Why is it that women are stricter on their kids than men are? Does it hurt your feelings when your child says?

Question

he loves his father more than you?

Answer 1

Overall my dad was the strict one. I was able to get away with more with him because I was his little girl but he was definitely the one with the rules, enforcing the rules, and the disciplinarian.

My mom would lay her foot down infrequently but it was usually done, with me at least, when I pushed her to her limit and she would explode on me.

Dad was much more frequent in his whoopins. ;)

Answer 2

I don't know if stricter is the right term. My ex was always on my boy's a** about too many things. As he got older he rebelled at her constant monitoring. She got too emotional with it all.
For example when my boy was six, they got into one heck of an argument about manners. After the exchange of words I reminded her that she was arguing with a six year-old and I thought the six year-old was winning. Well, that p*ssed her off.
When I saw my boy get out-of-line and ignore his mother when it came to correcting the situation, I just pulled him to the side. Then I informed him that I was not his mother and this is how the situation is going down in that he does not have a choice in the matter. He would just shrug and then would follow my instructions.
I never raised a hand to my boy but I always had a open line of communication. He is very intelligent and I treated him like an adult. To this day, every time I see him we hug and I kiss him on the forehead. Funny, I am the only one allowed to do this. He is now 21 and we talk about everything. So, I think it is more about how you discipline the child.

Answer 3

In my house it's just the opposite. I'm a stay at home dad of a special needs child. In answer to your question, yes, it does hurt. My son uses sign language, and will often sign that he's happy to see mom, and give her hugs without her asking for them. I never get any that. Unfortunately it seems to be the price one parent or the other pays to not raise an uncontrollable brat.
I know it hurts, but you're doing the right thing. Keep up the good work.

Answer 4

This is strictly my opinion but I think nowadays The Mom spends more time with the children, therefore she has to do the disciplining. The Dad is out making the money (for the most part), so the family can survive. Sometimes the Moms work too, but the kids look to their Moms for discipline. They may not like it as kids, but as adults, it will be the Mom that they respect more. - They'll realize that it was Mom who taught them the most important tools to living responsibly.

Answer 5

Actually my husband is stricter with our kids than I am. As far as my childhood. Same situation, my dad was more stricter on my brothers and I than my mom was.

Answer 6

Because moms are around their kids most of the time, usually, and see mom disciplining them more often because dad is at work. I try not to let what they say hurt me. They are only kids. One day they will be grown and know that they are loved. Keep on keeping on, and love them. It will be okay in the end.

Answer 7

. wow . you should should come to my house . my wife lets them get away with murder . well maybe not murder but she is a softy . at any rate my step dad was way stricter on me then my mom and well i hate to admit it but i have more respect for him then for her now . and i gave him a hard time when i was a teen . but now much respect . IF YOU HAVE TO BE THE PARENT THEN BE THE PARENT . the kid loves you . and they need structure in there life even if the kid resists at first . you will be the hero latter .

Answer 8

None of my children have ever told me that they love their dad more than me, and if they did, I would be okay because I love him too.

They love their dad even though he is definitely the more stricter parent!

Answer 9

When I was with my ex, I was stricter than he was, even his nieces and nephews knew to listen to me. But at the same time, they would always ask to come over, they would always want to be with me. Why? Because they knew I wasn't going to tolerate them running wild in my home, but if they behaved themselves then our house can be a very fun place to be. Same thing happens with my best friends kids.

Now, my current boyfriend and I are both cover that role. Of course, I'm mommy, so my little boy will run to me even if I'm the one who just punished him. I can get him to stop doing what he's doing with a stare. But my boyfriend can get him to stop in his tracks with just his voice. (I can, too, if I try to put a lil base in my voice, lol). But he doesn't fear us unnaturally, he doesn't shy away from either of us.)

Answer 10

There are a lot of strict fathers and moms who really spoil their kids.
Try to remember that your kid is going to favor the parent that lets them get away with the most. Kids need rules though, I don't need to tell you that.