good friend or not. If someone just looks on the outside to determine if someone can be a good friend then there is a good chance they will be superficial themselves. I look for people who are genuine and true to themselves oh and a lotta fun to be around too! Right now I am not a skinny minnie myself and I would hate to think that someone would pass me by just because I am hauling around a few extra pounds.
To me it's what's on the inside that matters most...and to be honest many of my best friends also have extra padding!
2006-10-28 06:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off if u have a freind that doesnt want to b ur friend because your fat thats not i friend. A friend is someone who likes you for you and is your friend because they feel a connection with u. CUz they feel comfortable talkn and having fun with you. And if they think your to fat to be their friend just tell them u dont need them. Remember god made everybody differently. What they dont like others do. And yes i do have overweight friends and theirs nothing wrong with it
2006-10-28 06:17:14 · answer #6 · answered by sexy_luv_tika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that anyone who judges a person for what they look like instead of what kind of person you are are missing out on many rewarding relationships. My wife is a full-figured woman, and I can truthfully say that she is the most wonderful person in my life! If you keep on being yourself, people will see the you for the great person you are; and those who can't get past the wrapping on the box and think only the thin and beautiful count will be the... LOSERS.
2006-10-28 06:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by boots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i only have 2 true friends 1 is fat i have other friends but i know they wouldn't do anything for me so they don't count and some are fat i love my friend ( who is fat) to death but i really hate calling her that because she is so beautiful but i think some skinny girls like having bigger friends because they feel like if they go out the guys will look at them not their big friend not i my case im happy with who im with and not looking but i used tohave this really skinny short real cute friend and i hated going out with her cuz i always felt ugly and fat around her even though i was 5' 4" and weight 120 not fat at all but i dont think it has anything to do with your weight unless your trying to be friends with people who will just stab you in the back and id much rather have 1 true friend ( you'll find out who they are as you get older out of school, ect.) than have a million people who just claim to be my friend
2006-10-28 06:39:12 · answer #8 · answered by Kadie-bird 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its definitely not a reason from people not wanting 2 b frends.. people can be cruel, while teasing n making fun.. but as 4 me, i got great frends , girls, who r quite fat..its jus the attitude, the nature , the frendliness which matters. the people may loose their flab , but they r the same people inside.. so its the inner person, the personality which matters for frendship.. those who dont respect u, n consider ur too fat 2 b their frend, dont give a damn 2 them..forget such people u wud find better people for frends..enjoy life!!well, i'll say loosing the flab will get u more confident..i hav also gone thru similiar thing..
2006-10-28 06:01:43 · answer #9 · answered by jini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have overweight friends but it is the personality that really matters not the size.
2006-10-28 05:54:40 · answer #10 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋