The main reason i put up with my partners ego, self centerdness and emotional unavailabilty is that he is a warm body that i can come home to. I have settled for someone that is not my ideal mate, and I am having second thoughts about our relationship.
2006-10-28 03:59:57 · 13 answers · asked by dedavie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No, but it is hard to be alone when you've got used to that companionship, and it's lovely to have someone to cuddle up to when you're lonely. But if you stay in the relationship then you won't be available for meeting someone who might be better for you, and if you just hang on while you're looking around for someone else, that's very unfair on your partner, and kind of selfish.
I'm lucky, I've got a very close friend who will cuddle me when I need it (and until he got engaged, we could still have sex sometimes, even though we haven't been a couple for ages). You will be better off finding ways to be happy without your partner, and waiting for the right guy, if you can.
2006-10-28 04:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by JBoy Wonder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you need a sit down chat with your partner
to honestly and openly discuss the relationship ! There must have been something that brought you to together in the first place ,but it needs some help and
FAST !!
No relationship is perfect ,they all have their ups and downs . If you too can not come up with some solutions to your problems together then I'd say the relationship is doomed right now.. and it would / might be better for the both of you to go your seperate ways .
2006-10-28 04:28:36 · answer #2 · answered by nygayart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never settle. It's not fair to you or to him. You only get one shot at this life, so make yourself happy.
I've been in the situation that you're in, so I know...easier said than done. Leaving someone is very difficult. I did it though, and trust me, once you've done it you WILL get through it and time will heal all.
I hope everything works out for you.
2006-10-28 05:43:09 · answer #3 · answered by ByTheSea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dedavie
It's not worth it. You are so much better than that. Go out and find a boyfriend who is going to be crazy about you.
Otherwise, get a dog. They are less maintenance, and they are still happy to see you when you walk in the door after a couple of months being together.
Hugs - Jude
2006-10-28 04:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by Jude M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you already know that this isn't working for you.
If your partner is willing to go to couple's counseling with you so that you can try to fix the relationship, then please do that.
Otherwise it's probably better to be by yourself than to spend your life feeling alone with someone beside you.
2006-10-28 05:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by knightofsappho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to be alone, then with some on and lonely. Being alone does not mean lonely. Learn to love your own company, if not how can you expect someone else to enjoy your company. God bless
2006-10-28 04:02:55 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work to make it better. If you aren't willing to work on it then you need to either settle for what you have, or leave.
Nothing worth having is free.
2006-10-28 04:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's just mediocre/boring try counseling.
If you've never loved him it's time to get honest and take a walk.
2006-10-28 04:26:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not many find an ideal mate. Don't think there is such an animal.
2006-10-28 04:03:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
leave, it doesn't sound like much of a relationship for either one of you
2006-10-28 04:04:32 · answer #10 · answered by Spyder 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋