It seems so cold to just toss them away like trash, or flush them in the toilet. I'm still in shock, I had just gotten used to the idea of being pregnant, then to see two distinct small, perfect little baby-like forms enclosed in a sac the size of a quarter is hard. I haven't cried, as I figure it was meant to be, and perhaps they were not right in some way. I figure I was about 10 weeks or so. Should I bury them outside? Or buy a small plant like a violet and bury them in it, and maybe place two little angels or butterfly figurines in the pot? Has anyone else ever lost a baby at home like this? What is the proper thing to do?
2006-10-28 05:46:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Im so very sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage 4 months ago. I was only 7 weeks along. I saw my baby but when it came out I was sitting on the toilet. I think you should take the tissue to your doctor so they can examine it. They may be able to tell you why you had your miscarriage. If you feel you should bury them then do that. Do whatever you feel like doing. If I could have I would've buried my baby. Just to let you know, you didn't do anything to cause this. I know you haven't said you feel that way but in time you may. The best thing I can tell you to do is grieve. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't. I have talked to alot of women that have buried their baby and put some kinda of angel or something like that with it. Just do what you feel is best. If you need to talk you can email me anytime. purplecraze501@yahoo.com
2006-10-28 07:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by purplecraze501 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The proper thing to do would be to put whatever has came out of you into a container and go to the emergency room so that a Dr.can exam it and also you need to be examined to make sure that it's complete and you don't need a D&C sorry for saying this but it's hard for me to believe that you are still home after something like this has happened.
2006-10-28 13:01:47 · answer #2 · answered by kiss4virgo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take the tissue to your doctor to make sure everything came out or they may need to clean you out. After that, you can ask the doc if you can have the tissue and perhaps bury it and plant a nice plant to remember them. Sometimes these things happen because something went wrong with the pregnacy. I have been through it twice. Sorry for your loss.
2006-10-28 13:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by SAChicky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss... yes I have lost children at home like this but at that age there is nothing really to bury. I would plant a tree or something in their honor and grieve for them and move on. Hopefully you will be blessed again with children. Good luck and take care.
2006-10-28 12:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by Alisha S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a matter of fact I lost one not to long ago I was 10weeks far long and I woke up in a cold sweat and in pain I dont know what they did at the hospital w/the baby itself I was in shock I rushed to the emergency room and thats where the actaul baby was lost. another friend of mine just flushed them but I wouldnt of been able to do that. If I could of I would of taken it and buired it near my favorite spot so I could go visit but they didnt let me take it. Trust me I know the feeling and if this is your first pregnancy you may not get over it easily it's been almost a year and I still feel like it just happened best thing I can say is to hang in there everything has a reason for happening
2006-10-28 12:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by QUEEN of ANSWERS 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. This is really hard for you. You may want to get them to your doctor. He may be able to tell you what caused this to happen. I would certainly honor them in some way. Planting a tree or bush is a good idea. Little angel statues underneath would honor them.
2006-10-28 12:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by Ceci 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. I am praying for you right now for emotional healing and physical wholeness. I am praying for God to comfort you and wrap you in his loving arms. Today is the National Day of Healing so, whether you decide to seek medical services or not, I am going to ask God to heal your body from this ever happening again and pray that you would not have any abnormal side-effects from this miscarriage (your hormones will be going crazy & that's normal, severe grief & depression is NOT normal).
2006-10-28 13:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by jesusisthe1foryou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. You should take them to the doctor with you so he can examine you and your twins. You need to be checked out so you won't have any medical problems.
I've also heard that often times there was something wrong with the fetus but I'm not a doctor so I'm not sure. In any event take care of yourself and please go to the doctor, take them with you.
Again, I'm very sorry, God bless you.
2006-10-28 16:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should go to the er and be checked out and get everything cleared. Make sure you are okay!! I think they would want to do a tissue sample. It's better to clear all of your bases. That way if something is wrong, you can get healthy for your next babies.
I am very sorry to hear that. No one should ever have to go through something like that. But please, go to the ER and be checked out.
2006-10-28 12:52:14 · answer #9 · answered by 3rdtimesacharm 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i lost my baby 3 weeks ago and i was 2 months pregnant. i went to the toliet and started bleedin so there wasnt mush i could really do. i am so sorry to hear of your lose and even though i find it hard and i want my baby back i have come to realise that it was just nature takin its course
2006-10-28 13:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Sexy D♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋