ok! i really dont know y im askin this. i just hate my life. i dont have a single fren that i can trust. i will always n up wit a fight. n yes...u mite say that it was my fault. but i seriously think it is not. i tried to be nice. i tried to pretend but it never works. im a very honest person to say n i hate liars. even a small lies hit me teribbly. i just dont get it...y people pretend all d time. i cant. they said bad thing about someone but still mantain good smile n good relationship wit them. y are they like that. if i dont like that people i will avoid them.n most of the time i dont like a lot of people because they fake! help me. should i be fake as well to be in or should i be myself n be lonley?
2006-10-28 05:22:58 · 11 answers · asked by bellala 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i have tried to kill myself many times. i just dont fit in. i cant get along wit anybody. my parents, frens, siblings. wats really wrong wit me?
2006-10-28 05:33:56 · update #1
thanks step,
yes im still studying. i jsut turn 22 2 days back. every year...believe it or not ill loose a friend or two. i just dont know y. when u suggest that i should be wit positive people...i smiled. i dont know who is positive. i just cant get along. wit anybody. im ashamed that im always lonely. another thing is my parents move all d time..so i didnt get a chance to xperience bbest frens. but now im in college things are evey worse. i will always be alone, i tried to mix aroun but it will always n up bad. i really dont know who should i blame. if i want to blame others...it seems like everyone is wrong n im d only one who is rite. how can it be? i dont know much about anything. i dont have frens to hang out wit n usually ill just gather information by myself. it hurts me so much to see others can get along very well even though i know they are fake!
2006-10-28 05:50:42 · update #2
Hello again,
I get times in my life that my life is challenging too. I also do not like people who are obviously fake and I do NOT like people who lie. I will call them on it when they do. I am proud that I am an honest. If you find yourself around the negative people, stay away from them, they will bring you down in a heartbeat. Try to find some upbeat people to hang around. I smile, even at the grumpy people. I have found that even the "grumpy" people are not always grumpy. They are sometimes just sad or having a bad day. I work in the health care field and I cannot assume anything. Things are never what they seem. Try giving some people a chance. Never be fake, you will not be true to yourself. Get out and meet some friendly upbeat people. I do not know your age. Do you go to school? Do you work? What are some of your interests? Try to find some people that have your interests. I know that sometimes when I do not feel like going somewhere at all, when I do, I actually enjoy myself more than I thought I would. I agree with the lady above. Church's have singles groups and they have youth groups. They have activity's that you could start off with. You never know where that can take you. Give it a chance. I will be praying for you. Hugs to you.
Now I have read your additional comments. Killing yourself is not the answer. It solves nothing. You could just make yourself worse off than before. Have you seen a doctor? I am sure you probably have? Does he have you on Medication for depression? Is that what he diagnosed you with? If you are on Medication, you need to take it as prescribed. If you are taking it and you don't see any results, you need to let him know so he can try putting you on something different. Don't give up. I know you don't think so, but there is hope. Feel free to email me.
2006-10-28 05:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound as if you have serious anger issues going on in your life. You say: "I just hate my life." & "I hate liars." & "...y(ou) people pretend all the time." & "...i don't like a lot of people because they (sic) fake." & "I always end up in a fight."
It's not you, but the rest of the world that's wrong, right? I'm no professional, but it sounds as if you need someone you can talk to, really open up to, you know? Find a counsellor, if you can. It would really help you. It stinks to be miserable all the time and feel freindless. Yes, there are many people out there who are fake, and you are right to avoid them. You also sound as if you are slowly becoming aware of one of the sadder truths of life; that to be popular isn't always the best thing, and being the center of attention has a greater price than you thought. Be who you are, and find yourself. This can take years, sometimes, but it is always a teriffic adventure. And you never need feel lonely if you're not afraid to reach out to strangers like you did today.
Good Luck!
2006-10-28 05:43:20 · answer #2 · answered by The Mystic One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what it feels like to be lonely. I became very depressed when graduating high-school. Had no friends and felt lost. I do not know your age but I feel you are young. Later in years as I am in my forties now....at 23 I was hospitalized with severe depression. Later in my early 30's I had a terrible breakdown I was very stressed and had a very stressful job and a husband who never supported me. Also I had 3 young children. Well I finally was diagnosed with manic-deppression I was elated because now I knew this deppression had a name he explained it to me and put me on meds and they helped my life tremendously. Take my word on this...get to a psychiatrist and tell him what you are going through at least to put your mind at ease. You need to take care of yourself right now and stop worrying about these people that are making you angry..You come first....I know you feel really bad right now and probably for quite sometime..don't wait any longer and don't be ashamed do you know how many people are depressed I felt I was the only person in the world that felt this way....I go to a wonderful support group and have made friends there and we all support and understand eachother. But first get yourself better....my oldest son was diagnosed with the same at 18 he joined the Marines to try to boost his self-esteem but had to drop out and came home in three weeks...he always felt like a loser..and this hurt me so deep...he still struggles and is 27 but he also takes meds. He always had tons of friends but he said he always felt different and unhappy. So back to you...you are precious and need to talk to someone you trust and maybe confide in them and have them help you find a good doctor. Suicide is never the answer you will devastate the ones that love you..I told my son when he felt this way he might as well take me with him because I could not go on without him in my life. He is very quiet and has a hard time expressing his feelings and keeps things inside. God Bless you and let us all know how you are feeling in a few months please take my advice as I have been there.
2006-10-28 07:17:34 · answer #3 · answered by bowl_me_over_with_love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey listen u r left alone because u r finding friends among people u don't like..in case they become ur friend i won't work 4 u...because u seem to be sentimental n need someone who cares for u. u r trying to find right thing among wrong persons.u need to give time to urself n don't loose ur patience .if u know u r different then also u must come to know y u r different n try to find happiness in that difference.Life is beautiful..n i'm surprised y u r not ready to look into eyes of ur future ..
m sure u must be having some different hobbies also.u ty to give ur ime to them n life is to be lived not to be wasted over silly reasons..moreover when u know u r right n others r wrong..u carry on with what u r n feel happy u r still away from the relationship in which people have smile on face n bad things in heart as u said.
u try to make some internet friend also m having n they r very good.
also give time to persons whom u want to be with u in future..atleast u'll come to know what's different in u n why they like u..
n trust GOD , surely someone is meant for u..
n have faith that u r having bright future..
n don't even try to give up living....u can't give up ur way just because u r lonely n it won't give any satisfaction to u..
u r having time first of all explore urself,what u need n why u need then u'll get to know from where u can get ur requirement fulfilled.
take care.
2006-10-28 05:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by neha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are being honest you can't get the help you need on a website. Talk to your parents or school counselor about getting involved in some sort of counseling and also seeing a doctor to see if there is medicine that can help as well. And good luck, take that step towards getting real help.
2006-10-28 05:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by MUD 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to church and make friends there. They will love you for who you are. Cheer up and start reading fun things and meet new people. Get rid of all the dead weight in your life. Move on and up. Everyone has times like this. Feel lucky you have a computer to use. Go on some funny sites to lift your spirits. Get out of this funk you are in. Good Luck!
2006-10-28 05:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by onemelbgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. Be honest. And learn to overlook the little things. In reading your post it seems to me you have very high expectations of the people around you. Lighten up. They are only human after all.
2006-10-28 06:35:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I'm lonely too, you are sensitive just like me, I have only two friends and they don't practice lies. Stay the way you are and only except quality friends with your same interests into your life.
2006-10-28 06:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by spir_i_tual 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're in the terrific place. I pray which you be comforted. Jesus is here, only ask Him into your existence. he will under no circumstances go away you or forsake you. And once you desire Him, he's often there. Jesus, please convenience her, and eliminate that loneliness and unhappiness and replace it with your love. in the call of Jesus! in case you wish, email me i'm here to wish and answer questions. †Prayer Warrior At Your Request†
2016-10-16 12:08:45 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first be a friend of your self. that means make your self friendly to others to treat you as friend. there is nothing wrong.
develop positive thinking. read good self development books and articles . they are your best friends and your life will be bright..
good luck.
2006-10-28 05:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by prince47 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋