2006-10-28 05:16:41 · 26 answers · asked by PAULA C 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
if you are attracted to the same sex and want to have sexual relations with someone of the same sex, then it is not 'just a phase'...you are either homosexual or bisexual.
2006-10-28 05:22:39 · answer #1 · answered by Spyder 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I'm not quite sure if I can give the whole answer, but boys actually do go through a "phase" in development, when they are noticeably homosexual at around the age of 11 or so.
Most grow out of this and then turn to girls; often abandoning their male friends.
With gay boys, that phase doesn't end, but simply continues, until such time as they become emotionally attached and sexually attracted to males rather than females.
So it is quite possible that what a boy feels at the ages of about 11 to 13 is actually NOT full homosexuality at all, but after the age of 14, it is starts to become a lifelong agenda.
However, it is a bit more complicated than this, because as the "Kinsey Report" (1960's) pointed out, there are degrees of sexuality, ranging from absolutely straight to absolutely gay, and on a scale of 1 to 10, the majority of people fall between the two extremes. Thus, what people perceive as a "phase" may just be the natural ambivalence which many people feel in their attractions and affections.
Of course, the questioner may well be struggling to come to terms with it all, but perhaps the best advice is simply to let nature happen, and see where it goes.
It's not a terrible thig to be gay, and it's not a better thing to be straight. The important thing is to love yourself for what you are, rather than trying to be something you are not.
Be honest and true to yourself, and what happens after that will simply happen naturally.
2006-10-29 17:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by musonic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
might get a thumbs down off people for this, but i really feel that people's sexuality is as fluid as they come. You could be attracted to people of the same gender at one stage of your life, and attracted to people of the other gender at another (and vice versa) I know the answer to my comment - "we call that bisexuality", but the fact is no one answering this question knows for sure what's going on in the questioner's head. it may pass.
Listen - no one can answer this properly for you.
If you feel gay / attracted to someone of the same sex, well try it. If you stay with this person for the rest of your life - then you're gay. if you break up - you may be attracted to people of the other sex - or you may stay with your gender.
Y'see in all this the deed & the attraction determines what you are ... if you're looking for an easy answer now i don't think there is one. All i can say is that at some stage in the future this will work itself out and you'll know.
Calm down about it - enjoy the journey.
2006-10-29 15:17:57 · answer #3 · answered by colmfiveten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really good question. Only time will tell.
If you feel a real strong attraction to the same sex, and it's not just physical, but spritual,mental,emotional, and social, and you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with them,you are probably gay. Also, if you have been with members of the same sex and it was 10x better than the opposite sex, then more than likely you are gay.
However,if you find yourself feeling this way about both sexes,then you could be bi.
If you found yourself feeling this way about the same sex,but not very often,or if you have been with a same sex member, and it wasn't all you dreamed,then you are probably straight.
Be blessed and I hope you find your answers!
2006-10-28 14:29:51 · answer #4 · answered by ac 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This 'phase' idea is made up by people who don't have a clue what they are talking about.
If you have feelings for people of the same sex, you are gay or bisexual...don't hide away from your feelings - it will just make you unhappy, and everyone has the right to happiness. Don't let bigots stop you from achieving happiness.
Wow, FRAT BRAT, is that your pic? You're HOT!!!
2006-10-28 19:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by Mr Glenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you know because you are attracted to the same sex, i fell in love with a girl thats how i know.
I think that a lot of people can find the same sex attractive and not be gay but i dont think that being gay is just a phase.
Does that make sense?
2006-10-28 13:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not a phase. If you think you might be gay, you probably are.
2006-10-30 18:40:58 · answer #7 · answered by Angry Gay Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or conversely, how do you know if you are really straight and it isn't just a phase? (One question mark is sufficient - words like "u" and "ur" are not)
2006-10-28 13:22:07 · answer #8 · answered by Raymo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because after all these years I am still attracted to only women, no phase here. :)
2006-10-28 12:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by spiritcavegrl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if it is 'a phase' does it? This is your life, just live it. You'll die it the same as every1 else.
2006-10-31 16:02:55 · answer #10 · answered by fuzzierfelt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has been one heck of a phase....came out 29 years ago
2006-10-28 12:29:22 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋