I think I need some help. A friend of mine who I used to hang out with all the time just decided to start dating his ex-girlfriend again. I am so freaking jealous by this and so hurt that I can't stand it. He was my best friend and I love him VERY much. (We were friends w/benefits). I can't stand the thought of him with someone new, much less her. I hate her because she had an abortion and he didn't want her to have the abortion. Anyway, I have been making harassing phone calls, emails, letters and text messages. I've even threatened his family and his friends, anonymously. I know what I am doing is wrong. I want to call the police and turn myself in. I know that they have the police working on the case, so it is only a matter of time until they figure me out. I am thinking that if I turn myself in, then maybe they will go easy on me. I think I need some psychological help. I also don't want to lose my best friend (that guy with his ex-girl) - he still wants to be friends.
2006-10-28 05:44:39 · 7 answers · asked by dobies_mum 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you really really need help, if the police were working the file then I am surprised that they haven't been by your house yet, calls can be traced, *57 does wonders, and emails can be traced back to your isp number, your text messages are recorded with you carrier. I think the criminal harassment charges would be least of your worries though.
Oh btw I hope I don't live in the same town as you, I like my false illusion that my local police force were doing a good job.
2006-10-28 06:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question.
You need to go get pyschological help.
Just tell the therapist you have jealousy that you can't handle.
Tell them you need help NOW, not tomorrow.
You must also stay away from the friend w/ benefits.
Right now, he is poison to you, and fuels your feelings.
You don't feel that way, I know, but try to accept this advice.
Have your messaging service turned off, so as to not be tempted.
Same with the computer and even phone, if it must be.
Do you have a relative to go spend some time with? Do so.
Get yourself away from temptation to do things that might ruin lives,
yours being one of them.
You can't MAKE someone love you.
He may come back and love you.
but never again give him benefits
without him making the commitment publicly.
This is not a picture of LOVE you have drawn, is it?
dj of raleigh
2006-10-28 13:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by dj_of_raleigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, you need professional help. I think you have to rethink the definition of love as well.If you really love someone, you'd want his happiness over your own not harass him and his family.Maybe he's still confused over his relationship and feelings for this girl and here you are adding to his problems instead of being a true friend.Love is not being selfish.
Who knows, maybe if he'd see you like that he'd realize the treasure in you and learn to love you more than the other girl?
2006-10-28 12:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by ivy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you do need psychological help. you really should tell your best friend about what you've been doing first because if he really does want the two of you to still be friends then he'll understand and the whole situation will fizzle out. you still need a lot of psych help if you're gonna go to such great lengths just because this one guy is dating someone who's bad for him
2006-10-28 12:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, i thnk u went 2 far by doin such thngs, u know..... n now probably itz bettr u turn urself in....... yeah, dere's a very gud probability dat dey might ditch u...... but dey might also forgive u... do dis fast bfore it becoms 2 late.
2006-10-28 12:50:25 · answer #5 · answered by proxsmartest2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just get some help with this
2006-10-28 12:52:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
really get help
2006-10-28 12:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by Bob D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋