I don't know how to make friends. I think I expect too much from people. Maybe I am too uptight, maybe I am too selfish, maybe I am too worried about appearances or what people will think of me. How can I loosen up and make more friends? Real friends, the kind that actually care about you? What am I doing wrong?
2006-10-28 05:47:48 · 20 answers · asked by need_advice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
One thing I have learned in life is that people will do what they wanna do and you cannot make anyone be your friend. You let people be who they are and don't worry so much whether they will like you or not.
By the same token it is very important you be who you are and let people like you for you. Just relax and let things flow...think of what kind of friend or person you like to be around...someone who is fun, happy, a joy to be around but is a caring friend and person without a whole lotta drama that wears on your nerves. Take things easy at first and just let things go where they may. However never do things that are against your principals just to be considered popular or one of the gang...
In the end I always go by this tried and true adage...to have a friend you have to be one.
2006-10-28 05:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know you so i cant say if your my type of person who i want as a friend...but that's OK..Ill be your friend any way..I don't know how I'm going to explain this to my girl friend..but for now well just play it by ear...be who you are...if you need improvement you'll know what to work on..and I'm not talking about weight problems..but if YOU think that's a problem the the health club is the perfect place to meet friends..what are the things you like to do???Having something in common with other people.but don't get into some thing you don't like..for instance,some people socialize at the bar.not good if you don't drink.dancing !!Do you like to dance??it has to be some thing your interested in ..I love Good deal so I head to the flea market on Sunday..that's a place where hundreds turn out..but you know what?..that when i most want to be alone..I can be around hundreds and at the same time be in my own world..I love to watch people yet never have to utter a word.I also love to talk..LOL I talk my girl friend Right to sleep..i know this cause while I'm blabbing her eyes are closed..you can have one friend or a hundred.I hope Ive helped..call on Johnny boy any time..good luck
2006-10-28 13:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not doing anything wrong, your just a girl. women have trouble making real friends because we are so back stabbish, or selfish, or just plain bitchy. some girls can befriend someone easy, but give it a week and she talks about that friend like an enemy, other girls watch and see how that girl is before giving to a total friendship, but adventualy that friend will talk bad and back stab. the best thing is to just go with a flow and befriend women all the time. some you will loose quickly others will stay for a awhile. but not just trying, well you can miss out on some great girl times, girl talk, and girl gossiping about your friend you like but pissed you off somhow. us ladies are just scandlous
2006-10-28 12:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let yourself go. Walk up to someone in the library and introduce yourself. Talk to someone new during downtimes in class (I'm guessing you're still in school?). Come to school without your makeup on. Anything that shows people that you are a nice, kind, and caring person will help you in the friendship department. You may find one day that you are best friends with a person who isn't on the cover of Vogue attractive, but they are dependent, loyal, and most importantly, beautiful to YOU! :D
2006-10-28 12:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by vratsababe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to think too much of how impressing ur friends cos that always is wrong understood .. just be urself
with a real friend u will feel so comfortable to talk in any thing (and i mean good and BAD things) .. just search that person in ur surrondings
finaly just believe that there is always someone that u dont know always want to be ur friend .. just give them the chance to appear
2006-10-28 12:58:20 · answer #5 · answered by PATOUR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is be yourself. Don't put on a show. You want people to like you for who you are, not a mask that you put on. Be interested in others, everyone likes to tallk about themselves. Questions about them are good conversation starters. Be the friend you would want and you will find that you will attract those kind of people. We all like to be around people who are like us.
2006-10-28 12:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by ogrnlj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to start with try to be a good listener.after few days compassionate for others because every one want to hear what they say.select 1 or2 people be in touch with them care them remember what they say so in the next meeting u can quote them so u gain there confidence. it is a time taking process but u definitely get result.best of luck
2006-10-28 12:58:04 · answer #7 · answered by red rose 5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
behave nicely, and be sincere, and you will get more friends, dont worry about appearance and all, real friends dont care about that. And there is a no remedy to make more friends in a few time.. you have to wait..
2006-10-28 12:56:02 · answer #8 · answered by Shihas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh, you are asking some very important questions about yourself and how you interact with the world.
There is a very old saying, one that goes back to ancient Greece and probably further..."Know thyself." As you ask these questions of yourself, wisdom comes, slowly unfortunately, but it does come, because you will begin to listen to other people, really listen, and care about their feelings, sympathize with them, celebrate with them, and feel genuinely connected. People who are like that are naturally attractive to other people. I am trying to say that if you begin to know who you are and become comfortable in your own skin, you will be able to relate to others in a marvelous way. They will be drawn to you. Be a good listener! Another ancient adage I love? "To thine own self be true".
2006-10-28 12:58:36 · answer #9 · answered by David S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,what is a friend?A friend is someone that you can talk to about anything at anytime.so,making friends has to do with the characteristics you see in someone.First,are you friendly with your self,what do you look for in a friend(beauty,money,level of brilliance,color,way of living e.t.c)You shouldn't go for sure things.go for who the person is and not what the person is.
2006-10-28 12:58:49 · answer #10 · answered by taynisha4real 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋