what are some common ways bullying might start?

Answer 1

A Bully has a need for POWER. Usually they have very low self esteem but they try to act superior. A bully needs very little to start bullying others. He or She can jump on your looks, you actions, your style. They will do anything that can to put you down. They love seeing you unhappy, crying, scared, and helpless. This just fuels the bully more. They get more power as you give up power to them. Seeing you humble and scared is like filling their gas tank with fuel. They get hotter and better at their craft. I say craft because to them it is just that (a hobby, a undertaking, a pass-time).

To stop a bully you need to know what fuels their fire and then just snuff that fire out. Once they know what they are doing is not working they will move on. Of course, they move on to their next victim. They only true way a bully can be stopped is by learning to stop, becoming more mature, getting help. You see bullys in pre-school, elementary, Jr High and High School. Even some are in college (many steer toward Fraternaties ect.) I even know adults who still bully to get their way. If it is not stopped young it is almost imposible to stop.

Do not let a bully take your power and energy. Stop them in their tracks, without fear. What ever they push at you push it back. Put them down in front of those whose feelings they value. Let them know you will not back down, stand tough. Bullys are generally weak inside and will not harm you. Find a way to assert power over them, they will not like it and stay clear of you.

Good Luck

Answer 2

ok, i have to assume that you're asking this question with a specific case in mind - a child might feel bullied and you're looking for information of how they're being bullied... to find out if they are or aren't.

if you're looking for the roots of bullying then the previous answers deal with it - its generally an episode in the past - whether abusive behaviour in the home or at school.

But for the other question, in my experience in the classroom (i teach 9 year olds) it can take a variety of forms;
consistent exclusion of a child from activities, name calling (again consistently), overly physical playing - the list goes on....

A word of caution, however. In many instances parents and children label are quick to use the label bullying when what is concerned is actually the rough and tumble of the class and playground. I don't mean to belittle the upset that children might feel from these experiences, but sometimes using the term bulllying tends to muddy the waters. The key element of bullying is that it is consistent.

In reality what seems to be bullying can stem from other issues.
It can be caused from an isolated falling out between peers, or it can relate to other issues - children's unhappiness at school or seperation anxiety that children experience with their parents.

In any event, bringing the term bullying into the school can lead to an unwelcome escalation of the issue - unhelpful for the victim as well as the culprit. All l'm saying is that it opens a whole can of worms and the decision to open this shouldn't be taken lightly.

i know i've gone a bit on from the question - hopefully the rest is useful too.

Answer 3

There are so many answers to this. A student may feel important or superior or feel she or he is gaining self-esteem by putting others down, by physically intimidating others or by verbally threatening. Bullying can be so subtle its hard to identify, but anything which makes a person feel unsafe is bullying, even if its just a throw-away comment.
In a classroom, a teacher MUST maintain an environment where every student feels safe, and any instances of put-downs, physical intimidation or similar must be dealt with immediately.

Answer 4

The bully was probably picked on by someone else. Abused himself. He needs to build his damaged ego by picking on someone else.

Answer 5

Someone different, someone that is too clever, a bully will notice this and make them feel bad about it.

Answer 6

mostly caused by bad fathers who teach their boys to fight instead of be nice. I've also seen it with mothers and daughters, but that is mostly in the black culture.

Answer 7

at home

Answer 8

(visit my site, its my profile name)

Answer 9

sexual frustration