I don't go to tea and am running out of patience with him. He smiles tries to touch me, and always asks in a jocular manner when am I moving back in with him.
I have been straight with him from the word go, he knows i have someone else in my life but doesn't seem to make a difference. I never shown him encouragement to flirt with me or anything else.
How can I get him to stop?
2006-10-28 05:45:19 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i don't contact him and never reply txt or return calls, i think he wants me back and i hve told him to "F" off
2006-10-28 05:58:23 · update #1
Hey I have the SAME problem.. it is just him realizing what he lost and now he knows he can't get it back..he porbably jokes aobut alot of things but in hopes that you will come back with a positive.. its been 2 years .. and it has slowed down a bit .. but everyso often he still wants to reminise and go "out" and such..just keep turning him down.. it will eventually stop I am sure :) Just for the time being I take it as him getting his just deserves for doing the things he did in the first place for us to get divorced and now he knows what he had done was wrong and wants me back and he knwos he won't get me.. just hang up on him or even throw it in his face a few times.. if you get nasty to him then he wono't like it and the calls will be very few!
2006-10-28 06:02:20 · answer #1 · answered by queencrystle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep ignoring him & eventually he'll get the clue. I had an exboyfriend irritate me in that way not long ago. He would constantly email me, text me, send me things, call me at work. I couldn't stop the calls because the company he works for is actually a customer of where I work. When he would send me flowers I'd give it to one of the guys in my office to take home to their wives or if it was something else I'd refuse shipment & it would go back to him. Every once & a while he would slip out with I love you. He even tried making me jealous which never worked. So after 6 months of his anger for breaking it off & then another 6 - 10 months of ignoring him he called into my office & I had to answer the phone. He appologized & said that he thought as long as I wasn't remarried he thought he had a chance. So I told him that I would never get remarried but it didn't mean he ever had another chance either. Then he asked me why I broke it off. So I told him everything that irritated me about him which I wasn't nice about and VERY Blunt. He then realized I would never be his again & he backed off.
Good luck.
2006-10-28 13:11:47 · answer #2 · answered by tygernside 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer his phone calls. When you see him, tell him you are busy and go the other way.
You may be more attractive to him now that you have a new man in your life. Don't allow him to get to the point of flirting with you--you have control over that.
Eliminate any contact with him.
2006-10-28 13:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by draws_with_crayons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been straight with him - well have you really told him to stop? If you still want to be friends with him then stop contact with him for a while. As long as he still wants you and keeps acknowledging the fact - especially not respecting your wishes, then it's not going to work. He's not listening to you, don't acknowledge him for awhile - just stop. Tell him you can't talk to him, see him, or be friends with him as long as he acts like this, or still has feelings for you. If he stops then great. If he doesn't then just leave him completely alone until things work themselves out.
2006-10-28 12:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by insomniac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop going to tea with him, tell him you are busy when he calls, and stop calling him. You obviously like some attention you are getting from him or you wouldn't have typed this question, you would have just ignored him.
Worse case scenario, change your phone number.
Besides, he asks you out for tea? Are you British? What guy asks his ex out for tea? - that's strange.
2006-10-28 12:49:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you will go to tave tea as long as he knows that the two of you will be going and that the two of ye will be leaving together as this is wat people in a relationship do. if that does not work tell him that he either backs off or you are going to get a restraining order against him cause he is not living in the here and now.
2006-10-28 15:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by vexon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know, hang up when he calls, don't answer his text messages, don't reply to his e-mails, don't answer the door. He'll get the message and if he doesn't threaten to sick the police on him and get a restraining order.
2006-10-28 12:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by barkel76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes either trying to win u back. Or if you finished on bad terms he might just want to stay friends with you.
2006-10-28 13:57:07 · answer #8 · answered by Smiles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him point blank again to leave you alone as far as all that part goes...and if he can not remain friends with you without the pressures, then you will have to limit the conversations. Sounds like your gonna have to get tough with him. Why are they so ignorant like that???????????????GEEEEEEEE
2006-10-28 12:51:40 · answer #9 · answered by chocoholic_40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order.
2006-10-28 12:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋