relationship off a couple of weeks ago. I want my ring back, but she refuse to send it back. She states that the ring was a gift. I disagree. Am i right or wrong?
2006-10-28 04:38:51 · 18 answers · asked by ivory c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If she broke the engagement off, then the ring goes back to you. But don't press the issue, if she doesn't want to give it back, don't push, just learn a lesson.
2006-10-28 04:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the ring symbolizes an arrangement or "contract" it is not hers to keep. It is the symbol of your relationship and the agreement to get married. Etiquette states that she should return the ring if she breaks off the engagement.
Yes, it was a gift, but a gift with strings. If she cuts the strings, she doesn't get to keep the ring. If you were to go to small claims court, you would be returned the ring because there is an implicit contract that has been broken.
So, in the end, you are right.
2006-10-28 04:43:35 · answer #2 · answered by tallnfriendlyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only question here really is whether you gave her the ring on a "holiday" or "occasion". Christmas, New Year's, Valentine's, Columbus Day, Presidents Day are all considered holidays when giving an engagement ring. Also, anniversaries and "other people's occasions" are also considered holidays when giving an engagement ring. I always tell people to avoid any appearance of holiday "gift-giving" when presenting a ring, only because is clouds the issue.
Simply put, she doesn't want to give the ring back becuase it's always worthwhile to have a couple karats on hand of anything… showing off to friends, making you out to be a sucker, pawn shop… you get the idea. Women also like expensive jewelry. To be honest, most women want to be engaged for one of three reasons. One, women like expensive diamond jewelry; two, women like being soccer moms, and an engagement is a step in the right direction; three, a woman genuinely loves and respects you, and wishes to spend the rest of her life with you. Option 3 is rather preferred.
I am sorry you found yourself in this predicament, and i hope you do indeed get the ring back. But technically, if you gave it to her on holiday or anniversary, you really have little ground to stand on. If you gave it to her on the Monday after Friday 13th, you are in good standing to ask for it back.
Today's world leaves sticky situations regarding engagements. So many are broken today, and so many marriages ruined in divorce; it's almost dangerous to get involved long term. My observation, personally, she wanted you to propose to get a nice, new, shiny object on her finger. Am i'm sorry you were the one to give it to her.
On another note, you should probably press for the ring back regardless of when you gave it to her. Legal precedents are in your favor, since she broke off the engagement, and you would win in a court of law. It's rather bad ettiquette to go this route, but it's a guarantee if you really want it back. If the ring was under $1500, i would say no to the legal route, only because an attorney would charge you that to appear in small claims. If the ring was massive, like $5000, definitely drag her and her reputation through the legal ringer.
Wish you luck!
2006-10-28 04:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by diagofaldi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any woman that has the least amount of class would return the ring especially if she is the one that broke it off...if you were the one to break it off she can keep it, although...why someone would want it is beyond me...an engagement ring is not a gift it is a token of a promise made...a promise to wed...if she removes the promise she should remove the ring and hand it back to you
2006-10-28 04:46:11 · answer #4 · answered by .*^+Holly+^*. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would let it go. She isn't gonna give it back now. I would just move on and forget about it. I know you see how they works in the movies where the lady gives the ring back and it would be right if she would, but nothing is worse than a woman scorned. No telling what they will do. Sorry about your engagement not working. If this is the way she is gonna act then be gald you didn't marry her.
2006-10-28 05:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by hehmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, legally you are right. If the woman calls off the engagement she is supposed to give the ring back. It is a symbol of a commitment...if that commitment is broken the ring goes back to the giver.
2006-10-28 04:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An engagement ring is a CONDITIONAL GIFT! Therefore if the condition is not met, “Getting married” then the ring is legally yours. You can legally sue her for it back if you wish to make her life hell. I would! Good Luck!
2006-10-28 04:54:22 · answer #7 · answered by hpverb02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to the law, unfortunately for you, at least in Ohio, it's hers now. That's something you should know b4 giving a woman a ring...if there's a chance she breaks it off...she gets the ring too!
2006-10-28 04:42:20 · answer #8 · answered by hearts_and_thoughts_2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can wear your engagement ring and wedding band at the same time. One tradition I heard is that the wedding band goes on the inside, closest to your hand, and the engagement ring on the outside to "protect" the wedding ring and what it represents.
2016-05-22 03:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she won't give back the ring just proves that you narrowly avoided marrying an extremely petty women. Best Advise? Cut your losses and run.
2006-10-28 04:45:05 · answer #10 · answered by Al 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋