Is it wrong to prefer to be alone rather than with people?

Question

I have nothing against people,I usually talk with people who are older than me and have some experience in life,people from which I can learn something.
I can't say I haven't got any friends but I feel better when I'm alone,
but during all these years (I'm 16) my teachers were concerned about me,they thought something was wrong with me just because I was always 'outside' the group.
I think that's wrong!
There are lots of people who are sociable and they are the scum of the earth.
Tell me,am I wrong?
Thank you!

Amrita-if you were refering to horoscope,I'm not an aquarian,I'm a taurus

Answer 1

Alot of us prefer to be alone. Being lonely and being alone are 2 different things. I much prefer the company of my pets and family and nature to the company of most people. Society has placed too much pressure on most of us to 'fit in'. Fit into what? Their idea of what we should be? Human beings as a general are to judgmental. As long as you are hurting no one and harming none, I don't think its wrong. Some of us are just not as gregarious as others.

Answer 2

I cannot tell you how your feeling is right or wrong, but honestly, you shouldn't have to deny how or whatever your feelings are. Having a preference is fine. I usually talk with people older than myself also, as that's pretty much always been my case. Oftentimes, I'm said to be more mature for my age (27) than my elders were when they were my age, and I'm also said to be wise beyond my years. I can and do learn from anyone as experience in life is acquired by everyone, and at the same time, I can and do teach young and older as myself things when I seek what I need and/or want. I love not only learning, I also feel, know, recognize, and see each and every experience as a potential opportunity I can take to either learn, teach a lesson, or a bit of both learning from people willing to teach me and/or teaching people who are willing to show themselves as willing to see what I feel a need or want to teach.
I can't say I haven't got any friends my age but I can say I'm working on making some. I've always had friends older than me. You sound like a loner. I've never prefer to be a loner myself. I've always preferred company from people who treated the best. Peers didn't really during my school years as I was sometimes made fun of, taunted and teased, for having my medical condition. My family and teachers would always show me their care, concern, and would never allow me to not be accomodated when I needed to be, as they wished me to succeed, and did their part to ensure I did. After I graduated high school, every school administrator/teacher I had (still alive) from as far back as elementary school, was my friend.
Have you ever talked to your doctor and asked if there was something wrong with prefering to be alone rather than with people while you are at such an age as 16? If not, you should.

Answer 3

I also feel better being alone, most of the times.
I don't think there's anything wrong, as long as you are happy, relaxed, and sane about it.

Sometimes some people think a lot, and think "outside" what others think, but that doesn't mean they are weirdos. I would just say it's a different living style

your teachers, or maybe even some of your friends may be concerned about you reg. this, but it's out of goodwill they do. Do calm your heart, talk to them, understand their points, and assured them that it's ok, you are feeling totally alright. Don't get angry over how come they can't just understand you and etc, to them, if you behave like that, they would just assume it's an cause of your liking of being alone (not lonely, it's different). So stay calm, matured and talk sincerely. give them some time to understand you.

But do remember, society is a majority thingy, in your future, there will be some people who won't understand you (of liking to be alone), they like to think you must be something wrong/or even think you are pathetic to feel like that. Just remember, to each of it's own, if you feel happy about your living style, just be cool about it. and for those you loved, explain to them nicely, they would understand if they really love you

Answer 4

nothing wrong with being outside the groups of people around you! Usually something is compromised when you join in. However, you need to always smile and say hello, and be perky,
being very nice with a smile on your face may not be your natural look, but hey you will always have something everyone else will want and that is happiness...even it it is a front...sometimes just acting happy will eventually bring happiness...Acts 20:24 is where
our energies should be spent anyway....it reads this way....I RECKON MY OWN LIFE TO BE WORTH NOTHEING TO ME; I ONLY WANT TO COMPLETE MY MISSION AND FINISH THE WORK THAT THE LORD JESUS GAVE ME TO DO, WHICH IS TO DECLARE THE GOOD NEWS ABOUT THE GRACE OF GOD! Acts 20:24.............this can be done first just as you are doing by being an example...then to study the Holy Bible to know what you believe so that you can be more prepared to fulfill your purpose in life. You can be in the world and not be a part of the world...you can live abundantly and be very blessed in the world or you can be of the world and swept
away by the whims or the fads of time and never fulfill your purpose .... God love you just as you are and being a part of a group or any organization does not give you the status of perfection...only God gives that and is the judge of that...keep being yourself, and smile a lot....have fun...keep smiling!

Answer 5

I think you need to ask yourself whether or not you are comfortable in your own skin. You sound as if you are, that you prefer adults, that you are not nervous, lonely, edgy, or unhappy when you are alone, or even more importantly, with your peers. Teachers will naturally worry about someone who is quiet, seemingly alone. A helpful response may be to speak with them in private, smile, and say you appreciate their concern, but that you are just fine, thanks.
Social pressure on a sixteen year old is immense. You are beginning to ask important questions, the answers to which will determine how satisfied you are with yourself. One can be happy with one's own company, and still be civil, polite, friendly, compassionate, caring, loyal, and true. Those are the traits I feel everyone should strive for.

Answer 6

you are not wrong to be yourself, alone or not.
You would be wrong if you want to be alone
because you are avoiding conflict or rejection.
People either seek pleasure or avoid pain.
Good mental health requires a balance of both.

Search your soul and ask if you envy the laughter of a couple.
If you really want to have someone share your joys,
someone to share your burdens and be a friend,
and be one who is there for another, then you must act.

Solitude is like smoking pot, it takes the edge off things.
If there is conflict, differences, discomfort, then drug out,
with food, or drink, or drugs and you don't have to face it.
There is no growth in a person who does that much.

You can avoid conflict, pain, and stress or stain
by being with yourself, alone. But is that good,
good for you. For it is all about what's good for you.

Maybe you are shy, or just self-content, happy alone,
but if you want to be brave, test yourself in some small way.
Say, I'm going to talk to whomever I want, when I want,
and I'm going to force myself to say something to someone, today.
Pick the person waiting for the class to change,
the one in the seat beside you.
Pick the person who opens a door for you,
or pick the person who takes your lunch money.
Tell them that you always like to see their smile, something real.

Be brave. If you don't talk, then listen.
Talkers love a listener.
There's a saying that to entertain some,
all you have to do is listen to them.

Your question begs for someone to say it is OK.
Well, it is OK be seek solitude. You harm no one.
Be sure you are not hurting yourself.
I think people are going to want to be your friend.
dj of raleigh

Answer 7

No, I don't it's wrong. I'm thinking you're mature for your age and so prefer older people's company?But I think it's not healthy for you not to mingle with those of your age group as well. Why don't you try to find others your age who may share the same interests as you.You'll be surprised at what you can learn from them too and what you can learn together.

Answer 8

The key to your question is why? Why do you prefer to be alone? If it's simply comfort, or you like yourself, or you feel most at peace, then I think that's great, provided you do not completely avoid social interaction, because we all have social needs on some level.

However, if your preference is because you see people as cruel, or petty, or they shun you, then you need to examine that. That's not comfort with yourself, that's shame of yourself. If that's what's happening, you need to align yourself with friends that are going to build you up, not tear you down, regardless of how often you choose to interact with them.

Answer 9

To me there are 2 forms of aloneness... One is of fear and mental illness and the other one is a healthy personal choice.
I enjoy the time with myself and have never been one to need to run within a group to find my identity... I assume your teachers are worried because of your age and the normally younge people need to be within a group to build their indentity... it seems your decision... to be amongst yourself is that you are secure wth who you are and can't tolerate the actions of others...Your Okay.
I would suggest you try to find others like yourself... for no matter how strong you think you are... everyone needs friendship.

Answer 10

NO YOU ARE NOT WRONG. I PREFER TO BE ALONE. I LIKE IT WHEN I AM BY MYSELF. YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. WHEN I WAS IN HIGH SCHOOL I HAD FRIENDS BUT I PREFERRED TO BE BY MYSELF. MY PARENTS THOUGHT THERE WAS SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME TOO BECAUSE I LIKED TO STAY IN MY ROOM A WHOLE LOT. THEY TOOK ME TO A PSYCHOLOGIST. SHE TOLD THEM I WAS NORMAL. SO, DON'T WORRY JUST BE YOURSELF. IF YOU CHOOSE TO BE BY YOURSELF THEN GO AHEAD. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH IT.